I'm mad right now what should I do?

Question

My father is mad at my mom because she co-signed for a car for my brother ,my brother is working hard for his family and my mom wanted to help him out because he has 4 kids to take care of.The problem is, is that my mom doesn't have that much money and that's why my father is mad that she co-signed.My parents aren't married,and I don't have a close relationship with my father.My brother isn't his son,and this is just driving me crazy I wish my mother hadn't co-signed she knows how my father is and I hate it when he gets angry.We all live together and this is just making me depressed.I'm 15 btw.

Answer 1

I think that your dad is mad that she did the car for him and it isint you getting the car maybe! Your father may feel that it is a little to do with favortism.  

Answer 2

If your father is that upset it must be because he doesn't feel your brother is trustworthy enough to keep up with the car payment maybe. Co-signing for an auto loan is a way for someone with good credit to help out someone with bad/no credit get a loan. If your brother makes all the payments it will never cost your mother a dime except for a hit on her credit. The risk is that if your brother defaults on the loan, the bank will expect your mother to pay it. This is probably what is worrying your father the most unless it is just a personal issue. As a younger sister all you can probably do is try to play the peacekeeper in the situation. Keep reminding your brother about the risk your mother took for him and how much it will cost her if he misses a payment, and try to convice your father to have some faith in your brother. As long as your brother covers the payment it will all blow over and your father may actually gain some respect for your brothers ability to support his family.  

Answer 3

Sweetie no worries.  Your parents are going to have disagreements.  I know it seems like the end of the world when they are fighting, but understand that they will stop.  Instead of feeding the fire of anger by getting angry at them for being angry... try to just be optimistic and listen to each side (if they are babbling around the house about the situation).  They both sound like great parents to me.  Kudos for helping your brother, but understand that this is most likely not the first time your mom has helped them, that could be why your dad is angry.  Your brother has a family to take care of just like your dad took care of you.  Your dad I'm sure needs your  brother to step up and start being responsible without asking for everyone's assistance.  Hope that made sense.  Keep smiling!

Answer 4

you should stay out of it i understand how u feel your dad shouldn't be mad in fact he should stay out of it to. Especially if its not his son I'm sure that if it was the other way around he would expect your mom to be understanding. Besides no one wants to hear anything negative when it comes to helping their children out. Just chill cause hopefully your mom would handle this and let your father know that he's wrong.

Answer 5

i went thru the same situation, basically what can you do?? just let them work through it. your not the one paying the bills, or working for the house. just leave it. as much as you want to help theres really nothing you can do, and just getting involved will make it worse.