I'm really really scared of growing older???

Question

Well right now, I'm 15 in a few days but lately, im been ahving crazy thoughts about growing old. I know my dads been having a mid life crisit and its not good and I know alot of couples that grow old together get really depressed cuz they have kids, they lose the romance, they lose the s*x, they can have their freedom anymore. they have to do alot of work

and pay the bills and divorce, and money problems, plus hating your job. its so scary!!!! yeah im rambling but im so scared. i wanna stay young forever. any advice?

Answer 1

Make choices you can live with. Always put effort  in your relationships instead of just expecting that person to stick around. Be true to yourself and your values. Try to be responsible with things you have, especially when its important. Get a job you enjoy instead of one you hate.

I'm in my late 20's and aging doesn't bother me. Having to go back to my teen years would. I like seeing where I am in life as each year passes. I love watching my kids grow. I adore that my relationship with my husband gets better each year (my high school sweetheart!). To me the future is a positive thing.

Answer 2

Don't worry, if you look at it likes its a whole problem, you'll scare yourself too much.

I have learned to take things slowly, day by day, step by step, especially if its a bigger problem.

And don't worry about the whole losing the romance deal, my grandparents are like 60 something, and my grandfather worships the ground my grandmother walks on. If it's right, then everything will last.

And yes, they'll lose the s*x a lot, but hey, they could break a hip, you know.

Answer 3

It's normal for kids to start worrying about growing up.  You are at an age now where you understand more about responsiblities and what lies ahead for you as an adult and it scares you.  Honestly, it should because becoming an adult is not easy.   Not all couples lose romance after kids.  That is a falicy and you should not concern yourself with something like that because you are waayyyy too young to worry about kids.  Don't sweat the stuff right now that you are not old enough to worry about.  Divorce, kids, jobs...these are things you worry about later on.  Right now you should be worried about passing grades, making it into college and just getting thru high school in one piece.  The other stuff falls into place.  Not everyone has a soap opera life.  Some people actually grow up and end up very happy.

Answer 4

oh my gosh I know! You are sooooo not alone! about 6 months before I turned 13 I cried for a few weeks about my childhood being over! I totally know the feeling! I dont really have much advice (but I've been there before!) but love life to the fullest and never mind tomorrow LIVE today and not fret about growing older since it wastes time TODAY and you'll never ever be able to live today again so make each day special. Trust me you WILL feel better eventually! Oh god when I went through my phase I thought I'd feel sentimental for the REST OF MY LIFE, but some how I'm okay now.

Just another thing to help you, when I went through my "phase" I was jet lagged and stressed on top of it so maybe the stress of your dad's mid life crisis has triggered this off.

So now you know how this started, that you are not alone and that someone has got through this, sometimes it's just best to let it out or talk to your friends I found out ALL of them (that's right not just one but ALL OF THEM) felt the same way too, but to different extents.

You can do it.

Oh PS during my "phase" I ALWAYS thought the worst possible things and went on and on some times you need someone to tell you you are being irrational.

Answer 5

Don't worry about it. Make good decisions.  It's just the unknown. You'll be fine. If you're really worried, see a counselor, it's bothering you that much.

Answer 6

DUDE ME TOO. all i think about for hours on end is what i'm gonna do after i graduate,(im gonna be in 11th grade) the scary thing for me is the college part and the living alone part. i dont know why but i hear my friends and they're like "i cant stand my parents i just want to move out" but i seriously have a real good relationship with my parents and my sisters. i also worry about that stuff about who i'm going to marry or where i'm going to live or what im going to work for or if im going to get a divorced and lots of stuff like that.

what i cant tell you and i have heard of it from lots of people is that these years are the most confusing cause of all the hormones messing with your neurons and i dont know what. i honestly believe them, i have fallen into depressions and panic attacks and lots of anxiety and that stuff and i always grow out of it in like three months. i have also heard a very valuable piece of advice and its to finish school and then go for marriage cause it makes life a whole ton easier and what i mean by easier is not having 10 kids before 25.

okay so im straying from the answer and all i have to say is just be ready for whatever happens and always grab life by the horns and dont let yourself be tossed around by it. hope everything goes well

Answer 7

everybody is scared of life after they graduate high school

it would be abnormal if you werent

my advice

get a job that you like by going to college, etc..

hold off on the kids, dont have kids when your still in your 20's

marry somebody you actually love, dont get married right away

and just enjoy life