I'm only 19yrs female and I'm getting to the stage where I feel like killing my boyfriend and myself. Why?

Question

My boyfriend (22) and I (19) is currently staying together. At first, our relationship was going great until I couldn't have everything my way or things changed. I started getting angry and irritated a lot. I would pick on him over the smallest thing possible. It sometimes lead to fights. The bad part about it is that he has an anger problem. Now things have gotten worst for me. I sleep too much, and sometimes I can't fall asleep. When he makes me upset, I be wanting to kill him or myself thinking it would make things better. I try not to think these things but I just can't help myself. Now it has gone to far because when I think these things, I get weird feelings in my hands. It's a strong feeling that makes me wanna do something I shouldn't do. Now I think I need help but how will they help me if others can not. Please, I need some answers. I'm too young to be under depression. And it's hard because I'm starting school soon and I think it will be hard for me to concentrate.

Answer 1

You may not be too young to have depression. It is more common these days. Speak to your doctor, they might be able to help you out. Obviously you moved in with him for some reason, so just give it a chance once you talk to your doctor. If things don't work out after that, then just leave him.  

Answer 2

No your not to young, depression starts from ages 11 to when your old. I'm 15 and I do the same to my BF I just come out of no were and say your playing me you are. He tell me to stop but I did it every time we speak. He got mad but I never noticed to the other day he yelled and said he was done. See the problem doesn't really lay between you and your BF it's yourself. Or else you would just want to kill him. Just get help I didn't I just asked myself why I felt this way and is it worth losing him over. No it wasn't I stopped because I knew inside I had to control myself. I have a anger problem too it's really bad so bad i put holes in walls. But I got help for that you both need help. Or sit down and talk peacefully that's what we did. And it worked out but you two need help. Try talking first then if that doesn't work get help okay. If you love him stay with him and work it out but if you believe there is no point then break it off. If you guys are meant to be together then God won't let you too break up. I tried to break up with him but God wouldn't let me something would happen when I would be with him again. If you guys are the same you guys will stay together if not then you two will break up.

Answer 3

the best thing to  do is to break up with him...there is no piont of killin ur bf and urself..... u got a whole future in frontt of u..so go for itt =>

Answer 4

you need help whether you want to admit to a professional or not. for so many reasons you need to do this. you should know when to leave for one, and the kind of rage you have is not normal. and you need to discover why everything has to be your way or the highway. it sounds like you may be the one with the problem. as im writing this "fix you" by coldplay is playing on my computer. fix yourself before you continue a relationship with anyone

Answer 5

You need to get help, see a Dr NOW..these feelings are not normal and you need help in dealing with them.  

Answer 6

There is no need for bloodshed, just leave him.

Answer 7

Can u speak to sum1 like mom or aunt?

its a good thing that u realize u need help...

act on it and get help.. like u said ur too young to go through this so imajine killing urself... u still have an entire life ahead of you!...

Talk to an adult  and get help now...

Answer 8

I'm not sure what is causing all of these feelings, but you really should talk to a doctor or counselor about it. Because if you're feeling like you want to hurt someone, that's pretty serious. You don't want to hurt him or yourself and regret it later down the road. Depression is very serious and it's best you deal with sooner than later.  

Answer 9

i know u probley dont want my advice since im only 13 but if u are with him and u argue alot then hes the problem u need to break up with him.. and plus u really want a guy with anger managment? i know i wouldnt...and think about it not only u  could hurt urself but u know he could also..i advize u to be carefull with wat u say to him...but like i said hes not worth u hurting urself..belive me i know how u feel and it sucks just go talk to someone ur really close about this. mabey ur best friend? also ur complaining about him and u alot so um yea hes not worth ur time or effort

Answer 10

You're not too young for depression.  You should seriously see a psychologist, maybe even a psychiatrist for some medication to aid you through this time in your life.  Wanting to kill him, or yourself, really isn't going to help anything, is it?  You two should try to work these issues out.  Also, when you said you get too much sleep, or having trouble sleeping, those are both symptoms of depression.  Hope you find a good doctor.

Answer 11

19 years old is not too young to be depresses, research has shown that even infants can feel depression. Go to a doctor and ask to be referred to a psychiatrist who can help you with your emotions.