I'm not ready to get better why dont they understand?

Question

i was told i have an eating disorder my lowest bmi was 17.6 i don't see that as having anything wrong though. i don't want treatment i want control because i don't feel i can live without it i tried and went back down hill, nobody will accept i have to stay the way i am, im practically falling apart because i binged earlier and i don't know how to deal with it. infact i don't know how to deal with life anymore but im to scared to change that! why don't they understand me??

Answer 1

just eat!

Answer 2

who told you that ?? i have eating problems too and i do know what you mean ... you know that something is wrong but you don't want to get better/fatter or change everything... i hate what i do to myself but it means that i can sort out myself and not everyone else... eating is the one thing that i can choose and don't have to do becuase people expect it of me. if you want to talk email me at [e-mail] x

Answer 3

i was in your shoes for over a year and i just got out of a hospital 2 weeks ago where i was at for 4 weeks...you gain way more control in treatment..they montior your calories for you so you don't gain to much weight or be fat..they fine a perfect weight take me for instance they didn't make me fat im 126 pound 5'8"..thats pretty healthy to me...you will die and your not even close to thinking clear...they don't understand you because your thinking is wayy off and yes i understand you its scary dam right im scaried all the time but you know what i know that i have people watching me and helping me so i can think better and also so i don't get fat..and a calorie = a calorie meaning that it doesn't matter where you get your calories from they are all the same..some foods might be healthier but thats because they have more nutrions. people who eat at mcdonalds get fat because higher fat foods =higher calorie foods so eat more to feel full meaning you go over your calorie needs so you get fat..also when your in treatment it speeds your matobolism so you burn more calories

Answer 4

i honestly believe that NO-ONE  - family, friends, doctors or even psychiatrists, can hand on heart, admit to understanding more than a fraction of mental health issues, unless they have actually suffered from it themselves...  

Answer 5

You need help - you just don't know it.  Trust the people who are trying to help you.

Answer 6

It is you who doesn't understand I'm them my dear, you are ill mentally and physically and cannot think clearly right now, so they are trying to help you.

You NEED to get better NOW for the sake of your life, you have so much to live for.

Imagine having that control back over your life and being happy and healthy!

That binge you had means nothing, let it go, it will not do you any harm, trust me.

You feel you have no control and so you need to pass this onto someone who loves you and cares for you - let them guide you now to health and give you that control back.

Answer 7

If your B.M.I is 17.6, then in order to be at a healthy weight, you are only required to gain a couple of pounds.

Although thin, a B.M.I of 18 is medically considered healthy.

If having an eating disorder is making you feel so bad, then perhaps recovery is your best option.

Think about it.  

Answer 8

People that love you are trying to help you.

Why wont you take it?

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;...

Answer 9

Your question states that you're not ready to get better, but then you turn around by saying you are falling apart because you binged and don't know how to deal with it. Does anyone see the contradiction here? Nothing about your question and details show that you know what your best interests are. Obviously you're not in a position to decide what's best for you. If there are others who want to help you, let them. In doing so, they can help you deal with life.

Answer 10

see a therapist

"You wont lose control ur control will just be in a different form" - Kate

Great advice.

Answer 11

Its ok and normal to want control: its just where and how you get it that can be harmful to yourself sometimes.

Its not that they want you to change, really, its that they want you to be healthy. You parents and friends and teachers probably feel bad that you are going through a rough time. They want to help. Try seeing a therapist or counsellor. Give it a few sessions. It doesn't hurt to try, and it takes a lot of courage to, but it'll be worth it. I know you can do it!

Answer 12

Having an eating disorder is not being in control - the disease controls you.

The best form of control is recovery.

Answer 13

put yourself in their shoes (if its ur family with the concerns).

why dont you want treatment?

if you get booked into somewhere, they will help you to become a healthy weight and will teach you coping strategies.

you wont lose control... ur control will just be in a different form

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