I'm really scared and need some encouragement?

Question

I know this question doesn't belong in this category but I'm looking for mature people that have family and responsibilities that can relate.

I have had cancer (about 10 yrs ago) and it was h**l. I'm ok now and have been for th last 8 yrs. I hate going to the doctor's office more than anything in the world. I have started having some scary symptoms, so I went to WebMD and listed them and read the results. Each possible conclusion called for surgical testing/evaluation and treatment. Here's the scary part. I do not do well under anesthesia. I am scared to death to be put under. I'm crying now just thinking about it. What can I do to get over this fear and see a doc before this gets any worse. I have a husband and 3 kids to worry about and I dont think I could be told that I have cancer, Again.

Answer 1

Ok - I am going to tell you something that might scare you, but hopefully will motivate you to get to the doctors; if not for yourself then for your husband and three children because I am sure that they love you very much.

A good friend of mine had breast cancer. She went 12 years in remission. Then all of a sudden her stomach started hurting her. 3 weeks later she passed away from cancer. It was extremely fast. The scary part is that she went to the doctors and made sure to take good care of herself. But no one ever caught it in time. It really hurt because the world lost a great person - and I am sure that there are many people in your life that would feel the same way I do about my friend if something happened to you. I saw how much it hurt her husband and 2 children...so even if your scared of the doctor, you should be more scared to live without your family. They love you and they want you around.

I'm sorry if this wasn't quite the answer you were looking for - I'm just trying to pass on my experience.

Good luck to you! If you need encouragement think of your family...and turn to your family for help. I am sure they will be by your side.

EDIT: I know you don't know me at all - but if you get a chance or think of it send me an email and let me know how you are doing. If someone who doesn't even know you cares about how you are doing, think of how your family will feel...

My thoughts and prayers are with you

Answer 2

I hope this is encouraging ill keep u n my prays i have faith that all things are possible  

Answer 3

I think that if would be very difficult for you everyday if you really do think that there is something wrong with you and you do not have a doctor check you out

Don't go alone, not for the dr. appointment or for tests or for results. Be with someone.

I am going to share something with you that was said to me - although the situation was entirely different from yours - and that is you are thinking that you might have cancer but "you don't know that", it may not be at all.  

Answer 4

Prayer, prayer and more prayer. I have always depended on prayer and it has never let me down. :)

Answer 5

Go through with it. I know this may not seem encouraging now, but what happens, happens and you can't change it. I can tell you are strong and if it is cancer again (heaven forbid) you have probably caught it early enough that it won't be as bad as last time. Although I'm not going to lie chemo and radiation are two of the worst things cancer survivors tell me has happened to them. But don't dwell on the negative, live life to it's fullest and don't let an illness hold you down!

Answer 6

You are a fighter. The fear is not going away until you get all the right information. You need to let your husband know. He is on your side.  

Answer 7

I am sorry but if you think you have cancer than go to the doctor asap it will only get worst.I know how you feel about being scared of surgery but before they though you into a big surgery they will do a biopsy which is a very simply thing and they will just numb the area.Please go.Once again I am sorry

Answer 8

Hi~

I can't imagine what your going through but the longer you wait, if there is a problem then it could get worse.  My advice is that you see a Dr. as soon as possible.  Your already scared and worried so perhaps going to the Dr. would actually be somewhat of a relief.

If you do have a problem then the sooner you get treated the better.  Waiting and worrying is not going to do anything except make you feel worse.  My boss had cancer and she started getting water retention in her legs, she was worried but went to see her Dr. right away, her tests came back cancer free and the Dr. prescribed her medication to reduce the swelling.

Hon the sooner you go the better.

Answer 9

Remember!

Cross bridges ONLY when you get to them!

Take this one step at a time!

Answer 10

You are a cancer survivor. Use that as a source of strength to help you go through with what you are dealing with now.

You don't know what the problem is - but you have concerns. You have two choices:

1. Do nothing and hope they go away.

2. Do something and find answers and get on with your life.

If you have cancer and do nothing, you know what your future holds.

If you do not have cancer, seeing the doctor will help you understand what your problem(s) are and help resolve them.

If you have cancer, seeing the doctor will help you understand if it is treatable. If it is treatable - you have 3 kids and a husband who would probably like you to stay around for a while. If it isn't treatable, you need to know that, too so that you can get your life in order & undergo treatment to make the most of the time you have left.

But until you see the doctor, you will likely spend each day absolutely misreable and filled with fear and worry. Is that how you want to live?

Remember, you ARE a cancer survivor. Go find out what is going on and make the most of the rest of your life. Taking action now could mean the difference between living months or years. Don't put it off.

Answer 11

I hope that all of this works out for you. It's hard dealing with something so detrimental and focusing on being a good wife and mom.

The best advice that I can give you is to not try to do it all by yourself. There are certainly lots of people in your life (not the least of which is your husband) that you can lean on for support. This is what these people are for! The encouragement that you seek will come from them and it will be readily available. You have to tell people what you need, though- especially men. When the shoe is on the other foot, be that person for someone else.

The power of prayer is another good thing to lean on. God loves you and he answers 'knee-mail' too! When you can't make it your Faith in God will carry you through- I promise.

Better or worse, face your problem with a positive mind. It may not seem easy, but it is. Think of the people that count on you- big and small. They are counting on you now to be positive, strong, and focused. And those little smiles are more important than anything, right. Mine sure are...

Talk to your doctor about the anesthesia. I don't know what exactly this entails, but if it is something surgical, perhaps an epidural is an alternative choice. I have had both knees scoped and I had those. Maybe he knows about something that you don't. That's why those people make the big bucks!

Keep your chin up. Our family will pray for you.  

Answer 12

Don't worry. Alot of times people are scared to find out if they have something and find out it was something not so bad. Going online to find out is not the way. Go to the doctor. They will professionally test you and it may be something that can be treated with medication. You should know from experience that even the worst news can be handled and treated if it is detected early. Be strong. Whatever the outcome, you will beat it!!!!!

Answer 13

You don't say what it could possible be but now they do not always put you under. A lot of things you stay awake for. I did on my last surgery. You need to go and see if there is something is wrong with you. The longer you wait the bigger the chance is that it can't be treated. It could get worse while you wait.  

Answer 14

You have more strength then you give yourself credit for. You beat cancer you could do it again if you had to. I know from experience that when you are that sick you kinda turn into a hypochondriac. Don't let web MD diagnosis you.

I want you to take a look at those sweet faces that love you so much they would probably die for you and they call you Mom. Let them be part of your strength to go get checked out.You have nothing to fear but fear itself.  You an do anything take a deep breath and remember you are woman hear me ROAR!  

Answer 15

Im not being insensitive, but really, try to suck it up. I know in some ways what you are feeling. I am TERRIFIED of sergery, but when they said something was wrong with my baby, and it was Csection or bust, I had to put me aside and think about her. Think about your family, they are all the strength you could ever need. (And God!!!)

Good luck! I will pray for you!

Answer 16

You have to go to the DR. for your kids tell your husband or a close friend how afraid you are and have them go with you, most importantly PRAY through God all things are possible put it in his hands ask for strength, and courage,good luck God Bless You and your family.