I'm only 12 and I think I'm depressed.?

Question

I don't really know what to ask but i just need some support. My parents recently got a divorce. My mom works 5 nights a week in a bar and the two she has off she goes out and parties with her friends. My dad cares SO much about me. He honestly would do ANYTHING for me....as .long as its not ridiculous. My 21 year old sister lives with my mom. Her and her boyfriend have a baby together but they are staying together for the wrong reasons. They don't love each other. I get all A's in school. Can NEVER sleep. And is crying herself to sleep. I don't have my own room at my moms....i have the loft upstairs. It seems like i have a split personality because around one of my friends I'm not like that. I'm just scared.

Answer 1

you dont have a split personality, otherwise you wouldnt know the different ways you act around people. you sound stressed and depressed. the main factor causing this i would think is the divorce. do you still visit your dad? it seems to me he is the one who cares for you the most, and i know you love him so much, and not seeing him like you used to could wreak havoc in anyone. i hope you still see your dad and that you can get through this. ive been through 2 of my dads divorces, if i can do it you can toO! good luck hun

Answer 2

focus on your life for a while not on your sisters or your parents. Make some new friends or hang out wit the ones you have  have a day off your life like dont think about your problems just chill have fun. DO WHAT EVER YOU CAN TO HAVE FUN!!!!!!!!!  

Answer 3

Although this is a lot that can make someone feel depressed. I think, as you stated in your last sentence, you are just scared. And I totally understand that, you don't see your mother at all, your sister is in a bad relationship and you don't know what is going to happen. My advice is to spend all the time you can with your father. He loves you so much.  

Answer 4

It sounds to me like you are worried about everything and everyone around you. You have a lot on your plate and I am very sorry for you. You are 12 yrs old you shouldn't be worried about these things. You sound very mature for your age and I am sorry you have such a heavy load, really at your age you shouldn't. I would strongly encourage you talk to your parents about your mother being gone so much and remind your parents that you need their support more now than ever. Also tell them how you really need your own space. This can make a HUGE difference in any person life, a place to call your own, a place to get away form the world! I am sure the divorce has been Hard on you and I am sure you new life is even more challenging, I would strongly suggest that you ask your parents to get you in counseling.

As hard as it may sound, try not to focus on all the negative in your life and focus on school. Talk to your school counselor that is what they are there for. I too had a very hard time when I was 12 yrs old, I was dealing with my parents divorce, had moved to another state and had found myself with the wrong crowd. It quickly went from a bad situation to an even worse situation. I hope you are strong enough to get through these challenges without making it worse on yourself. And remember as hard as things seem....God doesn't give us what we want, He gives us what we need! Also...If God brings you to it, He will bring you through it!

I wish you the best and if you ever need to talk to someone your welcome to email me anytime.

: ) Ashley

Answer 5

Only you can tell if your depressed, but it might help if you went to a counsler. If you don't feel comfortable talking to the one at your school, check around town. Even if you don't really need help, the least the counsler will do is tell you you don't need it.

Answer 6

sweetie, you dont have a split personality, trust me.  Its just that the situation your in affects you alot, and when your with your friends, you kind of forget about it sometimes.  Id say theres a possibility of depression, but it seems to be in the earlier stages, which believe it or not, is actually a good thing.  When depression is at its peak, thats the worst possible feeling and because you may have discovered it earlier than that, theres more of a chance to reach out and get help.  Im so sorry about your parents divorce and everything.  A mom who lives that kind of lifestyle must be really hard for you.  Is there any way you could live with your dad, he seems to care more about you.  I would really suggest talking to a school counselor, there always there to help.  And sometimes talking about it is therapudic in itself.  Good luck sweetie!!