I'm on welfare. What would you all like to say about me?

Question

I'm 21 I have 3 kids. I recieve food stamps, medical, day care, WIC, and im getting on section 8. The assistance is there for people who need it. Who are u all to judge someone about being on welfare. Sorry all you moms who sit here all day have husbands who pay for everything. Some people dont have that luxury either. i just dont understand people sometimes. you get your taxes back at the end of the year anyway. and even if it wasnt going to welfare it would just be going somewhere else. Be thankful for what u all got and maybe be a little more giving or at least have sympathy for those less fortuante instead of knocking them for doing what they got to

Answer 1

I would say that you are irresponsible for letting yourself get pregnant 3 times when you can't even provide for yourself.  Getting pregnant was a choice you made so in essence, you made the choice to be in the position you are in.   I don't feel as though people who work hard should have to pay for your irresponsibility.  I have no sympathy for you.

Answer 2

I agree with you completely.  I pay taxes JUST like everyone else, and I really need the help I get from medicaid and WIC.  It doesn't make me a bad person or mean that I'm lazy...  after all I work two jobs, I'm in the process of getting my bachelors degree and I'm 28 weeks pregnant... so obviously I'm not lazy.

I'm lucky in that my boyfriend is working full time and helping pay for things as much as he can.  He's very supportive.  My Mom is even helping us out...  But even with our combined incomes, we just don't have enough money for everything.  Especially for medical care, which is not covered by either of my two jobs.  

I was using both the birth control pill and condoms when I became pregnant.  So this wasn't expected.  But what am I supposed to do?  Have an abortion just because I can't afford the medical expenses?  Abortions are expensive, they can run upwards of $700.  Or should I just forgo medical care and try to deliver the baby myself?

Answer 3

a condom only costs about 50 cents ... compare to all you have to pay...

Answer 4

Having a husband who pays for everything is NOT a luxury.  That's what a husband's supposed to do.  Maybe you should have been more selective about who you opened your legs to.  You say you get medical, so why weren't you on birth control?  And sorry to bust your bubble, but normal tax payers do not get money back at the end of the year, unless they somehow overpaid.  

Answer 5

You put yourself into the situation that you are in. You decided to open your legs and not be on birth control. Futhermore, you choose who you *****, and most likely that man or those men are only "baby dadddies"

And those women, who have husbands who work, chose a man who would be able to provide for his family.

So yes, u did just reconfirm how i think about people on welfare.

If you had ever worked a day in your life, you would know that we do not get "all of our money back" in taxes. If that were true, how do you think we would pay for all of the s***s on welfare? I suppose you think the "government" would pay for this.. and the "government" would go to their little bank and pay for people like you, who drain our society

You are an embarassment.

Answer 6

I dont look down on you...F*** i can ONLY wish i had that kind of support from anyone... The Best of luck to you and your kids....

Answer 7

Those of us who pay taxes don't get our money back at the end of the year, how would that make sense?? You only get a refund if you overpaid and quite often you're required to PAY MORE when you file if enough wasn't with held during the year.  My husband and I paid over $30k out in taxes last year and received a refund of less than $3k, so we sure didn't get all of that money back.  This was also the very first year that we got a refund, we're usually required to pay more.

I didn't get pregnant at 17, I worked my way through college on part time jobs and student loans (which I'm still paying back and will be for the next 10 - 15 years) .  Welfare is great as a temporary fix for someone who has fallen on hard times, but don't tell us you went on welfare right out of high school and expect people to have sympathy for you.  To me that's someone who didn't even try.

Answer 8

As a girl who grew up in a single parent household, where my mom was also disabled, i know where your coming from. People can be so thoughtless and say really rude things about people who receive government assistance, without even thinking about it. I have learned to just ignore it! When I work 10% of my check is going to the government too! I guess we are just someone for people to throw their hate at. For the people who haven't seen it; there have been questions asked/answered on here suggesting that people on welfare/food stamps are lazy. Everyone who doesn't need assistance should be more sympathetic because there are some kids, like me, who didn't choose to be brought up with government assistance. My mom used it because she needed it and always made sure my brother and I were provided for. I completely agree with you!

