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questions today. aha

Okay so, this is a bit of a serious one.

My mom died back in March, and I had severe depression problems even before that, to the point of self harm.

I've held myself back, but I'd like to know if anyone has suggestions of how to deal with this on your own.

My friends always want me to talk about it, but I usually get really mean and tell them to back off. My dad wants me to see a therapist or whatever, but I don't want anyone inside my head.

I just have random moments where I'll break down. Just out of nowhere, it freaks me out.

I'm doing pretty good, but it makes it worse when my dad comes home crying and my brother becomes distant.

Thanks<3

Answer 1

ok so wat is your question?

Answer 2

i can understand you not wanting to talk to your friends..and the whole idea of talking to a shrink.  by the sounds of it, it just seems like something you need to overcome yourself, you know? breaking down out of nowhere is normal and stuff. as for the self harm, if you&#039;re suicidal, dont do it. would u wanna put your brother&amp;dad through that? they say suicide is the most selfish act you can do...

anyways. a diary helps...and so does music. u wanna do wat makes u feel better n stuff...so long as its not one of those quick fixes like drugs lol. haha i dont even know you, but im giving you a dont do drugs talk.  just hang out with friends and stuff, just dont party hard:P

i hope this helps.  im really sorry about your loss.

Answer 3

I know how you feel. My dad died in &#039;01 when I was 6, I&#039;m 13 now. I didn&#039;t start to really understand it till recently.

Sometimes I just start to bawl my eyes out, and I can&#039;t stop. Like I&#039;ll just sit on  my chair crying. It makes me feel better in a way, but then I feel like c**p later on. My friends want to talk to me about it, but the thing is they have no idea what I&#039;m feeling. They all have both parents.

Sometimes all you need to do is just go into your room and just be by yourself. Write, or just think. Talk to your mom cause you know she&#039;s watching over you. It&#039;ll help, try to get it all out. Cry if you need to. Your dad and brother are hurting too. Tell your dad that you just need time, and that seeing a therapist isn&#039;t going to help you. =]

Oh and remember that your friends are trying to help you. Don&#039;t get mad at them. Just calmly tell them that you don&#039;t want to talk about it.

Answer 4

First, let my share my condolences. Having lost my father I know how devastating it is to lose a parent. Its going to hurt for a long time but eventually you will realize your mom is inside your heart and your memories and you will be able to think of the wonderful part of your life with her and not feel the pain so deeply. You know she would want that for you. She doesn&#039;t want you to suffer and hurt. She wants you to be able to live a happy life.

If you are having thoughts of harming yourself you have to see a dr. Tell him you are depressed and what is going through your mind. He will give you a prescription for an antidepressant if he thinks you need one and suggest you see a therapist.

A therapist can help you. They aren&#039;t there to judge you or get inside your mind beyond the point of where you need  help. Most likely he or she would allow you to talk about the loss of your mom and help you figure out ways you can deal with it without allowing your grief to escalate to the point of harming yourself.

Grief is a natural process and some people handle it better than others. Don&#039;t try to bury your grief. When you need to cry, go ahead and cry. Don&#039;t let it consume you though. Try to keep busy so your mind is on something else most of the time.