I'm really self conscious?

Question

ive had acne since i was a baby and im fine with it, its who i am. but i was always called ugly when i was little and no guy ever liked me and i accepted myself like that. but now all these people say im really beautiful and pretty and i just really dont see it. when i talk to a guy and he compliments me, of course i say thank you but they always say im crazy for not being confident.when i go out on a date or out with a guy i like, i always try to cover up because i think i look ugly. and i know "confidence is s**y" but i've tried so much and i just cant get confident in myself. im sorry if im coming across as a self absorbed girl who's just looking for compliments but im really not. i need help becoming confident in myself because i think im driving guys away when i say i dont think im pretty or a good person. how can i build confidence?

all opinions welcome :) and thank you :)

Answer 1

I have a similar problem with self consciousness. and it effects my confidence. but i always know that not all guys are that superficial in the first place! but you'll be happy to hear that you're probably being very hard on yourself. if people compliment you quite often, don't doubt that they're all lying. because they're not. they can't ALL be lying to you. there are 6 billion people in the world. at least millions are bound to find you as gorgeous. i'm effected because of how an "ugly perception" of myself makes me feel: lazy, unimportant, and well, ugly. even though i know i'm not any of those things. there are some days that i just don't feel my best-and that's okay to not always look perfect. because other people don't see you the same way.

Answer 2

I have a similar problem with self consciousness. and it effects my confidence. but i always know that not all guys are that superficial in the first place! but you'll be happy to hear that you're probably being very hard on yourself. if people compliment you quite often, don't doubt that they're all lying. because they're not. they can't ALL be lying to you. there are 6 billion people in the world. at least millions are bound to find you as gorgeous. i'm effected because of how an "ugly perception" of myself makes me feel: lazy, unimportant, and well, ugly. even though i know i'm not any of those things. there are some days that i just don't feel my best-and that's okay to not always look perfect. because other people don't see you the same way.