I'm 27 years old and I have a wonderful 2.5 year old little boy. His father and I divorced over some serious reasons that I don't need to get into here and aren't up for discussion, but needless to say...the relationship ended. We've stayed friends, and eventually became close friends again, and a few months ago decided to become a couple, which has been wonderful despite it's difficulties and we're working everything out that led to our issues before. We're very happy, and very committed. Still, we're not remarried and I like that if things did take a turn for the south...I'm not stuck.
Also, I start nursing school in September, and graduate next June. This has been my dream, and I finally have everything in place to make it work.
Well turns out that, despite best efforts in pregnancy prevention and NOT wanting to be pregnant right, I am pregnant. Or so says the two pink lines on my test from this morning. I called my school immediately, and I can still finish. It won't be when I was supposed to finish, and it will have to all be worked out, but they'll work with me. Regardless, my baby is still due in late April/early May. I'd have to jump into another class to finish, which is fine. But then there is the issue of loans I've already accepted, and grants I've taken.
And then there's the issue of finances. We're working them out, and we have a house and cars and he has a great job, but essentially...we have a LOT of bills. We'd discussed more kids, but meant to start trying late next year.
And then my family. I'm a late bloomer as far as school. They've been so disappointed in me and worried about where my life was going. They're SO happy that I'm finishing school...I've never seen them so proud. They'll be devastated to hear about a new baby. They're helping me pay for daycare while I'm in school, so how can I possibly say "hey by the way...I'm having another baby before I'm done."
I'm devastated. I want more children. I was seriously starting to want them with my ex-ex (complicated thing...being your ex-husband's girlfriend) and enjoyed the little discussions we had about our future. But I didn't want another one like this. For once, things were going right. School was worked out, things with my son are going well, my family is happy, I'm happy, my ex and I are happy together. And now BOOM. Bun in the oven. And I'm not sure I can have an abortion and live with myself. Advice? I'm extremely overwhelmed and confused and could just use an ear and maybe something positive, or at least not scathing if it isn't something kind. Thanks.
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