I'm really scared about College.?

Question

I don't know anyone going to the same college.

And I'm really shy at talking to new people.

I know people say that you should act confident; but how can I if I feel unconfident inside?

I'm scared people will hate me, 'cause people always expect me to be horrible.

I've tried to find some people who are going to the College, but I can't seem to find them.

I'm really scared; is there any tips for making friends, talking to new people, making people think your nice?

Idk, any advise would be reallyyyy good!

Thanks :]

Answer 1

There's really nothing to be afraid of, but for starters make sure you...

go to your classes prepared with the necessary supplies (notebook, pencil, pen etc.),

get to class on time or early so you'll find a seat next to a friendly face,

do make conversations with your neighbors/classmates if you can,

listen to the lecture so you know what's going on,

and don't be worried about what others are thinking about you; they're not there to study you!

and ask questions if you don't understand something,

Remember all this but do go to school looking presentable and confident with how you look because chances are you'll have to introduce yourself in front of the class!

So practice and be prepared to say why you're there, your mayor, and a little about yourself!

Good luck, welcome to the real world.

Answer 2

I understand where you're coming from.I'm the same way I'm the shy type but the best advice that I can give you is to just be yourself don't worry about what no one else has to say. I'm in college now and it was hard for me to make friends and talk to new people but when you show yourself friendly and be yourself it will all fall into place as it did for me and this is just my freshman year in college.

Answer 3

3 steps, introduce yourself, make small chat and if possible chat bout bigger stuff like interests. stick to her like a pikachu from yellow version.

good luck.

Answer 4

Relax.... just about everyone feels the way you do the first year,  at least for a while.   The fact that you don't know anyone from your old school who is going to your college is a bonus,   no one will expect anything from you.   It's a chance to make a new start and redefine yourself as the person you would like to be.   Be cool,  don't be frantic,  the other kids want to make friends and are just as shy as you are,  but they may not have the guts to admit it.     So..... your school will surely provide lots of opportunities to mix with your peers - take advantage of every one.  Go to the mixers,  the breakfasts, the orientation, the everything.   Join a club that is about something you are genuinely interested in .....  you'll find people there who share your interests.... and that makes socializing easy.       and..... don't make the stupid mistake of being so desperate to have friends, that you latch onto so lamebrains who are into drugs or crime,  or negativity.  Be yourself and the friends will seek you out.   You'll have a ball....guaranteed!

Answer 5

Don't worry I understand exactly how you feel.

Worrying about it won't change what will happen - you just have to get on with it.

When you go to college plenty of people will be like you - scared, nervous, having nobody to talk to. But that's why college is good because you all come together and make friends.

You will need to talk to somebody at one point, whether it's to ask to sit next to them or get directions to a class. Once you do that it will seem easier and gradually you will start recognizing faces.

I am sure you will make friends, just prepare yourself with the right equipment and go in with a smile. You don't need to act completely confident, because it will come to you naturally in time. Just try to smile and have fun!

Answer 6

honestly, just be yourself.  itll work 100%.  colleges are huge, and theres tons of people in your situation, so you WILL make friends.  youre one of the many in this situation.  dont worry about it

and if that profile pic is you, then you DEFINATELY dont have to worry..

Answer 7

just be open! look for people willing to be friends!

Answer 8

There is an old saying that goes, "To have friends, one must be a friend".  An old Indian saying goes, "Yesterday I went out to find my enemies and I found no friends.  Today I went out to find my friends and I found no enemies".  It all is about attitude and not psyching yourself out of a good relationship.  Be yourself (You can't be anyone else.) and realize that many of the other students going to college for the first time feel just like you do.  In my graduating class of 5,000, I can guarantee at least 50% (including me) were just like you when we first arrived at college 4 years before.

Your first possibility will be the roommate you will be assigned to share your room in your dorm.  This person is the one you will see the first thing in the morning and probably the last thing at night.  You can make this person your best friend for life if you try.  I met my roommate when I needed a friend just like you do.  We have been friends for over 32 years now.  We have been there when we needed each other all through the years and we will continue on till one of us dies.  The same can be true for you.

Another way to make friends is to find a Bible believing evangelical church to attend.  Most in a college town will have a college/career Sunday School class or youth group that meet together.  I'm sure there will be one or two there who could be your friend and you will have a support group if trouble ever happens.  Most will be treating each other the way Jesus would have people treat each other according to His principles of love.  There shouldn't be any threat to you that way and you should be able to feel welcome.  I can also tell you that I met my wife in church and we have been married for over 30 years.

Hang in there kiddo.  It isn't as bad as you think it will be.  Just do your best and it all will work out.

Answer 9

Me 2 i haven't been to school for 4 years i was very popularly at school n people liked me.But i dont no anybody at the college i'm going to.People say just act your self n just start to talk to people.Good luck

Answer 10

Every freshmen is anxious about going to college. You are not alone.

There will be many people in your dorm that you will like, they will like you and you will get along.

The easiest way to meet people with similar interests is to join a club. It odes not have to be a sorority. If you are shy a sorority may not be the best idea, however, close and lasting bonds are formed in the greek societies.

You do not have to talk to get along with people. Listening is a very valuable tool. Sometimes, less said is better.

Don't be too worried about it and keep an open mind. You will be meeting many different people with many different values.

You are about to make new best friends and have great times to remember forever.

Answer 11

If it makes you feel any better college is not like high school. There's not this popularity contest going on, where you can't survive if you don't have friends. I'm not saying you don't need friends in college, I'm saying there's not the same pressures involved.

College is a chance for you to start over fresh. People won't assume your horrible, because nobody will know you or your background. You will be surprised by the diversity of people. Just be yourself and when you sit next to someone, always say hi and introduce yourself. If you meet someone who seems friendly, continue to sit by them and strike up small conversations.

Answer 12

pfft,. youre a cute girl all you gotta do is wait for the friends / boys to come to you.

Answer 13

here's a good tip talk to people

good luck:)

Answer 14

Totally understandable to be scared about college, but you ARE NOT the only freshman (i'm assuming you are, sorry if your not), that is scared and you need realize that. There are hundreds of people feelings the same way you are.

If you are living on campus then the best thing to do is to get to know your roomates, go to dinner with them, etc....and once classes start you will start to meet more people...believe me. You can also join intramural sports teams, or clubs to meet more people. The first step is moving in and talking to your roomates and BE YOURSELF....you cant make anyone "think" your nice...it will just fall into place.

You will be scared at first, home sick, etc...but that will pass and you will really start to have fun...

Good Luck and honestly ENJOY IT, I wish I could go back to college...it was the funnest time of my life. :)