Answer 9

I would not call you less fortunate...less responsible maybe

Answer 10

There's nothing wrong with it. Some people need help and if it's there then by means get it. Take care of your kids and yourself the best way you can.....

Answer 11

I have known women who have been single moms who needed a helping hand to get on their feet - but they didn't stay down. Welfare is not meant to be a permanent situation - there's nothing to be ashamed of if someone has to rely on it for a short time. The shame of it comes from 'letting the government take care of you'. Nobody owes anyone a single thing.

Everyone has equal opportunity these days - some people have more challenges than others, but everyone has the same access to education, etc., to realize their dreams - actually, that's not entirely true - seems that minorities and people on welfare actually have more benefits than those who are deemed 'privileged'. I'm a college student and on the flip side of you, that doesn't seem fair to me.

Answer 12

I'm 19, I don't have kids, hold a full time job during the summer , got and still get good grades, have participated in a myriad of activities related to my major, yet I can't get any grants from the US government because my parents make too much money, but aren't helping me out. Cry me a river.

Answer 13

Who is giving you a hard time for being on welfare? You do what you have to. Supporting your children is #1 and you're right, it is unfortunate for those who don't have a husband that works and the luxury of being a stay at home mom. My husband works and I'm very grateful for him. But I would never look down on you because you don't have that kind of support. Don't  be so quick to think everyone looks down on you for it.  

Answer 14

I am glad that there are programs to help you get back on your feet.

Answer 15

Why are you asking what we have to say about it and then turn around and say "Who are we to judge"

I personally don't have a problem with people who need assistance when they need it , like if they are ill, get layed, that sort of thing but when people who are perfectly capable of working don't because they would much rather some one else pay their bills then that is what I have a problem with. I got pregnant with my first child at 17. Got a job went to school and am now a nurse with a husband of 15 years and 4 kids. No welfare, non of that c**p. I could have just flet sorry for myself and let the governent take care of me but I am STRONGER person than that. I don't need someone to take care of me. Don't be weak!

Answer 16

I think ppl are very quick to judge others, not realizing that anyone, at anytime can face money issues. Our economy isnt set in stone- ANYTHING can happen. I think what is frustrating to ppl who work hard, is the fact that there are many, many leeches who kick back and suck of the system. I am NOT saying that you are doing that, or the 17 yr old girl who was looking for some advice. I am just saying that the ones who abuse the system are the ones who give welfare recipients a bad reputation. It's unfair. It is there to help, and there are millions of ppl who need the extra boost just to survive. I wish the stigma wasnt attached to it.

To anyone who wants to judge harshly- unless you have a trust fund, or big fat bank account- it could happen to you. You might think it won't, but do you really think everyone who receives welfare benefits thought 'gee one day I think I might try that whole welfare gig'? No. Stuff happens, and it can happen to you.  

Answer 17

I would just like to say that you are clearly not a platypus.  If you were, you wouldn't be able to get welfare.  And since a platypus lives only 10-15 years, you would probably not have made it to 21.

Answer 18

agree the assistance is there for people who need it.  the key words are "need".  People should plan in advance before having 3 kids and not think about getting money from the goverment (ie other taxpayers who are struggling to make ends meet).

i don't know what your circumstances are.  If you planned financially for these kids and something unexpected happened, then fair enough (eg. you were in a de facto relationsihp and the guy said he would support you and then did a runner, or if there was unexpected illness in the family meaning you couldn't work etc).

what does "you get your taxes back a the end of the year" mean?? how do we get our taxes back? if we overpaid tax, then we may get a small refund. however, at the end of the day we pay taxes and this takes up a huge chunk of our pay.  the taxes are meant to go towards paying for public infrastructure etc, not to support mums who do not not have the foresight to plan for their own actions.

people on welfare are relying on the goodwill of others.  they should not "expect" payment. they should not think it is their right.  they are, in effect, begging the governent for money.  if i needed to, i would beg the government for money too. but only if i really needed to.

