I'm nearing my due date, please help?

Question

I'm pregnant and my due date is on the 22nd. I know this might sound weird, but I'm really dreading it! I am afraid of everything that has to happen before i have my baby. I have a low tolerance for pain, so having contractions seems really scary. Also, my mother insists on a natural birth, so there's more pain! I've seen some birthing videos, and they make it seem so simple. I am also afraid of complications, or anything bad happening to my baby. I'm terrified! I'm also a bit young to be having a baby. My mother has been really supportive and all, but i need someone else to get advice and support from. is there anyone out there who has had a baby, or who is having a baby, that can give me reassuring advice? Thanks a million in advance!

Answer 1

I think its normal to get scared near the end of your pregnancy, but just pray for the best. I was just 18 when I had my son, and I wasn't the type who could take pain either. So everyone was surprised when I had a natural birth. It actually wasn't so bad. I sat around the house not even knowing I was in labor. I thought I was just cramping or something until the contractions got really intense. When I got to the hospital, I had already dilated the full 10 cm. They told me it was too late too get any drugs. The worst part was the contractions and crowning. Once the head was out, they pulled him out. And it was such a relief. Then came the joy and the tears from seeing my healthy baby boy. But then again I hear some people say that there was no way they could have gone without drugs. So if you need them, take them...that's what they were made for. And just pray that everything goes right. Good luck!  

Answer 2

No matter what your age is, this is YOUR labour and delivery....Not your mom's.  The nursing staff and your doctor won't care what your mom thinks you should do.  They are there to support you and do as you ask them.  Please don't be afraid to ask them for drugs or an epidural.  

I have 2 kids, age 6 and 8 weeks.  Yes labour hurts, but you honestly forget the pain once you hold your baby.  Its such a short period of time, try to rest as much as you can during the labour, especially if you get the epidural, so you will have the strength to push.  Make sure you have someone with you who will be supportive of you, whether its the dad or a friend or family member.  

Best of luck, you will get through it, i promise :)

Answer 3

aww hunny i think everyone is worried before they give birth. i knew i was. my daughter is 4 months old and i am 19 so i am young also. your mother is not the one giving birth so if you want an epidural there is no problem with that. it may be a good thing your expecting the worse because if things become easy your gonna be relieved. i expected the worse when my daughter came home, fussy baby, always awake, didnt sleep through the night but im blessed to have the best baby i could ever ask for. of course she cries and is fussy sometimes but once i figure out what she wants shes just a doll. its good your mother is so supportive! it will help you so much trust me. my mom lives in va and i live in tn and she supported me over the phone. she did come to tn when i gave birth (i had a c-section though). congrats on your new baby that will be coming soon. and i hope all goes well. but you being so worried will not end after the baby comes the real worrying will begin :)  

Answer 4

yea it will all be fine you forget all about the pain one you have your baby and the only part that hurts really bad is crowning when the v****a is strehed out

breech birth natural

Answer 5

You will do fine. When i was pregnant with my son (he is an only child) i had the worst pregnancy with pre-eclampsia, throwing up non stop plus he was breech so that meant a c-section. I was so glad that i had him when i did which was at 35 weeks. He was healthy. Yea it hurts but it wont last forever.

Answer 6

I was the exact same way. I would cry when I would get my period. I needed too have pain killers for everything. I went into labor ,and my family didn't think I was in "real labor" because I handled it well. 7 hrs later I gave birth too a beautiful baby boy. I am not going too sugar coat it for you, it does hurt...u will be in pain...But your body will know exactly what too do. And once the baby comes out...all I can say is RELIEF u will know what I mean when the time comes. I was terrified!!! My mom was right by my side guiding me through what too do. You will do fine girlie. Good luck. I hope everything goes well.

