I'm looking for my daughter I gave up for adoption-birthday-Dec. 12 1987-her name-Kennedy Taylor ? Tulsa, Ok.

Question

My name is Dona, and I am looking for my daughter, Kennedy Taylor ?, born Dec. 12, 1987 in Tulsa, Oklahoma. I am your birth mother. Please contact me, I just want to meet you. No expectations and no pressure.

Answer 1

First I want to be supportive and say good luck.

Second. Why? After all these years why now? I was adopted and my birth mother came looking for me and honestly I didnt know if i wanted to meet her. I heard the story of y she gave me up and all but I mean I was happy where I was.

Just before you do anything think of her. What she may think. Put her needs before your wants.

Again, good luck.

There is nothing more important than a mothers love. I know you love her more than anything.

Answer 2

Check out this site for OK adoption search and reunion laws.

http://laws.adoption.com/statutes/oklaho...

OK has a confidential intermediary program that you are eligible to use.  There is ususally a fee involved.  The site above has contact info for this.

I checked her birthdate against a couple popular registries and did not get any hits.

Good luck in your search.

I just read Conrad's post below and want to say that while this is the feeling of some adoptee's, it is not the feeling of all.  I have been a search angel for a long time and work on hundreds of searches a year.  I will say that I am very fortunate and all reunions I have worked on have ended on a positive note.  While I know that this is not always the case, all you need to do to determine whether you should search or not is to enter the term, "adoption search and reunion" into any search engine.  You will have over a million hits on the topic. There are hundreds of reunion registries on the internet, each state has offices and registries to handle the large influx of requests for information from all parties of the triad.  Some agencies have a back log of 2-3 years for requesting non-id.

People who search, whether the birth parent, the adoptee, or a sibling, know that there is a possibility of rejection.  It has also not gone unnoticed in this community that it is more common for females to search.

Answer 3

well good luck with that ..try people finder .com but what if she dont want to find u? what if she doesnt know she is adopted? she would be 20-21 now right? well check where u left her

Answer 4

This is a difficult subject for me.  I am also adopted.

Why are you looking for her?  Is it for you or for her?   Have you considered the impact of your contact on her?  I almost guarantee it will be negative and harmful.

I understand that you let her go at birth because you felt that it was in HER best interest.  In almost all cases, it is.  She got her best start at life.  I am thankful for MY start at life everyday.  Why do you now want to interfere?

I have always managed my adoption better than my sister (not biological) has.  It has been the major stumbling block in her life.  I could not imagine the negative impact that her biological mother would have....on her, and my adoptive mother.  ...What about them?

If you love her, if you want what's best, then wait 'till she is 40+ to contact her...or never at all.  

My advice is to leave her alone!  Let her live her life!

Unfortunately, I don't believe that you will take my advice, but for her sake, you should.  I don't think that you understand the emotional implications of your search, but I really hope you do.

You made the right decision once.  Make the right decision now.  

...sorry.

Answer 5

To poster Conrad:  Your response is eloquent, thoughtful, thought provoking, and insightful.  You must have true character and strength.  I am sure it must be a combination of -- nature, nurture, AND the uniqueness that is you!  I was especially moved by:  You made the right decision once.  Make it again.  Wow.......advice from the heart.

Answer 6

Good luck to you on your search.  Try creating a profile at: http://registry.adoption.com/

To poster Conrad: to each his own, huh?  How can you speak in such a manner when you do not know the events leading up to this.  You act as though you know this woman's heart...or even her child's.  Truth is if the child wants to find the biological mother it is her right, this woman is not forcing the child to look her up, she is merely putting herself out there to be found which is a brave thing to do.