I'm really nervous about high school

Question

Hey! I'm going to be starting high school in a couple weeks and I'm really nervous. I mean besides the regular anxiety of going to a new school, I had two events happen this summer which make me especially nervous. Before I get into depth of what happened, I should probably tell you that I'm a really nice person and I don't do anything which would cause anyone else to feel aggression towards me.

Anyways... so I'm also a really shy person who doesn't easily trust I guess you could say. And a while back ago, I told my friend a secret. It was kind of accidental. Luckily, my friend is trustworthy; I know for a fact she wouldn't tell anybody. Occasionally, we would discuss my secret. We would use sort of a code language so nobody could understand what we were talking about. Apparently, our code language was easier to decipher than we originally thought. About a day later, I received a text from a foreign number saying,” I know your secret..." Now let me tell you... at my school, I hardly give my number out and I'm not really a desirable person to text, so I knew that this person had to have known. I responded back to them, "Who are you what secret". About a month later they respond," >:} Do what I tell you to do and maybe I'll tell you what I know." So later that day I was looking through my contacts on my phone, then I see the name of somebody I never added, Satan. Then, I see that Satan's number matched the person who knew my "secret". It was really creepy. Later on they kept leaving messages on my phone, but for some reason I couldn't access it. They still currently leave messages on my phone, but I don't think that my message machine works for some reason. Now I'm nervous that they are going to tell everybody my secret. I know it sounds like a prank, but everything was too coincidental. I mean, they texted me the day after I confessed. This secret could ruin my reputation (not that it's so great now). I mean it's really humiliating.

Additionally, I found out that the guy I like's close friend has been taking a bunch of the popular guys in my grade by my house and looking in the window while I practice the piano. I have known the guy for a really long time and he lives like right around the corner from me. Besides the times I've seen a group of guys I know looking in my house through their car window, I've only seen them riding bikes by once… but I'm pretty sure one of them said, "She's always practicing." I'm humiliated. :( I mean I'm nervous that he will tell everybody I love to play the piano. He has done that type of thing to people before, and it's considered really dorky for people my age to enjoy playing piano (classical at that). I'm not letting him stop me from doing the things I love most, but now I feel like I have no control, like everybody else is taking over my life. I'm a really private person who carries many secrets so I'm just nervous that in high school, everyone will discover my secrets and mock me. Is there any advice you could give to clam my anxiety?

Answer 1

heyy

lemme first of all tell you that im goin to high school too.

i know how u feel, itsz okay to feel nervous but there shoiuld be no reason for us to freak over it, because after all itsz still just a skool. but the good thing about high school is that no one if going to care at wht u do(unlike middle school) because everyone is going to be lost in their own worlds.

about the "secret"thing look, listin to me if they were going to tell some one they would have already did. and for a fact i dont even think that they knew. im saying that they didnt know yur secret but knew u had one sisce u were talking in code w/ ur bff nd they decided to take advantage of a sweet and nyce and shy girl like u so relax. plus skools over so chill.

and about the whole guy thing dont be embraced at wht you do because im a music freak too, i play the piano nd the guitar so chill. if you evr see them again b  like "yo, atleasti do someting cunstructive  that i enjoy unllike yu nd ur friendsz who do nun buh stare in pples houses " nd tell hym to get a lyfe:)

hope i helped;)<3  

Answer 2

I just went through my first year of high school and I'm shy like you. Usually if you mind your own business then others will leave you alone, but i guess that's not happening for you. I'm glad you're not quitting the piano because of them, because if you really like it then why should you quit just because others want you to quit? If you're really good then they're probably just jealous. I think if you show them that you don't care what that they think it's dorky eventually they'll leave you alone

The satan things a little harder to deal with. How important is this secret? Would it be really bad if everyone found out? Worst case would be that it is a really embarrassing secret. If it were me, i'd probably report this satan kid, but i understand if you don't want to do that. If not, see what he wants you to do, but don't do anything you really don't want to do. However, if the secret does get out, show everyone he makes fun of you that you don't care what they think, and tell them to mind there own business, and they'll probably back down soon

