I'm named after my mom AND grandma- is it rude to break the tradition with my kids?

Question

I'm way too young to be having a baby or anything, but I have the same first and middle name as my mom and grandma (Katrina Renee) and they expect me to name my first girl that name but I just HATE the name, both parts, and I was wondering if you all thought I would have to follow tradition and name my first kid that or if there's some way you think I could get out of it without insulting them. I have time of course, I'm just a kid, just wondering what you all think.

Answer 1

It's not rude at all. It would be good of  you to forwarn them however.

Answer 2

You shouldn't have too follow this tradition, its your kids not theirs. Name them what you want. If you feel you have to then only use one of the names as a middle name, but if you feel so strong about them then don't use the names. Tell your mom and grandma gently when the time comes that you don't want to name your kid the same and they should understand, if not then do what you want anyway, atleast you tried.

Answer 3

No. It'll be your baby. You can name it whatever you like.

Answer 4

Yes.

Answer 5

If you do not like the name, you do not have to use it. Period. I hope your family will understand, but if they don't at first, they'll get over it in time.

My grandmother, mother, and I all share a middle name. If I have a girl, I will not give it to her because my crazy sister in law is named it and I am 100% certain she'll tell everyone the baby is named after her. No way in h**l would I name my child after her.  

Answer 6

Lord, no! It's your own baby, and you can name it whatever you like. I'm too young to have a baby also, and I love the name Jillian. My mom, sister, and friends all hate it, but if i have a girl someday, thats what i will name her.

Answer 7

u don't owe anything to anybody! remember that

Answer 8

If you don't like it, don't use it. It will be your baby, you can name it whatever you want. Maybe you can use the initials K R?

Answer 9

you shouldnt have to!, its gonna be ur baby.

but you will probably change your mind as you get older, or maybe name them after someone else u respect.

<by the way i like that name>

Answer 10

no its your baby, you can name it what you want

its long till i have kids but names already been discused and descided on, so when the well ment sugestions comes from x number of family i'll be able to tell them "sorry, but we already picked a name"

also what you can already now do to get them off your back is point out "mom grandma, i love you, however when i have a kid its not just my kid, there will be a dad in the picture, and we will have to discuss naming the kid, what if they have traditions as well, its not as simple as just desciding on it, besides 2 generations are hardly a tradition akin to last name, and lastly for all you know i'll have a boy not a girl. So please stop naging about this now, this is not something I intend to take a descision on now when i aint even married yet."

Answer 11

I would name my child whatever i wanted to and they would just have to deal with it. Maybe you could try to find a way to include the name in a new name though...maybe Kareena or Karenee (Karen-ee)?? OR you could just make Katrina Renee the middle names.

Answer 12

they put you in a tough situation... but as others said it's YOUR child and therefore YOUR choice to name her whatever you want

Answer 13

What could you possibly have against those two names? Katrina and Renee? They're both beautiful. How about using them for middle names of your future daughters, and coming up with some classy first names yourself?

Answer 14

No, it'll be your kid. Name it what you want. However, if you're gonna feel "bad" about breaking tradition, maybe,(if you're lucky enough), if you wind up having 2 girls, You can use Katrina for the middle name for 1, and Renee as the middle name for the other.

----------- Katrina

----------- Renee

Answer 15

I don't think its a terrible name, but you should name your child whatever you want. It would be wrong to name your child a name you hate. Maybe use part of the name or carry on another tradition in the name.  

Answer 16

No.

I get frustrated when I see people on her naming their babies names that are awkward simply to keep the family names.

I was named after a family member, and I hate my name.

People assume that just because its a family name its perfect. NO!

Some traditions need to do.

In my family, its a long tradition that if you have a baby girl, her middle name is her maternal grandmother's first name.

My middle name is Elizabeth, which is nice.

My mother's name is Susan. And as much as I love my mother, and think the idea of honoring my mother is touching, Susan just isn't a good middle name.

So, I'll find a better way to honor my mother than to stick my daughter with her awkward middle name.

KWIM?

Answer 17

You could present the idea in a respectful manner.  I would wait and not bring up the idea until you are pregnant with a girl.  perhaps have a few names picked out when you do bring  it up.  I do think your name is very beautiful.

Answer 18

Maybe you will get lucky and have all boys.......but if you do have a girl then just pick one of those as the middle name. If they say anything you could just say you dont want your kid to have the same name as you. My mothers name is Christine and I got pressured by them to name my son Christopher. Hes almost 4 now and I wish I hadnt done that.

Answer 19

If you really don't like those names then you shouldn't have to name your daughter that! Maybe you could use one of the names as a middle name so that you aren't completely breaking the tradition...that way you get to choose the first name that you like :)

Answer 20

No

Answer 21

it is not wrong at all.if you do not like the name they should understand..if they don't then they need to grow up..that is one of the best things about being pregnant is naming your child anything you want..i would just tell them when the time comes you would like to give your child her own special name and you will appreciate their respecting the choice

Answer 22

No I don't think that you "have" to name your future child what they tell you. It's completely up to you. You may find later in life that you want to honor someone else, or have another part of a name you want to use. Don't do something because someone told you to.

Answer 23

of corse not! after all it is your baby, not theirs. but you could find a different form of Katrina or Renee that you like.