I'm not religious but..?

Question

My best friend got dumped by her boyfriend and her boyfriend started dating this other chick, who is coincidentally, a very, very, very close friend. A few months later boyfriend cheats on the other chick with his exgirlfriend

They've decided not to tell my good friend, and pretend nothing happened.I know I have to tell my good friend what happened, she cannot continue to date this scum.

It's a hard choice, and when I do it, which I'm going to-- there's no talking me out of it.

However, when I do this my world is apt to come crashing down on me. I have no stability in my life. These three people will all react very badly. The best friend and guy for me telling, and the other best friend because of the news.

I want to become more involved with religion because I need something in my life that I can hold on too.. I can't go to church on sunday. Is going on wednesday to youth group enough, I do that often? I know nothing about jesus... I did read the majority of the bible when I was dating a guy who was immersed in christianity, but I've never believed,

But I want to believe.

I need something to believe in so that I'm not left alone.

I just don't know where to start.

Answer 1

If you are sincere and your willing to take the flack from all the ridiculers, you could accept a Free Home Bible Study from Jehovah's Witnesses. They will answer all your questions first, then you can think about worshiping/ fellowshiping with them later.

(They ridiculed Jesus)

Answer 2

First pray ask for direction and then I would go and speak to your youth pastor. Trust me, He deals with those sorta things all the time so he'll give you some tips. Good luck and God bless!

Answer 3

Try prayer and reading the Bible.  Just know that you're doing the right thing by telling your best friend what's going on.

Answer 4

That's so nice. Really it's good to know that people still want to believe:) I hope God blesses you, yeah going to Youth Group is a really good start, that's what I did in Middle School and now it's made me waaay closer to God than I think I would have been otherwise.

Anyways, God will help you find Him if that's what you want. I'll say a prayer for you too:)!!!

Answer 5

start by going to a priest to talk--u can ask him anything you want and he can tell u where to start

Answer 6

I was once in a place where my world came crashing down on me. I started following Jesus Christ at that time and haven't turned back. That was more than 24 years ago now. Wow! Time flies!

You are right to search for something more. You were built for eternity, created specifically by God for some amazing purpose. You are precious to him, and he wants to help you live your life following him, looking at the world through his eyes.

You are not *required* to go to church on Sunday to be a Christian. Following Jesus is not about what you *do* or *don't do*. It's about your relationship with him. As such, going to youth group on Wednesday is a very good start. It is important that you get to know other Christians that can help you as you walk this new path. Wednesday night is good. Sunday is good, too. Neither is "required" but both are helpful.

One place you can start is here:

http://www.notreligion.com

Another place that emphasizes the importance of making the right choice is here:

http://www.family.org/faith/A000000724.c...

I think the most important step that you can take is to talk to the youth pastor or another adult leader at the Wednesday night youth meeting. They are there to help you with this exact situation. They can point you to the information you need to make the right choice for yourself.

Christianity will give you a proper view of the world. It answers the questions of where did you come from, why are you here, what's gone wrong with the world, and how are we going to fix it? I've found that looking at the world through Jesus helps me make sense of what I see, helps me make good choices, and strengthens me through the tough times.

I would be happy to help via e-mail if you think it would be useful for you. I will pray for you after i submit this answer.

Answer 7

Just a simple childlike prayer of faith, asking Jesus to be your Lord and Savior, confessing your sins to Him, surrendering your life to Him.

Obeying the word of God.  Knowing that Jesus died on the cross to pay for your sins and that He rose on the third day.  That thru Him our sins are forgiven and are no more; over time we lose all our desire to sin; being made new creatures in Christ.  Know how much God loves you; all of Heaven celebrates when even one person is saved.

Talk to the Lord every day and develop a relationship with Him.  You will feel His presence.  Know how much He loves you.  He will never turn you away but He wants a relationship with you.  Glory to God for your desire to know Him.  God bless you!

Answer 8

if you dont believe, then simply dont try to bc thats not you.....enrol in a private school with nuns

Answer 9

You can start by realising that people aren't perfect and that this sort of thing goes on all the time.

Answer 10

Just pray and tell Jesus just what you told all of us. Know that you have sinned (done things you knew were wrong), but that Jesus forgives you if you just ask. Tell him you want to live his way now. God bless you!!

Answer 11

Look into finding a church nearby to attend. You absolutely need to get baptised first (no exceptions). Its okay if you absolutely can't attend on Sunday maybe they have bible study days or youth group days that you can attend until you're able to start going on Sundays. Something is better than nothing. Keep reading your bible, go to websites like. www.bible.com and the absolute most important thing you need to do is pray to God and ask him to help in your quest for a relationship with him. If you pray and have faith that he will guide you then you'll be alright. This will be the best committment you've ever made that can save you eternally.

