I'm really wanting to have a baby?

Question

I've been really wanting a child for a few months nows. Im nearly 25. My boyfriend said he didn't want baby for a long time. Then a couple of weeks later, he tells me he wouldn't mind if we had a baby. That he'd like it. Confusing or what! He works and makes a decent income. I'm currently studying childcare at tafe. We have been together 3 years almost. We both agree it's best to wait untill I'm working before acting on this. But I Can't stop thinking about having a baby. Help?!

Answer 1

Just sit down and have a serious chat to one another.

If you both really one a child then why not go for it.

Its really your choice

Answer 2

i was the same way just last yr i was 24 and wanted to have a baby b4 i was 30 i was told for yrs that i could not have a baby so i was so devastated so me being a person who dose not take no for an aswer  took and stared to look in to geting sperm put in to 1 of my eggs and then place in me so i could have my own baby but i could not pay for it. so i said to my self i need to find a man that can help me try. (i know what u r thinking y would i just want to find any man to get pragnet with) well i have had so many boyfriends how sucked so i thought i would just b a mommy with no man but we know that can not happen. lol  

so i stared to talk to many people on line an i meet this man how was so sweet and was great for me so i was point blank with him and said i am not looking for some one who is going to just stay around for 2months i wanted a man who wanted to be a father i told him i wanted a baby and if he dose not then he can just go and he said okay and about 2months later i was pregnant and now i have a great baby girl that we both love and her father is a graet man i guess u just have to tell them things point black.

i am sorry this is so long but i like to talk lol

allso just to let u know u are never going to be ready to have a baby no mader what u do there is allways going to be somthing in the way and making it hard but u can do it do not let anyone tell u u r to young or u need to wait till u can aford a baby or u need to be married things like that okay

now i will stop talking and i hope this helps u. bye.  

Answer 3

I'm in a very similar position to you (25, really want a baby, still studying, partner of 3 yrs has decent income). But I've had to tell myself that now is just NOT the right timing. It may seem like having a baby is a feasible option, but the truth is, it's not what's best for

a) the child

b) the relationship.

Even though I'm dying to get pregnant, I'm going to wait until I've graduated and we've gotten married. I want a stable environment for my baby and want my relationship to last. It's just a few years, and motherhood is such a sacred thing, you shouldn't rush it.

By the way, try to stop going into the 'pregnancy' category of answers cos it only makes you fixate on it more (hehe now I'm being a hypocrite)

Answer 4

Um... why does she have to wait to be married? Is there a problem with having a baby while not married?.. I'm confused.

Anyway! Maybe you should just wait until you finish your course, then you wont need to postpone it or anything and you'll have qualifications and an almost guaranteed career once you can have your child cared for by a family member or child care centre.

Also, make sure that your partner is definitely ready for a baby, because a two-week turnaround is quite quick.

I hope you figure something out! :D

Answer 5

you do whatever makes you happy

good luck

Answer 6

i think that you should talk to him seriously about the responsibilities of having a baby, because he can't just "not mind" to have a child. It takes much much more than that. Also, get married first, and then decide on that.

Answer 7

There's no need to get married before having a baby that is so old fashioned people!

I'm not quite sure why you would start working and then decide to have a baby unless you want to make a start on work experience for childcare.  Anyway, if you're ready you're 25 that's normal to want a baby and if your boyfriend is serious and you're financially secure why not go for it?  

Goodluck.

Answer 8

better idea, wait until you are married.

Answer 9

At least finish TAFE. I don't think you really comprehend how much a child costs. Your 25, would it be that disastrous to wait ?

Answer 10

yea what she said wait till your married.................DUH