I'm on bedrest?

Question

and we have been having my sons birthday party planned. he is two and it was supposed to be this saturday. we were going to have family and friends over for a bar b que and then swim in our backyard (we have a pool) but then i got put on bedrest. i guess while i'm on bedrest i can make the invitations, and i'm sure my husband can do just fine without me, and there will be other adults there, but i feel so bad i wont be able to go to my sons birthday party :( and also, i know peopleare going to want to come in my room to see me and stuff, but i'm just not up to that. so what can i do about his birthday, and what can i do about the guest that come that want to see me(these will probably mostly be family) but i just dont want to see all those people at one time.

Answer 1

You should have your husband talk to them and tell them you dont want to take away from your sons party and do not want the attention. Let your close family know ahead of time to not try to come in your room. he can say he checked on you, and you were asleep...and be sure to lock the bedroom door (LOL)...i really have learned that you cant care what people think; if they love you they get over it. Also, you really may feel different on the actual day! ;)

Answer 2

Have someone who will bring visitors up to your room one at a time. And ask this person to keep the visits short.

Answer 3

You can have 2 of your relatives see you in bed at a time. Just let your husband handle the party.

Answer 4

Buy a lawn chair/lounger and go outside. Put your feet up on pillows. You'll still be resting in a prone position. Plus, you will still get to be part of the party and your son won't be disappointed.

Good luck and take care of yourself!

Answer 5

call it off.  It takes the pressure off you, your son is too young to know.  Have one later when you are better.  He wont know the difference.

Answer 6

If you are on complete bedrest then I suggest you stay in bed with no visitors but if you are on modified bedrest then could you lounge by the pool with the others on one of those chase lounges or something and when you get exhausted you could go to bed with no visitors?

Good Luck and Best Wishes!

Answer 7

He is two, if you cancel his party he won't care. At his age he probably doesn't want to see all those people either.  Cancel the party.

Answer 8

awwww I'm sorry...I know this must really bother you, but you need to get ready for that new baby =]. I think you should talk to your husband and tell him that ahead of time if he would just tell the guest as their coming in that you don't feel good and you just don't think company would be the best thing for you. That should work..otherwise act like your sleeping that way if people come in they'll see that your resting...maybe that'll work. Just tell them to please respect your being...you don't feel good and they should respect that. Your a good mom. Best of Luck! =]

oh yeah I also agree with wellatlast and ol I think...you could just postpone it...he won't know the difference he's much to young to understand.

Answer 9

My friends mom had the same thing she has to be on bed rest she just got surgery.  what i would do is like if people want to see you then just tell your Husband to send them in one at a time. Hope this helps =)

get well soon

Answer 10

Just because you are on bedrest, doesn't mean you have to stay in YOUR BED! Hang out on the couch amongst everyone! You can still be lying down and not stressing your body outside of your bedroom. No worries!

Good Luck and Happy Bday to the little one!

Answer 11

If you're still allowed to get up for the restroom and shower you can be up long enough to get to a lounge chair or blanket to lay on to watch the activities.  You just can't be getting up and down to help, have everything brought to you like you're still in your room.  If you can't move out of the bed at all then have you husband let people know you can't have too much excitment and only let in a few very close people in ones or twos.  Maybe you can do the present opening in your room with everyone if there's space, then they can say quick greetings and you won't miss out.  Best wishes and good luck.

Answer 12

I would postpone the party as well. He may seem disappointed to you now... but in the long run, he will not remember that you postponed or even cancelled a birthday party when he was 2 years old. Do you remember events when you were two years old? I certainly don't. What you need to concentrate now on is taking care of yourself for your upcoming arrival. I am sure all of your friends and family will understand.

If he was older, I might have a different answer, but not for a two year old. Their attention spans just aren't that long. I am sure he is probably does get excited as you help him count down the days. That is normal. :) If you stop mentioning it around him, I am sure he will forget quicker than you realize.

Good luck...and best of luck with your upcoming delivery!!! :)

Answer 13

postpone the party until you are well enough, no body will mind and your two year old certainly won't mind. there is no need for you to miss out or be disturbed from your rest.

Answer 14

Why can't you postpone it until you feeling stronger? He's not aware of the exact date of his bday, what he'll remmeber most is being around you and dad, so I think its important you wait until you can BOTH be there and enjoy celebrating his birth which you were kind of a big part in...and not accomadate others. Trust me you'll feel better that you were there even if its a little later.