I'm married but i don't know how to let go!.?

Question

I been with my husband for 6years and been married 2yrs. we had broken up last year do to trust and when we got drunk we both use to get physical. well i meat another guy and he meat another woman. well to get to the point. We bump in to each other in down town and hook't up. We been together ever sence then. we been traying to make it work but 2 weeks ago we whent at it again he was drunk i was mad and he said to mush and push me around like he use to. I don't want to go back the sameway like we use to be. i got back with him to make it better. I changed my ways and stopt drinking but he hasen't changed i bit. What should a married woman do about this?

Answer 1

does this happen when there's alcohol involved?

my suggestion is sitting down and talking about when both of you are sober. let him know that you want to work it out and it would mean a lot to you if he would cut down on the drinking and getting so pushy.  

Answer 2

pray. and have him get some help with hi drinking. explain to him that you are not willing to to be in a relationship that is not safe. and and he needs to stop drinking so it can be safe. maybe even go to group therapy together. good luck.

Answer 3

he has to want to change, and may only be able to do it with therapy.but until he changes, u need to get away from him, if he is drinking and abusing u.

Answer 4

Leave the jerk!  Nobody deserves to be treated that way.  It sounds like you are able to admit that you were at fault sometimes too, but you are trying to better yourself.  He will only bring you down and possibly really hurt you.  If he isn't willing to work on the relationship it will continue to be toxic.

Answer 5

Sounds like you are getting your self together, mentally, and you need to let him do the same. Stay away from bad news and you should probably get a divorce as well. That way when someone that values you and you them come along, you are free to be with them. So far, you and hubby have been doing things wrongly...too many wrongs will never make a right. Good luck with common sense.  

Answer 6

He had his chance to change but didn't.  Good for you that you stopped drinking.  That is the last thing you need to do is be around someone who has a drinking problem.  I think it is time for a divorce.

Linda

Answer 7

I don't think either of you should be married. To anyone.

Consider going to college please.

Answer 8

This relationship souns toxic.  I once dated a person whom I love to this day..I often think of him still....we had many good times together and great s*x.  The problem: we brought out the WORST in each other...thats right...the WORST.  He was very abusive....funny how abuse gets  a hold on us...

RUN!!!  You dont need him.