I'm married, have a family, but feel awful about my self. also do not have any friends, I can't make them.?

Question

I try to make friends and I can't. I don't know what is wrong with me. I think I am friendly, what could be turning people away from me? Please help.

Answer 1

You say you are married, you don't use the word happily. In a happy marriage friends are nice to have, but not 100% necessary. If anyone wishes to be friends with you it will happen. I am a widower, I am on my own, if people wish to speak to me I'm ready to speak to them. I have lived here since 1979, I only know the name of one of my next door neighbors, but I am happy with that, I have my family but they are all married with families, I don't see a lot of them, but I know that we are all there for each other.  I am open enough to have a joke with a passing stranger, but I don't wish to go for a drink with them, but that is me.  Are there any social clubs you and your man can go to, if you go out among other people it is almost certain that you will meet others like yourself who wish to make friends of others, try it.

Answer 2

I really can't tell without talking to you. Have you tried counseling? Maybe you have low self esteem. Counseling will help.  

Answer 3

Why do you think you cant have friends? we can always make friends everywhere .if you think you are friendly so theres  no way for you not to have friends. don't worry time will come that once they know you they will be the one to approach you.  

Answer 4

Practice morning walk and try to discuss petty matters with persons around you. After a week or so offer them cup of tea at any tea stall. After a month or so invite them to your house and offer them tea and snacks. Trust this will help you to have friends. But slowly slowly catch the monkey.

Answer 5

Maybe your trying to be friends with the wrong kinda of ppl.. what about family friends, work friends.. Just be yourself around people and if they cant accept u for who u r then theres no point in even being friends with them! Its hard to know what could b turning people away from u as i dont know you. Maybe its the way u approach people, ur efforts in meeting up, staying in touch, keeping the friendship going? maybe those may contribute.. im not sure.. try fixing those areas if they are a problem and just b urself and make the time to meet up and stay in touch but dont b overly nice, it gets annoying lol