I'm only 15 and I'm getting broody for a baby, am i going mad or what?

Question

iv got so much in life i want to do and having a baby at my age would jeopardise any chance of it happening, such as going to uni, travelling the world. but for some reason, i want a baby so badly but I'm only 15, I'm in a serious relationship with my boyfriend, believe it or not, but yes we actually love with each other at the age of 15, i know i wouldnt have a child at this age, i just want to know if anyone else feels this way or whether im just going slightttllyyy mad.? :S

Answer 1

We all go through that phase.

Don't worry, It'll pass.

Answer 2

It's the hormones, love!

Wait a few months and it'll pass.

I felt exactly the same when I was 14, looked in baby shops and everything! Now I don't want a baby until I am in my late 20s and capable; financially, emotionally and mentally.

I'm 18 now.  

Answer 3

For one, having a baby doesn't really make it so you can't do things (i.e. going to a University, travelling, etc.). It does, however, make all of those things more difficult. I had my son when I was 14. He starts kindergarten in 2 weeks. I went to college for a year. I just couldn't live in the dorms. I had to get an apartment.

In no way am I encouraging you to get pregnant. Believe me. I wish I had waited. There are times when we live paycheck to paycheck and we barely make rental payments.

As with what most others have said, babies will wait. You are still so young. Take it from someone who's been there. You'll love that baby just as much if it comes in 9 months or in 5 years. So why make life harder on yourself? Why not go and live life for yourself before having a baby? I hope this was helpful for you!

Answer 4

don't do it! really, 15 is no age. i've never met a happy young mother, and even if your boyfriend is a real man that will pay for your child, you will still be throwing your best years away.

be young, be excited, see the world, take the pill

Answer 5

think of the stretch marks, the fatness, the agony, how your boyfriend can pranse about and get on with his life, friends and school etc while ur in agony being sick and prego. thinking about those things should put you off lol :P.

um no, i dont feel like this btw but thinking about what it would REALLY be like will put you off.

Answer 6

Since your a girl your hormones would tell you that you want one. I'm a year older than you and wouldn't want a child at all until I'm married and old enough to look after a baby.

I understand where your coming from saying "serious relationship" because I am in one, and believe it or not, we love each other too.

But then again at our ages you never know what might happen. Sorry.

And no your not going slightly mad, maybe you could baby sit or something or do something with children, until your old enough to have one yourself.

Good luck.

Answer 7

Its natural.  Do you have hobbies?  Do you feel like your bored?  Do you think a baby will bring unconditional love?

Adults have babies because of this!  

Just think of this way, your brain isn't finished growing yet.  Not until you are 25.  That means your front lobes are still immature.  Maybe you feel safe and happy in your relationship?  this would make the natural tendency to want a child.  Its primal and natural.  Just unwise since your hips havent fully grown yet.  

Read about girls in africa forced to marry at 10 and what happens to their bodies when they have babies so young.  Imagine all of your time gone and your young boyfriend leaving you alone.

f***s, pee and spit on you everyday.  Worrying about money and doing it all with no sleep.  Finding daycare because you have to work and your boyfriend has ten more years of school before he can 'support' you.  

Imagine trying to make sure your child has what it needs in order to prosper and feeling the weight of every decision in order to make that happen.  

Good luck!

Answer 8

noooooooooooooooooo. no babies right now. sooo much can still happen in this stable relationship of yours. You should try baby sitting. You will change your mind. babies are cute and everything but you will regret it. Try babysitting a new born and see what happens.  

Answer 9

You're not alone and there are thousands of girls out there going through what you're going through. Just remember you can bring a baby into the world anytime but once you do bring a baby into the world you won't have any time.

A friend of mine purposefully had a baby at 16, she is a fantastic mum and he is a great kid, but she lost touch with a lot of her friends. It's only now that everyone else is having kids as well that she is getting to know people again. They all had to sleep in one room at her mum's until her son was 3.  She did well but it took them 7 years before they had a proper 'home' for their son and 8 years before they had another baby.

Go to university, travel the world and have some beautiful children in a few more years. I hope you get the same chances I did because it sounds like you have your head screwed on tight.

