I'm pregnant and scared...?

Question

It's our third child..we have a 4 year old and a 6 month old. (both girls) I got pregnant only 3 months after giving birth to our second daughter. I'm 21 and my kids are the center of my universe but Im very scared for the third to arrive. what if i can't handle 3 kids emotionally? physically? financially?? I do not believe in abortion and adoption is not an option..any advise?

Answer 1

Honey don't worry about that. So far you are handling two kids already emotionally you will be able to handle it because you are a mommy. Physically try and get sleep when they go to sleep. Hopefully they can take naps at the same time. Try and get your best buddy, your mom, your hubby's mom or your sister to help out with the children once in a while. This should really help with. Especially if they can maybe cook for you, clean the house and/or do the laundry. These people will be more willing to help because you are important to them.

Finacially you and your hubby must figure out different expense plans and payments on current debts.This should put your budgets in order.

Try this site: http://www.frugalvillage.com/budget.shtm...

Good luck to you!!!

Answer 2

i have three kids and the first is 10 second 2 third 9 months. belive it or not once you have this baby all that will go away. i was scared too i thought boy what did i get myself into. my first two are girls then third was a boy. we are hoping for a boy the forth time. my husband works in a factory and i work at fast food. we make it fine. if it makes you feel better financially a  baby cost about $30. a month if you are no wic. and buy diapers in bulk

Answer 3

well um getting prego 3 months after you just had a kid is really bad for your body and for you emotionally.  Maybe you should have been more careful or thoughtful and used a condom etc.  As far as not beign prepared financially or anything that is something you have to think about if you dont believe in adoption or abortion you will have to make it work, but it is really both of your faults for being sort of stupid, sorry to say.  youll have to deal with it all, and some how will work out

Answer 4

If you are religious, pray about it. It'll all work out.

Answer 5

Well, to make you feel  better, 3 is the magic number :] Yes, of course your nervous, i mean why shouldn't you be!? However instead of looking at all the wrong things, think of all the great things. Your having another baby, another life to love. Think, your bringing another beautiful little person into this universe. Just when your having a bad day and your thinking it's all going downhill from here look at your kids, and how lucky you are to have them, and how much they love you. I hope a little of this helped. :]  

Answer 6

I can understand why you might be scared. If you have taken care of two kids emotionally then its shouldn't be too much harder especially since your youngest two will be so close together in age. It is a lot easier for them to entertain each other. If you are 21 then I am sure you will have the physical stamina too. I am only 21 and I know I keep up with my kids a lot better than my sister in law does who is 30. I can't really say financially because I don't know your exact circumstance. If you have another girl then you won't have to worry about buying clothes since you already have two. Also while they are babies the only thing you really need to worry about is food and if you nurse then you have that covered too. I would try to use that time to see if your family can put some money into savings. If you have friends and family who want to throw you a baby shower you could suggest that they give you diapers and wipes or else cash to offset the expenses of a baby. I know it is overwhelming but if you have successfully begun to raise two daughters I am sure you will do wonderful with another :)

Answer 7

Pray, pray, pray.  I know you are scared.  I was scared when I had my second son.  God always makes a way though.  He won't let his people go with needs unmet.  He wouldn't have blessed you with this third child if he didn't think you were capable emotionally, physically, or financially.  Find new, creative ways to make ends meet (online.) I'll be praying for you.  God bless.

Answer 8

well why didnt you ask yourself this before you got pregnet.. sorry i dont want an opinion on this... i just wanted to say that.

Answer 9

even though i guess by the 1st, or 2nd you would have realized a 3rd wasnt an option for you, i would say if you are a good mother to 2, you should be able to show just as much love to the third. I think maybe after your 3rd child is born you should get put on birth control, or if you know that you are " satisfied" with your 3 get your tubes tied girl. Your only 21 youve been a mother since you were 17, your a lot stronger than you realize.

Answer 10

ur 21 to bad keep it

Answer 11

I would also recommend prayer. You'll handle it, God provides for us all and you guys just have to find ways to cut back and shop at more affordable places. If you are having a girl, save all the clothes and toys. There are several resources to assist if you need financial help. Family, friends and neighbors can also help out. Emotionally: you and your husband/bf will have all the LOVE the baby needs for nurturing. You'll make it!!! Have faith. So many families have done it before you without all of today's resources. Research! Congratulations.  

Answer 12

You can have your 4 year old enrolled in a daycare if you can afford it.You could hire a nanny that comes every so often ti help with the kids. You can also ask a friend or family member to help out..

Answer 13

well then you shouldn't have had a fun night of partying...haha.

Answer 14

You decide to have s*x without protection. It's on you. You need to be strong and get over your fears. There are alot of females worse off than you are. If you need help, Find out what government help you can get. Good Luck!!

Answer 15

well..werent u scared the first time around too?...and in that 9 months werent u preparing for the kids arrival?...im sure u can handle another child...just next time use a condom and another birth control...ur odds of getting pregnant are pretty much nil...there is that new birth control insert that goes in every 5 years made especially for pregnant women with children that dont want n e more for the time being...it has a commercial out...u should try that because 3 children will be very hectic and u probably wont remember a pill everyday...but i suggest that maybe u take some parenting classing and tell them that this will be ur third child and u are still gettign a hang of the first 2...and that u need ways to cope with that many children...im sure the person in charge will have some pretty good knowledge being that they have seem so many pregnant women and have probably experienced a good amount of stress from their children lol...but u need to make a budget plan for sure...and stick to it...if u cannot afford another child and there is no possible way for ur current kids to have a decient supported life, then iwould suggest that u put it up for adoption...so many people with out children that cant have n e want to adopt and their choice of age is usually newborn or close to newborn because they want the bond to be strong and they want ot experience everything that a parent with a new child can...there are many people that want a child, u just have to search and interview for great parents.

Answer 16

I totally understand where you are coming from. I had my child at a young age, now they are 5, 3, almost 2, and 8 months old. AS you can tell all are close in age.

It will work out for you though. After a few weeks of having the 3rd baby around it will seem like you have been doing it forever.

Remember there are places out there and people who can help you if you need it.