I'm not read for all this! help?!?

Question

I've just started sixth form, and i've been panicking about my future for a long time. i'm totally overwhelmed - i'm not sure what to do when i'm older, and i'm soon gonna have to start thinking about finding universities and what i'm going to do! - in some ways i'd want to do a gap year so i could decide and get more work experience etc etc, but my parents are saying, and i think i would agree, that it is best to go straight to uni whilst you've got the working mindset. but i don't know what would be best! and i'm probably gonna have to start learning to drive soon and get a job and everything - but i'm just not ready! i can't cope (i have depression, just to make it even harder), in my mind i feel like a kid, i don't feel old enough and ready enough to do all this! i'm terrified of the future, it scares me - i worry and fear the future to the point of giving up hope and getting suicidal thoughts.

please help. any advice? any reassurance?

i'm already getting professional help, but i haven't discussed this in depth - they do know that i worry though.

Answer 1

You need to talk in depth to your counsellor or group if you're in therapy.... you might want to consider talking to your school careers adviser and explaining how frightened you are of the future because you have no idea of where you're going or what you're doing .... perhaps you might be better off getting some form of work that will allow you to study as well - that way (although more hard than just being a student) you earn some money and are working towards a future career by studying .... try listing all the things you like, then shorten that list with all the ones you think are priorities .... then start looking for work/studies that have these things in them .... find out what careers could be available that might incorporate the things you like.... you'll do much better in something you want to do than struggling along with something you don't want to do.... speak with your parents and ask them to go with you .... I'm sure they'll be very supportive - it will also give them an opportunity to air their concerns and seek answers from someone they feel knows about things.....

Answer 2

oh god i know i know how you feel but i left it to the last minute i'm 18 and still dont know what to do. calm down it'll come to you in time, your only what? twelve or something like that? stop panicking enjoy life, you can still do childish things when your older oh hang in sixth form? woops lol your 17 or 18 lol sorry i thought you meant 6 grade. lol i'm not even american why did i think that? go to college and do a course that sound interesting. like a higher or something thats what i've done i'm doing higher english, higher sociology and higher psychology. just do something like that untill you come up with something. dont worry i feel like a kid too, i still like playing on the swings and stuff lol. ah who cares what other folk think? be immature if you want to be. its better that way who wants to grow up?

Answer 3

CONTINUE YOUR COUNSELING. YOU SHOULD'NT BE AFRAID OF LIFE BECAUSE TIME IS GOING TO MOVE ON WITH OR WITHOUT YOU.

Answer 4

Know how you feel, but you'll be ok, don't worry too much as you get older things will become clearer and you have a better idea of what you want to do.

Look after yourself :)

Answer 5

There comes a point in life when everyone feels the way you do. Doing a gap year isn't so great, I did it and lost all my "umph" to push while in college, and now I'm in college, but dreading it severly. I too suffer from depression and anxiety. Ask your parents for help finding a university, your school counselor will be willing to help too. Learning to drive is as easy as cake, don't fret over that. Just relax and take a breather. You'll do fine! You seem as though you've got plenty of "umph" as it is.

Answer 6

Aww, don't worry! I'm in my second year of 6th form... yep, final year of school (YIPPEE!!). You've only just started so all that uni choosing CAN WAIT. Don't jump straight into that just yet, at your school/college there should be some talks/help about universities and choosing them to help you with this. Anyway, get used to the subjects you're doing first; I have to say, A level work is much different to GCSE work, so if you're not ready to get a job and drive etc, you don't NEED to. It's your choice. As the school year progresses, I can assure you - the work will get easier. At the start of the year they deliberately set you a lot of work, so you can get adjusted, and make sure you can handle the work. (Sounds sadistic :P)

So don't worry! I can assure you - by Christmas time (if not, earlier) you will think differently about all this! ;)

(Also, advice - don't choose 5 A level subjects! Too much work! 4 will suffice!)

Answer 7

Why are you so worried? You don't have to know all the answers now or be focused on a particular career route at this stage. Many graduates fall into working roles and find a career path that they enjoy after their degree. In fact, I would say most of my graduate friends, as well as myself, didn't really know what they wanted to do after their degree.

I took a course at university that I knew I would enjoy, and therefore lead to a career I would enjoy even though I didn't have a set path to go down.

A gap year would be a good idea to think about what you want to do at university. You don't have to go travelling. You could work for a year or so in a role that you think you might enjoy to experience what it is like and at the same time save up some money as studying will be expensive.

I think it is more important to take the right course rather than rushing into something you are unsure about. You can do tests on-line to work out what sort of career you might enjoy from what you like studying or doing at the moment. College is all about discovering yourself so enjoy the fact that you do have lots of options. In a modern world people go through several career changes anyway, so don't think its all or nothing now!

Answer 8

get a new doctor.

Answer 9

I'm not sure how old you are.  Discuss what you wrote here with your therapist.  Also talk to your friends.  They are probably just as worried about their future as you.  Talk to your parents as well.

Good Luck and I hope you will feel more comfortable in time.