Answer 10

Whoa back up a minute

ur 15

u havent even been to any proper partys being older is fun . be patient life gets really fun

your prob bored at the moment blah blah blah

wait

babies arent about dressing them and names it is REALLY hard yes it is rewarding but it is hard. you will make new friends and they can all go out but no wait your stuck in it will drive you mad. live your life ,. get a dog or something! i speak from experience here! have fun be young x*x Good luck wit it! woteva ur decision! xx

Answer 11

No you are not going mad,this is a females natural instinct.Go to a family planning clinic & ask if you can hire a virtual baby.They use them in schools in Australia.Stick to your dreams the world awaits you.

Answer 12

I feel the same! since i was 13!!

its not weird but loads of my friend have had babys and there still young, im always with them and their babies and i changed my mind. u have 2 organise a babysiter when ur workin & at school an if u want 2 go out with ur mates. i still love babies but im going 2 wait 4 a few years.

Answer 13

It's normal you'll feel like this for a few months, then you'll think why did I ever want a baby life's great and then back to the baby thing again it's just what happens when your growing up. But trust me live your life to the fullest you've got plenty of time to have a baby.

Answer 14

I'm 32 now but remember feeling exactly the same way at 16. My son is 10 months old now and I'm glad I waited.

Answer 15

You're only mad if you go and have a baby now. Its perfectly normal, I did it at 17...I used to borrow my baby brother for the weekend to put me off for a few months. As you said you have so much ahead of you...babies can and will wait. Just think howmuch better a life you will be able to provide for your children if you wait until youre settled and finished your education and have an established career.  

Answer 16

It's very normal to want a baby, it's refered to as baby fever, and most girls/women will get it at some point. It's just your hormons telling you "HAVE A BABY!" I suspect this developed when humans had a very short lifespan and having a baby young was perfectly acceptable.

My advice is to go and talk to the girls on the 'teen pregnancy' board on gurl.com (http://messageboards.gurl.com/gl-teenpre... They'll tell you how hard pregnancy and parenting is for a young person. And they also give good tips on how to stave off the broodyness. Try babysitting, planning for when you have a baby, some find playing Sims (1 or 2) helps them deal with the broodyness cause they can make their little characters have kids. You could try getting a pet, although only if you really want a pet and are willing to take care of it.

Just keep reminding yourself this isn't a good time to have a baby, remind yourself that it's best to wait until you're financialy stable, have your own home, both you and you partner have jobs etc...

I know it's hard, I've had mild baby fever for years, you just have to hold onto the fact that now is not the best time.

Answer 17

adoption?

Answer 18

i had my daughter at 15 i wudnt change it for the world but it was so hard wait till ur older

Answer 19

buy a doll  

Answer 20

Please do not have a baby with your BF or with anybody. You are far too young to even be considering having a baby. And you can believe it all you want but there's absolutely no way you're in a "serious" relationship at 15. Think of how much growing up you still have to do. Having a baby at your age would honestly ruin the rest of your life. Don't have a baby until you can afford it, and be able to give it all the attention it deserves. How are you going to take care of a baby when you're in the middle of 9th Grade social studies? Come on.

Answer 21

well i havent but it hink i know where you coming..i guess you just have alot of strong emotions for your boyfriend that you would just like to have a tighter bond or something..i dont think your going mad...if you and yourboyfriend ever break up...your mind will go back to normal and become clear and you'll see that you were just blinded by emotions lol [=

Answer 22

No, your hormones are kicking in and you are 100% normal.

Just let logic overrule them. That's what makes us human :) You know you're not ready to give up your own life to look after a baby yet. It's fine and normal to brood though, just as long as you remember that you're going to wait until later.

Good test of that boyfriend, too. If you're really in love, it'll last.

Answer 23

stick to a dolly they dont answer back!

Answer 24

I think it a fairly normal feeling at this age. I certainly had moments like this when I was that age. However, hormones are likely to blame - they are getting all sorted out ready for adulthood, and hormones when they are going crazy like this can make you feel all sorts - broody being one of them.

Be logical about it, you sound like you are being that. The feeling should pass in time. You may well feel like that again in a couple of years - I did when I was about 17 and wasn't in a relationship. I just had this mad notion! Hormones again!

You aren't going mad, so don't worry.

Answer 25

Nahh man. im the same way

im 16 and want a baby. someone to unconditionaly love me and always be there.

i took a class in school last year where you took this doll that cried like 487643 times a day and you had to feed it and stuff till it stopped crying, that detered me a bit cuz it sucked, cut i still want one lol

just let logic win over your hormones, your not ready for a kid.