I'm not very social...

Question

im looking for some stuff to talk to in conversations. cause i mean i can come up with some, but i just run out of stuff to talk about and i dont know what to say, like i dont want to stop talking to the person/people, but i just dont know like what else to say. id like who ever is reading this to post some stuff to talk about over the phone/in any general conversation. ty =)

Answer 1

neither am i...

Answer 2

And you don't like rehashing Same ol' stuff over and over. So know it's time to start Listening. Especially when it concerns people you want too "Be Closer Too". You need to ask "Open Ended Questions" Who, What, When, Where, How, and Why. These type of questions are designed to get people talking and show's interest in the person you are talking to because you are showing "Value" in what that person is saying. You'll be OK kid! Good Luck!

Answer 3

Stop talking and START LIVING. That's how stories are made

Answer 4

dont talk about boring things that can easily end a coversation. talk about injuries you had had and tell funny stories to keep them entertained. you can always start a conversation by saing whats up? maybe you saw some kind of movie that was really good, so you talk about the best actor. if they are adults be polite, and if they are kids be nice. when you are talking to someone like a teen, make sure it is entertaining and you can talk about it for a long time. maybe talk about famous people or places you have been. try not to gossip, because i know that can start a lot of trouble.

Answer 5

Lots of people like to talk about themselves, so if you find that you run out of things to say, ask some questions about the other person you're talking with.  Favorite movies, music, food etc. always are good starters....

Answer 6

I talk about what the other person has been up to.

If they say "nothing" perhaps you can ask them what sort of music they like to listen to, if they have seen anything good on the television, read any good books....

You know.

It could lead to a better conversation.

Answer 7

just start off with one of ur ideas then if you run out of ideas, talk about other things that were mentioned in the conversion.

Answer 8

Learn how to ask appropriate questions, people love to talk about themselves.  Girls are usually better at this than guys, we love to talk about anything under the sun, hardly anything is sacred.  They don't have to be obvious questions either, have a stock of questions ready that you have thought of before hand and use them when the conversation lags.  Also keep up with current events, those are always good for conversation.

Have you always lived in this town/state?

Have you ever been to _____?

Who is your favorite actor/actress/sports team?

Did you see the news about ______?

What do you think about _______?

Do you go to church/believe in God?

Do you have a lot of family around here?

The first trick is to keep asking questions that flow from one thing to the next.  Asking someone what they had for dinner leads to do they like to cook, leads to what's your favorite food, leads to what's your favorite restaraunt, leads to, well, you get the picture.  

The second trick is to be an active listener.  Really listen to what the other person says.  If you are actively thinking about what they are saying, questions will pop up that you can ask and the conversation will flow.

The big plus is the other person will think you are very personable (even though they basically talked about themselves) because you are showing so much interest in them.

P.S.  I think you need to get out of your comfort zone, and start talking to some new people.  Don't ignore your friends, just start talking to people you wouldn't normally talk to.