I'm really nervous about my second pregnancy!?

Question

I am about 5 weeks into my second pregnancy and although my first was pretty close to perfect, something is bothering me. I just don't feel the same. I even had the doctors exam me, but they haven't found anything wrong so far. I have sharp pain in my lower abdomen, and i mean LOWER ab. I haven't had any other symptoms other than I just don't feel myself. I'm nervous something is wrong...am I losing my mind?

Answer 1

stop worrying, that's the best way to create something bad. I had pains all through my second pregnancy.  

Answer 2

if it makes you feel any better, in the beginning of my second pregnancy... until about 10 weeks I had sharp pains in my lower abdomen, and I am 18 weeks now.

It is normal to fear the worse.

good luck

Answer 3

No you are not necessarily losing your mind. Intuition is a powerful thing and not easily ignored. Does it mean you have a valid reason to be concerned? Possibly. But, at this early in the stage of your pregnancy there really isn't much to do. You have already done what you needed to by getting examined by your doctor. Sometimes women miscarry. When they do, it tends to be more common in the first trimester. Unfortunately nothing can be done to prevent a first trimester miscarriage. They can tell you to "take it easy" or "put your feet up" but the bottom line is that if your body has found something wrong with the fetus growing in your tummy it's natural response is to abort. Honestly though I feel it is a bit early and premature for you to be worrying about the what if's and the maybe's. Listen to your instinct in the sense that you keep on top of your doctor exams and treat your body and your baby with the utmost care. But, let your mind relax. You will cause too much undo stress on yourself obsessing about a problem that at this point isn't able to be identified if it exists at all. One last thing, all pregnancies are different. I have three girls but I have had four pregnancies. My first was a miscarriage at 12 weeks. My second was full term (actual a week late) and weighed 7lbs. 3oz. My third pregnancy, like you I knew something wasn't quite right, I had placental abruption at 27 weeks gestation. She weighed 2lbs. and was 14" long. She is now 3 1/2 and perfectly healthy. My fourth pregnancy she came at 36 weeks with no additional complications and weighed 7lbs exactly. All my girls gave me morning sickness and with each one it was worse than the one before. Only my last two pregnancies came with any swelling and the one pregnancy where I had a major issue was just dubbed "a freak incident". I didn't do drugs or have an abusive relationship nor had I been in a car accident....it just happened and I was fortunate to have a happy outcome. So point is all pregnancies feel different because they are different. Relax. Don't worry until your doctor tells you it is time to worry. Okay? Take care and good luck!

Answer 4

Google "round ligament pain". Sometimes this can happen in the first trimester. It's just stretching of muscles that feels uncomfortable. I didn't have it with my first son but I have it now (in 2nd trimester).

Also, try not to stress out too much, but I did have that "something's not right" feeling with my second pregnancy and I ended up losing the baby around 9 or 10 weeks.  I didn't feel sick and I had this impending doom feeling. My hormones weren't doubling regularly but we had an ultrasound with a heartbeat... then a week after the ultrasound I started cramping and bleeding.

In your case it may be nothing more than hormones causing your stress. Just in case, send your baby lots of love and tenderness if only in meditation.  

Answer 5

i'm the same stage and it's my second pregnancy too - i know what you mean.  I think that this time round I realise what comes at the end of it - a beautiful baby you love with all your heart, and the thought that anything could go wrong this time is even more terrifying.  I'm worrying about every twinge and cramp.  I just want to press fast forward to know everything's ok.  I think once i have my scan i'll feel better (unless there's two babies and i'll have a heart attack!) and talking to midwives and my obstetrician will help.  I'm just trying to stay calm!  I know i need to rest more, but it's hard with a toddler!  Good luck - hope you have a smooth pregnancy x Forgot to say i'm having the same pain as we speak - what are those little humans up to?

Answer 6

i felt the same way at the beginning of this pregnancy. you feel everything differently, sooner and stronger with the second pregnancy compared to the first one since your body is more prepared to accommodate the baby and you are more used to feeling the pregnancy feelings so you will notice them more sooner.

not to mention there might be different feelings that you aren't so used to feeling that may freak you out, but just realize every pregnancy is different. it wasn't until my last OB appt at 23 weeks, when my doctor confirmed all tests were normal and ultrasound looked good, that i feel secure with this pregnancy. i was convinced something would go wrong, but its normal to feel that way.

i think the biggest thing, personally, was having a relatively easy, complication-free pregnancy and first baby so i get scared i won't get off so lucky this time...but it seems like i'm getting off even luckier as i am happier this pregnancy and more comfortable. once you get over your fears, you will just learn to roll with the aches and pains and trust that your body is just better able to prepare for giving birth this time and that will likely lead to a few more early aches and pains.

congratulations and good luck!!!

now my biggest fear is whether the baby will be as easy to manage with a toddler running around!! :)

**to add: the pain you described is normal at 5 weeks of pregnancy and either went unnoticed the first pregnancy or may not have been as prominent but its not something to worry too much about.

Answer 7

Hello.You will feel a bit different every time.The pain could be just your womb stretching with the growing baby.Unless you have bleeding with the pain it is nothing to worry about.Take care of yourselves,eat healthy and get plenty of rest.Your body knows how to do this.

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