I'm not a parent but

Question

If a parent was a closet racist or not entirely opened to someone's culture, what would they do if their kid had a relationship/marriage outside of their race. Also, would they put aside their differences & love their grandchildren. Or would they just pretend to be happy so know one knows they're prejudice? Thanks!!!!

Answer 1

i do not give a c**p about peoples race as long as theyre human i treat them /like them evenly

Answer 2

Wow, I've experienced that firsthand. Well, my dad is like racist and all, right. See, my brother's first wife divorced him, then he married a woman who turned into a lezbo and divorced him, then he married this black chick. When we attended the wedding, there were like 100 black people and like 7 caucasion. Nah, prob like 12 or so. Idk. Anyway, most hard core racists feel free to talk about that race behind their back, but the racist person seems to behave totally civilized around people in times of events and stuff. Like I mean if your really racist and your waitress is that race you hate, you don't do anything except maybe say c**p under your breath, but I mean, you still tip her and say thank you and all, you just don't mean it sincere or nothing. I mean, racists are still human beings, just like us. They're not like orcs or anything. They can be civilized if they try.

Well that's my (best) answer to your question. Oh, and I think this one black woman at the wedding, the black-chick-bride's mom, I think she was quite racist. She just looked us down real funny-like. Oh well.

Hope this answers your question and solved your curiosity. (:Smiles:)

Answer 3

WTF!

Answer 4

It depends, they might hate you, they might put their feelings aside, it really depends on how understanding and caring this person is.

Answer 5

well i did have that and they do put aside their problems and dont' say nthing i was very impressed by this and happy take care.

Answer 6

They'll eventually learn to accept the decision.  

Answer 7

my friend had a mom that was like that and yes the would pretend to be happy for u and then they would complain about it when they are gone

hope this helps

Answer 8

d**n..

thats a hard one.

well knowin myself.. i prly wudnt accept it if my child got with someone outside of my race or religion.

Answer 9

Well, it depends on how strong their bias is.  Every person is different.  If their love for their child cannot be outweighed by their prejudices, then they might not be able to forgive and forget.  

My stepgrandfather is racist (born and raised in Germany way back when), and I'm fairly sure that he would never forgive me.  Frankly, I couldn't care less about his opinion in the matter so it doesn't really bother me either way.  He's the type who would let it be known that he didn't approve of the situation.  He would never be able to keep his mouth shut.

There's a reason I don't bring boyfriends over to meet gramps

Answer 10

I don't believe there is any one answer. Some would disown their kids (and I have seen that before), some would deal with it upset (and seize the moment to destroy the relationship at the first sign of problems), and other would have a change of heart.  

Answer 11

I have experience in this  BIG TIME!

My personal advice, even if you DO love that person....and marry them, as I did(I was in my 30's too!)

DON'T....it will not change the family......honest to God!

and if the marriage doesn't last....you end up with ''I told you so''

or they never will treat you the same.

NO!  it will not end well, for you because we think we can change people, that is not at all POSSIBLE!!! they only care about their ideas.

I know you may hate my answer....but I would hate you to find out the very very hard way.

Answer 12

depends on...but they should accept a new people from different races

Answer 13

it depends on the person. some can adjust to something they may not necessarily believe in and do the right thing. and others are so in their ways that it doesnt matter who you are.  my personal experience was my step grandma and grandpa where racist and their favorite granddaughter married a man of another color. but they love him now and the kids.  

Answer 14

It is sad to say, but some people would cut off communication with that child. The grandchildren are also out of luck. Their hatred for a race/culture may be stronger than their love for any offspring. Then there are those who are the opposite and their love for their offspring is stronger than their hate. They do pretend to be happy, but the child knows the truth, he/she was raised by this person. Hopefully for the sake of the family, differences can be put aside. Good luck.

Answer 15

It really depends on the parents and what kind of people they were. Some parents are still really traditional and would let them know others might accept it and still others might hide it. It all depends and the people.

Answer 16

it just depends on the situation.

Answer 17

there are many different answers it just depends on the situation

Answer 18

Relax, much ado is made of next to nothing. We are all a bit suspicious of strangers- If they are a good person, set your fears aside. Unless your a cross burner I wouldn't worry. Reservations are natural. Listen, most of us ain't that different. Its' when any group demands special privileges that my hackles rise up.

Answer 19

Racist thinking is genetic. thats why there are still pasty white people and super dark black people. both are beautiful and both are proud be what they are. I love black people ( the world wouldnt be as cool without them) but Im a blond blue eyed white guy and I want my kids to keep it white so we can keep on being white. If I where black I'd keep it black.  

Answer 20

if they are truelly happy for there son/ daughter to get married to there love , they will understand. but if they dont put tht aside then i guess they wont be apart of the family tht you will visit.

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