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I'm not interested in adopting a child that is the same race as me...?

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  1. In my opinion, there is nothing wrong than that (unless, of course, you don't like your race, which i doubt...)


  2. yes.

    it's wrong to have a racial requirement for a child.  children are not responsible for their race...hence, should not be made to feel "picked and chosen" due to their race.  

    adoption is about the CHILD. not about the preferences/dreams of the potential adopitive parent.

    IMO...if a person has "racial/gender" preferences for adoption, i think they would be do well to visit their local SPCA!  that way, one can pick and choose until their little heart's content.

  3. Not necessarily. It would depend on several factors ;such as but not limited to: your reasons for not wanting a child of your smae ethnicity, the age of the child, how much cultural awareness/education you are willing to provide and how much the child need, etc.  Good luck to you!

  4. thats called reverse disrimination.

  5. Hahaha not at all. That's probably beneficial to the world because then whatever race you adopt will learn to love the race that you are.

  6. i'm not comfortable saying if it's right or wrong

    but here's some food for thought

    why are you not comfortable adopting the same race as you?

    * is it because you are ashamed of your own race? are there issues that need to be addressed there?

    * are you trying to 'prove' something by adopting another race? (for example: proving you are not racist etc)

    * are you doing it for attention

    * can you fully explain to yourself why you want to adopt and why a different race?

    * have you thought about how to support your potential adopted child in their race and culture?

    just some things to consider

    hope it's helpful

  7. Not at all, many families adopt different ethnics than what they are.

  8. No....but please be open minded to all kids. including your own race.

  9. I, me, myself, what *I* want...

    Ugh.

    Adoption isn't about YOU. It's about the CHILD. Get your head around that before you adopt ANY child. I see that you're new here. Please spend some time and read lots of questions and answers. Ask questions and learn. Take things to heart. And remember that adoption isn't about YOU.

  10. Two of my three kids are a different race then my wife and I.  The only exception is the daughter we gave birth to.  If that makes me wrong, I don't wanna be right.  

    Follow your heart and do what you want and what you can.  You can't go wrong that way.

  11. Why would it be wrong?  It really doesn't matter. If you were black, white, spanish.............Really doesn't matter. If you wanted the same race as you it still wouldn't matter.

  12. no its def. not wrong whats wrong its just that ur nationality is dif. and wat? theres no problem =]

  13. no you are just open minded thats all. i dont find it at all wrong

    :)

  14. Not at all, a child is a child regardless of race, what ever race of the child, im sure you will be a wonderful loving mother.

  15. You need to really look at the reasons why you feel that way.

    I wouldn't want to be adopted by you.

    cw

  16. Ofcourse not.  It shouldnt matter.  All children need love and a caring home no matter their race.  Good luck!

  17. well it's natural if you are black or mexican...just kidding.

    no it's your choice, you are a good person no matter the race age or whatnot....just do right by the kid!  and  you better not be doing it for the money

  18. I don't think it's wrong--  just remember that there are children of all races that need and deserve a loving home.  Don't feel guilty about it.  I don't think there's anything wrong, unless you have some deep, dark reason....

    :D

  19. First I would like to know why you want to adopt. After reading your answer to puppy love "Looking for my birth mom" (sorry don't know how to add the link) You were very hateful to her for wanting to find her birth mom. Quote " why don't  appreciate your real parents (the ones that RAISED YOU and didn't just give you away)

    If you are truly planning to adopt than you must be prepared that in the future he or she might want to find them. Is this why you don't want to tell the child they are adopted?

    In my opinion you are not ready to adopt a child

  20. why would it be wrong?

    now you just sound racist asking that question

    no it is not wrong

    never think that again

    your doing the right thing

  21. Not at all. That actually means you're willing to adopt children from other countries that have lost their parents or are starving or another really bad thing. I applaud you for that.

  22. Yeah, its totally wrong to take care of a child and give them a good home just because their a different race.....

    OF COURSE ITS NOT WRONG! ITS A GOOD THING!!!

  23. Well, look at your motivation for it. I guess in a country like China, where baby girls are often given away for adoption, then I could understand the motivation there to adopt from China. But if you think it would be 'cool' or 'trendy', imagining yourself to be some kind of Angelina Jolie saviour-type, then I think you really need to step back and ask yourself who are you doing this for - your own fragile ego or a child who needs a good home? I'm sure you can find the honest answer to this question.

  24. nope, its your own personal choice. who cares if anyone disagrees, youre not living your life for them.

  25. no you just want a different race it is totaly natural

  26. Why?

    I think the reasoning behind it will tell you in your heart whether it is right or wrong.

  27. I think by you not being interested in adopting the same race is you, you might be having some wrong motives.  What does race matter?  do you want people to know that it is not your biological child?  Why are you against adopting your same race?  Are you ashamed of your own race or feel pity for other races?  I think you need to re-examine your reasons to adopt in the first place. So, yes, I think it's wrong for you to be judgemental of your own race that you don't want to adopt the same race as yourself.

  28. We didn't look at race when our foster to adopt children moved into the house.  Out of the foster children that we have had we only had one that was the same race as us, but alass he went back home.  The one we are adopting isn't the same race as us either...doesn't mean I don't love him anymore than children I gave birth to.

  29. No, it's not wrong.  

    Transracial adoption has a lot of unique challenges.  Be sure you do your research so that you are able to meet those needs.  

    I recommend a couple of books: Inside Transracial Adoption and In Their Own Voices.

    Best of luck.

    (Edited because I mis-read the question the first time... oops...)

  30. you're just trying to be "cool" like Angie and Madonna

  31. No.  Why would it be wrong, you're just diversifying your family tree?
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