I'm not really a "people's person"?

Question

Yeah I don't know whether its that I am not a people's person or just that middle school sucked. The people were just so immature. The girls...SO annoying. Uhh, I kinda feel better around more mature people. And I feel like I can have a conversation with them. And I kinda hate meeting new people. I mean you know, if they are mature...like I said I can have a conversation with them. But if they are just immature and don't know a lot of stuff. I just wanna avoid them. A lot of people made fun of other people in middle school. I see that as stupid thing to do. I just seemed as the "quiet guy" when I was in middle school. Sometimes tho, I can be very what I call "loose." And just kinda have fun and not have SECOND THOUGHTS on what I am gonna say. A lot of the times I was going to say something, but then I thought about it and I didn't say anything at all. I just like being in the "loose" mode tho. It just feels good. But when I'm all tightened up and not saying much, I feel VERY uncomfortable. And I'm always thinking "Wow, people who look at me see a loner." So I don't really know if I am a "people's person." Or it was just middle school. I also understand why sometimes I'm quiet and sometimes I am "loose."

Answer 1

From what you say you didnt like middle school as the people were immature, annoying, you didnt feel that you could have a conversation with them and you just want to avoid them. You dont like meeting new people and would prefer to meet mature people because you can have a conversation with them and they know a lot of stuff. You are quiet, however when you are relaxed you can cut loose and have a good time without second guessing what you are going to say.

I wouldnt call you a people person because they like to talk with everyone about everything and anything.  

What you can do is join a club, group, organisation or take up a hobby or interest where there are people of all ages where you can learn more and can talk with people who are more knowledgeable about the subject.  Those (knowledgeable) people may be of any age group.  The hobby might be a sport, animal shelter, charity or anything.

Answer 2

try smoking weed

Answer 3

I think you should find a nice middle ground.  I know that's a pretty wishy washy answer, but I'd make sure to let your thoughts heard so people at least have you on the radar, so to speak.  

If you want to be respected, make sure not to say something unless you know what you're talking about.  Sometimes outspoken people have no idea what they're talking about, and this can make them look foolish.  

Also, in middle school we're often finding where we fit in.  But even that phrase is imprecise, because it's not so much that we're trying to fit ourselves into discrete buckets, but rather we're sort of wiggling around, moving toward and away from others we share commonalities with or can't relate to, respectively.  I wouldn't shy away from meeting people.  I made this mistake in my college years and the weirdest thing happened at my 10-year reunion: I found that the people I get along with very well today are the people who weren't even on my radar in high school.  It's not because I was s****. or something, but I just never took the time to get to know them because I was too unsocial and stuck with my small group of people I happened to know.

If you fail to do this in middle school and high school, you'll have perhaps your biggest opportunity in college.  *Make the most of it*.  From someone who spent countless weekend nights on the computer in his dorm, you'll regret not going out with compatible friends.  This doesn't mean they have to be wild parties where everyone is drunk.  You might prefer getting coffee, or bubble tea, or just hanging out at someone's apartment playing video games.  Just please make the extra effort to find the people you get along with, and ditch the people who, on average, make you less happy because of their negative personalities, etc.

I hope this helps.

Answer 4

hey it ok ur not the only one!

im am people person but i diffently think some people in the middle school are imature (when i was there all there girls did anything for a guy TRUST ME ITS BETTER LATER)and some point you get use to the imatureness but trust me there lots of people out there that are just like you , you just have to find them and hang out with them. not being a people person kind of depends on whose not your person, also about people seeing you as a loner who cares about them!!!!

p.s dont liston to the guy talking about weed

Answer 5

I don't bother much with people nowadays, apart from my family and a few longtime friends.

Answer 6

aww hunny. it will get better as you get older i'm sure. i remember middle school and all the girls were brats and do anything to be popular and all the boys would laugh at the word p**p. they are ridiculous. but in time everyone will grow up and be normal human beings. just be yourself and i'm sure everyone would like you.