God bless you!

Answer 12

1.  As to the cheating boyfriend, mind your own business, unless you want to get in a lot of hot water yourself for spilling the beans.  You have no obligation to report boyfriend's escapades to anyone.  He will be found out eventually and then your friend and he will just have to deal with it.  Stay out of it.

#2. Yes, do go to the youth group.  This experience will itnroduce you more and more over time to the teachings of the church and to Jesus Christ.  I assume that the youth group has some kind of worship Service - even a very short one is better than none at all - connected with its weekly get-together.

Answer 13

A good start would be to get away from the drama, its not good all around. Don't get drawn deeper into the drama your friends are going though.

You know nothing is about Jesus? Honey, Jesus is the only one who can save you from this world. He took your sins, my sins, everyone's sins and He died on the cross for us. All you have to do is reachout to Him and accept Him as your Lord and Savior. He loves you so much and has been waiting for you to accept Him. But you know all this if you are going to a weds youth group.

You said that you go to a Wednesday night Youth group - that is a good start. Talk to the youth pastor or some adult there that you feel real comfortable talking about this. Why can't you go to sunday services?

Answer 14

Start here:

Buddhism for Dummies

http://www.amazon.com/Buddhism-Dummies-R...

and

How to Know God

http://www.amazon.com/How-Know-God-Journ...

I think you will find what you are craving in those books.

Answer 15

You just did start.  You took a step in God's direction, and now God is running to meet you!

Youth group is a good place to get basic information and experience Christian fellowship.  Attend that for awhile and see what steps you can take after that.  You'll be able to talk to other believers and the youth pastor, and you'll be having Bible study.

Answer 16

Start by writing to Dear Abby.

Answer 17

I remember when I was in your exact situation. I wanted to believe so badly and I taught myself. I found a friend who was willing to help me. I don't like going to church on Sundays and I don't even go to a bible study. I taught myself and I did some online research/reading.  

Answer 18

Well, to start, just needing something to believe in doesn't make Christianity the answer, but I know where you're coming from.  I grew up in a very religious family and never doubted my faith, but I did stop going to church for a while.  I was living away from home and went through a very difficult break up and the only thing that helped me through it was my faith, and being able to pray.  I walked into a church one night and I sat in the back and cried, but I prayed to find peace in my life and I left feeling so much better.

Going to your youth group on Wednesdays is enough.  The amount of time you spend going to church is not the most important thing. It's really about you having a relationship with God.  It's a good idea to read the bible and understand who Jesus really was. Then you'll have a better reason to understand why your faith is so important. I know praying my seem a little strange at first, especially if it's new to you, but it's so great.  Sometimes all you need to do is simply ask God to help you to learn more about him and to make the right choices in your life.  It may not happen instantly, but he will answer your prayer in whichever way he feels best for you.  

Good luck to you!

Answer 19

Tina,

According to Jesus Himself, just wanting to believe in Him is proof enough that you have faith.  (Also according to Jesus, He's the one who gave the faith to you!)  It's okay to believe in Him -- and you can ask Him to give you more faith; not only that, but He can hear you anywhere you are, in any language you speak, any time you ask; and not only that, but He will actually help you ask your question!

I know you need something to believe in so that you're not left alone -- Believe in Jesus:  You may not really know Him yet, but He knows you, and He will not let you down.  He can even help you with this messy problem with the "scummy guy."  (To me, he sounds like a dweeb, but I take faithfulness seriously.)  I wouldn't want to talk you out of talking to your friend about the guy's unfaithfulness -- I'd want to talk you into it!

Talk to Jesus.  He can be your someone to believe in so that you're not left alone.  Tell Him that you want to believe in Him, that you want to belong to Him, that you want Him on your side when you are having trouble.  He is real, and He won't steer you wrong.

Talk to Him.

barjesse37

Answer 20

Yeah going youth group is awesome, and so would church, but just like Buddhism, Christianity is not meant to be a religion. At the same time it is classified under religion because well, there is a God involved and we worship, but the key is faith. Faith is something we can't see, touch, feel, hear or anything, all but a blind trust.

I was like you that I wanted some hope. I'd be a pretty big loser in life really, but I also wanted to believe that there's more to this life. The beginning of it is to pray to God that maybe you'll have some understanding, and when you do maybe you'll accept His grace of forgiveness. Prayer could be a time of reflection of yourself, and only faith is rewarded. I just know God is listening to us.

God bless~