Answer 7

First of all, remember if childbirth were that horrible, millions of women wouldn't do it more than once. There are tons of women out there who have done it many times in their lives. It will be fine. Also, since you think you are going to have to natural, the MOST IMPORTANT THING is to relax. Screaming and stressing out will only make the labor take twice as long. Try to find a way to detach yourself from the situation. Some people look at a spot and focus on it. Personally, I closed my eyes and imagined I was someplace else and this was not happening. LOL

   As for your mother not wanting you to use anything for the pain, remember this is YOUR body and YOUR birth experience. You may need to stand up to your mom and tell her you are going to get pain medication for the birth if it gets too bad. She won't like it but you have to do what you need to do for yourself. As for complications due to being young. Don't worry. I was in on a birth by a 14 year old and there was no increased risk of complications. Also, if there are complications you would get a c-section which means you would have the pain medications you want.(your mother can't say anything about it either)  It really isn't that bad. You can do it and I know you will be fine.

EDIT: postpartum depression is not labeled as hereditary but I would watch for it just in case. (The studies on this subject are very few and often not well done) Seriously, being scared and allowing that fear to take you over is going to make the labor last longer. Take every minute as it comes. Don't look too far into the future, just manage what you are dealing with right now.

Answer 8

Well I just had a baby 3 1/2 months ago! Yes there is pain...but really you just have to be calm about the whole situation. I'm only 21, and i was terrified as well, breathing techniques really helped in the beginning. The pain was very intense, so i had to get an epidural. The decision about the pain, should be up to you! Not your mother...but i would recommend the epidural, i had normal delivery and everything went well! Good luck!

Answer 9

First if you want meds you get them!!

Labor is hard that is why it is called labor and not a cake walk. So just know that every thing will go ok you will forget it all two seconds after the baby is out and you will have this perfect little one.

Answer 10

i had my son right before i turned 17.i had my labor induced on st patricks day.once the pains got bad i got the epiderul.it really helped.i didnt feel anypain atall.they put it in a drip so i wouldnt run out.get the epidural.trust me your gonna want it.my original plan was without it.its really not bad if you get it.the contarations star to feel like really bad cramps

Answer 11

I think you will do just fine going natural.  Doing so creates less problems and will result in a faster labor for the most part.  I had an epidural with my first two and regret that I did.  I am a few weeks away from baby #3 and will be doing it all natural.  The contractions I had were pretty bad but I never got the epidural for them, I just got it cause I was scared to push the baby out.  I've heard a lot of people say that once it's time to push you are in less pain?  I guess I will see if that is true or not.  Good luck to you on whatever you decide to do!

Answer 12

Who cares what your mom says?  It's your body!  If you need pain medication, use it.  I'm way nervous too, and I appreciate the support my husband and family give me, but they don't know what I'm going through.  So if I need something to help me and my baby, I don't care about what others say.

Answer 13

I just had a baby on June 24th. I was just as scared, if not more scared, than you. I went in there thinking I was going to have an epidural, and everything was going to go smoothly and quickly. I ended up being in labor for almost 20 hours, and wasn't able to have an epidural or pain medication due to a bleeding disorder. I can't lie to you and say that natural childbirth isn't hard... it's painful. But it's WELL worth it. The minute you see that little miracle, all that pain just goes away. It's like it never happened. It may be rough, but just hang in there! I pray everything will go okay!

Answer 14

idk how old u are but im 19 and just had my baby boy and my mother to said i needed a natural birt LOL yeah right as soon as they broke my water i said ok so were is my epedurl lol my mom wasnt there she couldnt stop me  

Answer 15

If you were old enough to get pregnant, you're old enough to take control of your own birth plan. Talk to your doctor by yourself at your next office visit and tell her your concerns and fears. Then set up a plan.

Tell your mom that you love her and appreciate all her support but that you and the doctor have created a birth plan, which might include drugs if the pain becomes bad.

Chances are that when you give birth everything will work out just fine with no complications. I'm not going to lie and say that there is no pain at all when you give birth but it is not unbearable. Just keep in mind that labor will be over in a few hours and you will have a beautiful, healthy baby.

Congratulations and good luck.

Answer 16

I pushed out twins sweetie....if i can do that you will be fine remember it's 1 day and you will be so busy and so excited to see that little baby you won't even care!!  and Your mom is not the one having that baby YOU ARE if you want the drugs GET THEM please don't do it natural JUST because your MOM wants you too it's your body YOUR baby and if you want an epidural GET IT!!!!  Good luck sweetie and congrats on your wee one your gonna be a great mommy!!