I'm not in a relationship but I ?

Question

really enjoy having s*x (yes, I take care of my own needs too) but don't want a relationship because I'm not ready. Would a guy be flattered if I asked him to be my friend with benefit on a semi regular basis? How should I ask such a question?

Please don't make judgments and call nasty names stick to the question

Answer 1

i think you need to tread carefully, while many ppl say "yeah I'd do you" on here, its something very different to be faced with this in person.

Are you going to ask a friend that you already know? Are you going to ask a stranger? Are you going to do the deed then discuss things after or set the ground rules from start? Things to thing about.

Also if you do it with a friend, you may not be able to go back o the old friendship again

Answer 2

i dont see why you would want to sleep around:S theres many things you can catch but maybe just sleeping with one person isit that bad.. just ask most men are s*x craved and would love that. maybe just sleep with your bestfreinds thats a guy that way no one gets hurt:P..

Answer 3

oh ya... im friends with benefits with my ex and its fabulous :) just jokingly ask and then if they act interested tell them you're serious. they LOVE it.  

Answer 4

start by texting me ;]

Answer 5

I would think any guy would like that.  

Answer 6

any straight guy would be more than flattered  

Answer 7

Are you kidding! Thats every guys dream.

d**n I wish I knew you, haha.. Yea but just flirt with them and let them kno your down for it..

Hook up with guys at parties, they are always down, trust me..

Answer 8

do it! i assure that he won't say no! i can guarantee this! do it!

Answer 9

I'll be your friend

Answer 10

Plenty of guys would be your friend in a moments notice, though most you probably don't want since you don't want to catch anything.  It'll be easy to pick one but you just have to remember not to get attached to the guy if you want it to work.  There is more emotion for women than men when dealing with s*x so it's easy to lose site of what you're really doing.  To get the question out there it has to be someone you trust but don't have any real feelings for.  Since if you go asking random dudes you'll get a label real quick.

Oh and kudos for hiding the e-mail otherwise you would of had about 100 emails by now lol.

Answer 11

OK, even though I want to call you a s***k, I won't.

So, I'll answer your question instead of calling you a disgusting s***k.

Anyway, just ask him...point blank.  But be gentle about it.  Remember, if he thinks you go around asking a lot of guys this, he might be scared away, thinking you're a disgusting s***k who has diseases.

But also remember, he may not be ready to become the father of your child.  Can you guarantee him that you won't become pregnant?

Answer 12

Yeah a guy would be very flattered.

I think a guy would be flattered if you asked him to be a friend with benefits. Most men are looking for this type of relationship with a woman.

To ask someone would depend on the environment your in. Because you say you are not ready for a relationship, are you in school still? Highschool? College? How you should approach it is, first find a guy who is attracted to you (you catch him checking you out and eyeing you when he thinks you not looking). Let him take you on a date. On your date ask him what kinda relationship he's looking for.

I can almost guarentee you, that he will be over his head when you ask him to be your s*x friend.

Answer 13

A guy would be totally be flattered!

Keep in mind those kinds of relationships often lead to one person becoming more attached than the other, jealous, etc. I've learned this through personal experience.

Please be careful with your body, don't let any man force or coerce you to do anything you don't want to do and finally, get birth control and always, always use a condom.

Answer 14

It depends on the guy and who you ask.  There are some girls I know that if they were to ask me to be their friends with benefits partner I would vomit on the spot because they are disgusting.  Well I'm not saying that you are because I have never seen you but use your judgment as to whether the guy is attracted to you physically.  Emotionally doesn't matter because it's just not that kind of relationship.

Answer 15

For some girls it's just not that easy (I wish). I completely understand where you're coming from and I have been unsuccessful with this so far. I haven't wanted a relationship in the last couple of years. I just finished dealing with a guy who cut me off because I wanted to just hit it and quit it with him. Every time I'd talk about just doing it once and going our separate ways, he'd start talking about his feelings and how he wanted the option of doing it more than once. This tends to be my problem. I just happen to meet the guys who want this emotional thing with me and all I want to do is f**k. It's starting to get frustrating because I'm virgin, which also makes me picky as to who I want my first time with. Hope you have better luck.