I'm not a very social person I don't have lots of friends i need to be more social but how ?

Question

CAN U guys pleeeeeeeeeeez answer my jbroz question(A)

Answer 1

Well you can't be afraid to say something just because you think your going to get a negative answer. You shouldn't care what others think about you, even if it seems your the one who's being stared at or being talked about. Just like yourself, act like you would around people you are comforatable with. It be hard but start off by finding common intrests and asking small questions. You can't be everybody's friend because some people arn't really healthy to hang out with but I bet you already know that. Carry on a conversation, laugh at other peoples jokes, don't try to be someone else, look people in the eyes when you talk because people like confidence and they can tell when your a timid person. Get infront of a mirror and practice walking with the your strait up and to the point that your confident and people can see it. s***w what others think, they should be coming to you because of your personality and karisma. Don't be afraid talk alot, laugh alot, smile and stand up for yourself or others. Being afraid to do something is worse then doing something at all, don't be afraid to make mistakes, your as good as you think you are and as talented. Think of the positive things in life and have fun being you. You can be great at something but if you don't have the right attitude and confidence it's useless. You'll see, join sports, keep your head up, make small talk like asking for a pencil in class.Yeah, just be yourself, don't be afraid to act stupid in front of your friends if they're cool they'll love you.

Answer 2

find a support group for people who are shy, introverted, social-anxiety riddled, or whatever it is that makes a person avoid social situations.  that way you can put yourself into a social situation, and get a little peer counseling (sort-of) at the same time.  it won't happen overnight, but if you really try, it will happen before too long.  you might also try learning a new hobby, and take classes for it.  that gives you social activities as well as at-home or solo activities.  maybe you will find that you really are a social person, you just haven't found anybody interesting enough to want to be social so far....  it's a possibility.

:)

Answer 3

do you need LOTS of friends?  quality is more important than quantity. as for being more outgoing, try to not obsess about what people think about you or are saying about you.  learn to have a simple conversation in which you ask questions to get to know people and their interests as well as talking about your own life.  A lot of why people are terrified of talking to others because they're afraid of being rejected or judged badly.  However, it's only thru communication that we can make ourselves known to others and get to know others.  It gets easier with time and practice.

Answer 4

Like NIKE say - "Just Do It!"

That isn't very helpful on its own but in short that is the answer.

Try talking to people a bit more - don't worry if you feel out of place - just try and act more confident and go for it.

If you are doing this in a social envirmonment where people know you already then you may need to start off a bit more cautiously - if you suddenly start acting like the light and soul of the party then you might come over as a little over the top - it is for you to judge the best way to handle this.

Most people are pretty welcoming - even if you find that not everyone will eventually be your friend, most of them will talk to you and pass the time of day.

One last thing - sometimes friends are overrated, they ask you for stuff and they want to share problems with you and they expect you to socialise with them... too many friends can be a curse as much as a blessing.

Good Luck

Answer 5

Just try to make conversations with people, it may seem weird sometimes but even if you say something stupid it's not like they'll think you are. Just make lots friends. Treat everyone as if they are your friend.

Answer 6

I'd ask this question, and i have before to my family.  . . and you get all those rosy sunshine answers of being more open and just going out and trying new things.

i got half way down the hall towards the club area of my new school and turned right around.  people dont know what it's like to feel totally on the outside and give advice that is basically useless.

so wednesday I'm going to walk back down that same hall and hopefully make it 2 steps closer then last time.  i picked out clubs i'd enjoy, but i'm too scared to go in their club rooms. so my advice to you? baby steps, do one thing tomorrow that you wouldnt do. i'd always keep my head down and look at the ground when passing people.  now i look up, and try at least once to smile while someone walks by.  i still dont like it, but it's my one thing i'm doing more and more.  so just pick one thing you wouldnt do and do it.  then once you got that down, pick another random thing to do. and so on and so forth.

it's not easy, i cried today over being so lonely.  . . but i just gotta get back up and follow my baby step.

Answer 7

Be patient and open. Don't push people away.

Answer 8

First realize and learn that YOU are important in this life. You have gifts and talents you need to share with others. Learn your own self worth, and be able to make great decisions that will bring good things into your life..You DO deserve the best in this life so work on your own self image and all other things will become much easier.  Get this personalized book for yourself and see it change your precepts...

I have one and there are some professional athletes also have their own.  YOu can get it at the site below and it will be worth your time to check it out.  You read a little each day until it sinks in that you are a special person and YOU deserve the best in life. It's all about knowing who you are and what you are worth...Get this book at the site below and fill out the first page, you can then see your own book... It's a great too to build your own self confidence. You can do it !!!

Answer 9

ummm....maybe u should get a friend who socializes with people and maybe talk to people more