I'm really shy and socially anxious?

Question

I have a problem with being overly shy in social settings and I get very anxious. I have friends and I am comfortable with them, but I have a very hard time making new friends and having fun at parties or with people I don't know. I get so nervous and feel so socially awkward that I usually make some excuse to leave, and end up crying later that night because I hate the way I am so much. Even in school I am really bad at making friends in my classes, I'm so shy and I never know what to say to people. I don't want to be this way anymore. How can I change? Please give me all the pointers you have on how to be more outgoing and less shy, I really want to break free.

I think I'm kind of funny when I feel comfortable, and I have a good sense of humor and I'm kind. It all seems like such a waste if I can never meet anyone. I'm afraid I'm going to be alone forever.

Answer 1

I am going through the same exact problem right now. I do not know what to do anymore. So I have started talking to my school counselor and she is helping me with that. Talk to your doctor and ask him if he/she could let you see a Psychiatrist or Mental Therapist to assist you in search to become anxious free.

Wish you the best!

Answer 2

i am you and i am trying to fix it wish me luck:)

Answer 3

First of all, accept who you are!  Don't try so hard to become somebody you are not!  It's okay to chill at a party and not be the center of attention.  If you can add to a conversation, great, do it.  If you don't have anything to say, then just listen.  We have two ears and one mouth for a reason!

Do you live in a city or small town?  It is usually harder to be "yourself" in a small town because everyone is expected to do things a certain way.  Don't worry about meeting others expectations...take your talents and desires and do what you want.  People who are your real friends will accept who you are!

Good luck!