I'm married for 8 years now w/4 kiddos, ?

Question

i'm a regular housewife and now that my baby is 3 should i go to school or find a job. we have 3 kids in school and i think i'm afraid of change. can someone give me some advice

Answer 1

Well you could do volunteer work so you can keep your schedule the way you want it. everyone assumes you want to go back to work or school, maybe you don't. What does your husband think about it?

At our house my wife can do what she wants. Work, school or neither.

It's up to her.

Don't get yourself boxed in to others ideas or standards.

Good luck.

Answer 2

It is definitely that point in life when you need to be thinking about what you want your future to be like.  Each year your kids are going to need you less and less.  I know that sounds bad, but that is what happens when you are successful in being a parent.  You need to think about where you see yourself 10 years down the line and what you think will make you happy then and start planning now.  Your kids still need you now so you got some time but by thinking about it and planning now it can make the transition easier.

Answer 3

if you are financially o.k., i would def. go back to school.. I would love to go back myself

Answer 4

Do whatever you love as much as you can.  Don't work to get any more than what you need.  

I travel all over India and see lots of people who stay with their kids even though they live in a cardboard box, they eat rice and water, and they own 2 pots and 1 chair.

Answer 5

Getting a job might give you a sense of purpose and fulfill your need to be seen as a woman separate from wife and mother and especially "regular housewife".  It may be good for you.  Couldn't hurt in trying.  You might be well suited as a nursing assistant or daycare worker.

Answer 6

well if you are afraid of change, the best thing to do is to ease on into change. instead of leaving the house and relying on babysitter to watch everything and worrying you can go to college online and have a babysitter come and watch the kids while you are working on school work and if there is a problem she can't handle you will be right there.

Answer 7

As a woman i'm telling you that you should go to school for yourself and to better the lives of your children dont be scared and afraid of change fear will lead you to a life of oppression and depression go for it girl!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 8

I am in the same situation as you except my baby is 9 weeks old.  I'm struggling w/the same decision but I decided to try to place ads for cleaning or home care help for the elderly so I can bring the baby w/me.  I'd love to go back to school but I think that'll have to wait until the baby is in school, if I don't have another.  lol

Answer 9

Take things one day at a time. Register for online classes. Take a few at the school. You need to have something for yourself just as much as your kids may need you. Live your best life. Don't look back in 10 years and say I wish I would have. Do it now.

You can't be that afraid of change. Each child brings change and new beginnings.

Answer 10

You never know what life has to offer you.  I would go back to school or find a job if I were you due to the fact that what if something happened to your husband.  You will feel so much better about yourself.  You will be able to converse with others outside of the home.  That could be the best thing to do for you.  I had to learn that the hard way.  My ex husband kicked me out of our home with our two year old son and I was a housewife.  It wasn't easy at all I had to start from welfare and work myself up.  I have a decent job now and am remarried to a better guy however I would never ever depend on a man any longer.

Answer 11

  Its better to plan out what you want to do and how to achieve it.  I know this sounds like the same thing you heard when you were younger.  When we have children its a must to plan.  What are you trying to go to school for?  How long will it take to get a degree?  Who will watch the 3 year old and pick up the other children from school, if you decide to go to a school.  I would say look into online classes and see if they are credible.  Believe me with change comes more responsibility.  are you ready for a bigger load. Ex.  Cooking, cleaning, laundry, helping kids with their homework, doing your homework, satisfying your husband and more.  I'm not saying don't do it, you have to better yourself in order to better your children.  You should talk it over your husband when you decide what you want to do.  Ask him if he would help share some of the load if you do decide to go back to school, It would help you out alot.  Good Luck

Answer 12

Change is gratifying and brings in more $$$$$$$$