Answer 3

Wow that's a lot to deal with. Without knowing your secret its hard to say but since you don't want it to get out I'll try my best. It does sound like a prank and u said that they leave messages on your phone. Most of the time you can check messages that are on your cell phone from another phone in case it stops working. About the guys playing the piano is a gift if you can do it well I know Im breaking 4 generations of tradition by not doing it. You could try something other than classical but thats a personal decision don't make it based on guys looking in your window. And a promise at least one of those guys are wishing they could be with someone who had talent like that. About highschool, its hard it is a popularity contest and parents won't understand how its like now. But if your secret got out  usually there's someone else's secret out the next week that will seem so much gossip worthy. You may not have control over everything but you do about the choices you make  

Answer 4

Your anxiety level is quite high. Do not be afraid to discus this matter with your parents. It you are afraid to do this talk to your Minster, Priest or Rabbi about this. If this talk to your high school counselor. What I'm trying to say is to talk to some body that you trust. Try to relax.  

Answer 5

i cannot be bothered to read that, but i have one warning..

watch out for the chavs and you will survive :)

Answer 6

tell an adult about the whole phone thing, because it is ridiculous for someone to do that no matter how funny they think it is and it sounds like they could be hacking into ur phone. are you sure it isn't your friend texting from another number to pick on you? and about the boys, just try doing some other things, when you think they will be riding by. it will broaden your horizons. plus if they ride by you could say hi to them so that they know you have a life other than piano. personally, im in high school too and i think its cool for people to play piano. =)

Answer 7

I'm going to high school in 10 days

Answer 8

It might suck for you at first, or it might be amazing. Regardless, by junior year, you'll realize that everyone in high school is very immature and who you are in high school and what your high school peers think of you means absolutely nothing. High school is nothing. College is where you find the real you. Everyone is done growing up (for the most part) so it allows you to have fun and be mature with your peers and discover the yourself.

So my abvice is: be yourself now. Do what you enjoy and don't think about what people think of you. Focus on school and get good grades so you can go to a good college. Good luck.  

Answer 9

CALM DOWN!!!!!!! Take a deep breath and relax. The people driving by your house are probably just driving by to go somewhere and they look up and there you are practicing the piano. Don't worry about how you love playing the piano. I think that's really cool. I played the piano for a while. Now I love to play the trumpet. With the whole texting thing, I think its really creepy, so you should tell your parents about the texting, but tell them that you don't have a secret (if they don't know the secret) and that this person is just creeping you out. Other than that, just calm down and you'll be okay. You have friends (like the one who knows your secret) and they can help you too. Its all okay.  

Answer 10

Throw out your phone, and get a new number. Maybe make a journal on your computer using word. Make a tough password for your account. This way you can let out secrets but nobody can access them.  Don't tell anyone what happened and ignore any questions about the incident. Tell your parents, and let them know everything. They may ask difficult questions but they may offer a lot of help.

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Answer 11

I know your secret...you perv..

Answer 12

yea make it samller im not reading that

Answer 13

im going to highschool as well and i just try not to worry.  as for the piano thing, dont worry about them telling people.  even if they did what would be the big deal?  its just an instrument, TONS of people are gonna be playing it in highschool anyway, we actually have it as an optional class at the school im going to.  anyways for the cell phone thing, i dont lie, its super creepy.  i would say just tell your parents that you are getting unwanted texts and want a new number.  its just someone messing with your head.  they may or may not even know your secret which may not be that bad after all.  it may seem bad now, but is it really something that could haunt you for 4 years of highschool?  people won't remember it that long even if they did find out so try not to worry. :) you can email me if you wanna talk about anything else. :)

Answer 14

Forget about the phone thing. Whoever it is, don't even try to read the messages just delete them and the number. You're probably over thinking this whole thing. I don't know what the secret is but it couldn't be as bad as you think.

Piano is cool. Be proud of your skills. I don't think anyone would go to the bother to looking throught the window at someone they think is dorky, and if they are....I think that's an awful lot sadder than playing the piano, don't you?