Answer 19

I see nothing wrong with it at all if you really need it.  I live in a town where most people here use it just because they can lie and get it.

My mom was a single mother on well fare when she was raising me and my brother.  At that time, my father went awhile without being any support.

I wouldn't ever think less of someone who was on well fare and actually needed. For that reason I despise though idiotic people that get it knowing d**n well they lied about their income just to get a free ride.

Answer 20

Hey girl

You do what you have to in order to take care of those kids.

The US has thrown billions of dollars away on Iraq.

We are giving aid to countries that won't get off of their own reserves and take care of themselves.

Let's see...give needed money to a woman with three babies or send it to adults that are too greedy to rebuild their own country?

Hmm...wish we Americans really had a choice in the matter.

For these kids on here that are posting nonsense-You don't have kids. Shut the h**l up.Your mommies are still wiping your butts.

If some of these people had to live a single day in poverty, they would have a new appreciation for how difficult it is to see their kids with nothing. (oh my god...my daughter lost her blackberry)

I'm sorry that you are in this situation. I've been there. You keep your head up and ignore people. They aren't in your shoes.

Good luck,girlie!

Answer 21

Right on sister!! I to was on welfare at one time in my life. I was a very young mother and needed to finish school. I had a boyfriend who at the time wasn't doing anything for me and my parents didn't want to help. So I did what I needed to do and got back on my feet. I had food stamps, medical, section 8, Wic and everything. But the difference between us and the welfare moms that just live that way because its easier is this: I used it to get my education, to go back to school and get everything straight so when my time was up I didn't need all of that help anymore. I am very grateful for the help I received during those years and it did pay off. Not all people use the welfare system just to take the easy way out. Not everyone has a perfect life with enough money and the right background or upbringing! So i'm glad you posted this and I'm here to say that it is there for people who genuinely need it and are wanting to get back on their feet. So don't judge anyone if you don't know the situation.

I bet every one of you who wants to judge others has something in your lives that others could look upon and judge you badly. but that wouldn't be fair because they don't know the whole story behind your particular situation.

Answer 22

You poor thing.  I hope things get better for you.

When my mom left my dad, we were all on welfare for the duration of the divorce proceedings.  It was terrible for us older kids, since we were already used to good food, good clothes, good schools -- things welfare can't get you.  I was glad my dad eventually got custody of us kids, because I don't know how much longer I could have stood subsistence like that.  On the other hand, probably could have put up with it for another 5 years, left home, gotten a scholarship and not done too badly.  But my younger siblings would have suffered the most.

I'm all for welfare:  I'd rather pay higher taxes to be assured that my neighbor does not go starving than to live next to people who are riddled with disease and misery, nothing to lose and more likely to take it out on me in some criminal way.

Answer 23

Hey hey hey..

Look I recieve help from my parents....Dont knock on people who  DO/DO NOT take goverment assistance...

Not everyone has a problem with it...

I know some people can be jerks. But dont attack everyone who doesnt have to work.

Answer 24

Um... what did you do with your life?

Answer 25

I'm sorry when was it my responsibility to help pay for the kids you popped out. too much of my paycheck goes to you welfare money suckers. and yeah i get all the money back at the end of the year but i dont have all d**n year to wait to get the money i EARNED at the beginning of the year. i have worked very hard for what i have and i have managed to not get pregnant. if you had respect for your fellow country you wouldn't have had three kids you couldn't take care of.    

Answer 26

I wouldn't have had 3 kids by the time I'm 21 even if I had a husband who was paying for everything.  

Answer 27

I agree with cassie.

you put your self in that position by getting pregnant.

Try closeing your legs or useing a condom.