I'm not sure if my husband had a relationship with another woman during the time we spent apart?

Question

My husbands friend was over the other day and during a conversation he made a comment that indicated a possibility my husband had been with someone else. My husband and I had marriage problems in the past and I'd gone to a relatives house while we tried to work out our differences. During our time apart it wasn't clear if we'd ever resolve our differences which is why I wonder if I really have the right to question my husband about this. It's been 16mths since we got back together and our relationship seems to be stronger now. However since hearing this story from my husbands friend I really don't know what to say to him.

Answer 1

maybe you shouldnt.  if you thought he was doing something while you were apart...why would you wait to question it while things are going well?  what's the worse that can happen?  someday, some woman might show up at your door with his kid from a fling yeah?  hehe just kidding.  no really.  why do you want to stir the pot if things are going well?  are you bored?

Answer 2

you do have the right to question it. even if you weren't going to resolve your differences, you we're still married  at the time.

Answer 3

If you two have patched things up, then I'd let this sleeping dog lay. If you ask him about it you will be opening a rabbit hole of emotion you cannot be prepared to handle.

If you trust him now, then know that it was probably nothing, and he's not with this "possible other person" now, he's with you.  

Answer 4

gut reactions are usually the right reaction.

if you have a genuine bad feeling then you need to investigate. im surprised you didnt question the friend and your husband after he told the friend to shut up.

to me, honest opinion.. he cheated. and if not then something definitely went down that he does NOT want you to know or find out about.  

Answer 5

"he made a comment that indicated a possibility.."

so, he made a comment that you perceived to be possibly indicative of your husband being with someone else?  

Maybe you are being paranoid.  

Answer 6

What's the point of saying anything to him now?  You guys have been back together for 16 months and things seem to be going great, why question him and make new problems with your relationship? If he had been with someone else it was when you guys were apart. And if he was with someone during that time why make him think about that person, I don't think it's worth you opening a can of worms that he has already closed.

Answer 7

We can't tell you without hearing the story.  What was the conversation?

Answer 8

Seriously..you know he did..if you over heard and your stomach is telling you so..then chances are he did..be straight and tell him..your never going to be ok with anything unless you know the whole story

Answer 9

Ask him about what his friend said and find out if it's true.  Tell him that in order for both of you to move on, he has to come clean with you.  Keep in mind that he may never admit it and it would be up to you to be willing to get past it.

Answer 10

i'd ask him and hope he gives me an honest answer. just make sure that whatever he responds, you should be ready to hear it. and if he did see someone, and decide to stay with him, it will take some work on both parties.

if you still feel he lied by denying, then you'd probably feel worse than what you're feeling now.

Answer 11

Well, you were separated...did you have an agreement to stay faithful?

Since it was unknown, let it go

or if you can handle the truth talk to him, but remember you were separated with no guarantee to get back together

Most girls can't handle truth and makes men want to lie

Anyways, he's with you now and your relationship is stronger, so that's what counts

You could have had a fling too, so...  

Answer 12

You could alway ask to the effect of the idea of asking about previous GFs.

If you don't, you're gonna get caught boozed up or tired or something and bring it up anyways sometime.

Answer 13

let it go. if he did admit to sleeping with her, can you accept it...if not, are you going to divorce him?

if you choose to stay together after he admits to it, make sure you dont turn ur r/ship sour cuz you r gonna live with that sour r/ship 4 d rest of ur life