I'm scared about going back to school.....?

Question

I'm 15 and I have been being serious problems at home for some time now.

Since last Christmas I have not seen my mum because of vicious arguments and my school life is deteriating because of these problems.

Since May I have not attended school because I have been becoming extremely depressed about my non-existent relationship with my mum and have becoming very angry with myself and other people close to me, because of this I have to attend counselling weekly but my counsellor has been on holiday for two weeks, which is a shame as I'm becoming very anxious about going back to school next wednesday.

As I have not attended school for such a long time I have had many phone calls and meetings trying to get me back in for the new year (year 11), but these ''meetings'' are not really helping and I know I have to go to school but is just when I start thinking about it I start feeling more anxious and depressed.

I am not getting bullied and I do have friends and my grades are good it is just that my home life has became so deppresing I feel I can't go back and that my life is not worth living anymore.

If anyone can give me some advice I would be very thankful.....

Answer 1

Going back after just a normal break can be worrying but with all the trauma going on in your life plus the extra time you have been away it must be very daunting.  However have you thought that when you get back into going to school with having the work to do and spending more time with your friends it may help to give you other things beside those you cannot change to spend doing which should make life more bearable.

As you are unable to do anything about the situation you find yourself in it is not suprising you are angry and we often turn that anger on those nearest us.

As even with counselling you are still feeling so depressed maybe you need additional help, if you are in the UK you could try talking to Childline they would know where you can get extra help.  If not them is their a close friend or family member you could talk to about your worries.

At this time in your life as well as all the bad stuff you are having to deal with your hormones which are all over the place, this at least will calm down as you get older.  Although it might seem life is not worth living things will get better.  Good luck.

Answer 2

So basically, you are feeling depressed and anxious cause of arguments in you family. now in this sort of problem i would say 'be confident' but actually its not the case, so i'm not sure here but i'll try my best, do you have a diary or something that you can write about how you feel and other stuff. do you have the number to your counsellor phone, cause if you do you could phone him/her about how you feel. i have a counsellor at school cause i have problemes about my anger and self esteem.

Answer 3

Based on what i have read it is up to u to decide on what you want to do.  Remember to put your trust in God and pray and he will bring you through.  After you get into school you will get accustomed and meet new friends such as addie etc.

Answer 4

Hi,

Most people don't look forward to going back to school- even the teachers!!

I'm a head of year (for Year 11) in a school that has many students with problems at home, so I know where you're coming from. I won't lecture you on the importance of good grades etc. as I'm sure you know all that. However, I have a lot of experience and can tell you that your teachers and friends will be glad to have you back and should help you to settle as soon as possible. When you have worries, sitting at home can make them worse...even just going to school for a couple of hours to start with will help- just to get out and have a chat to someone.

Your school should have lots of outside agencies to call on, not just counsellors. They can help, and arrange for you to meet with people who will not judge, and give extra support, outside school as well as in.

Sometimes I get long letters from students explaining their worries and this gives me a real insight into how they're feeling. It also gives you a chance to think through all your concerns. My advice is to choose a teacher who you feel you could talk to and write to them. Mark the letter 'urgent'. Then take the letter into school with a mobile number you can talk on and ask that it be left for the teacher.

Please don't think your life isn't worth living. I believe that if you have a tough time it makes you stronger and often the most successful and happy people in this life have had difficult childhoods.

Best of luck...Let us all know how you do?

Liz

Answer 5

I know exactly what you feel, and the same thing happened to me during my Yr 10 when my mum got very ill, I got so depressed and I didn't want to go in at all.

You have to do it. I know how hard it is, I really do, but you have to. Because if youstay at home you'll fall into a bad pattern and you'll find it even harder to go back. Especially since year 11 is such an important year, you don't want to mess up. Seeing as things aren't going to well at home, you should try and make sure the other parts of life are doing okay, like your education. And, of course, it will occupy your mind so you don't centre on home issues.

Go back to school, trust me.  

Answer 6

Hi there,

I am just a mum,and I feel sorry for the way you feel.I am sorry to hear about your mum,I do not know if my words can help you,but I hope you will decide to go back to school.

You said your grades are good and you have friends at school,please do not give up on life.

I know at times it seems like you really can't face it anymore,but trust me,I have been there,you can make it.

Just believe in yourself. Ask for help or advice if you need it,I am sure the adults at school or even your friends would be willing to listen to you.

Do not give up on your education,you can and will go far in life if you work hard at it.

Try,do it for yourself,education is the one way out in life.If you have dreams and goals you can achieve them,by working hard.

Life is worth living,I know,I have been through a lot in my life,but if I can make it,so can you.

I wish you all the best,I will keep you in my prayers from now.

Do not worry,at times we are all scared of something....it is part of growing up and becoming a mature adult.

Hang on in there.....you can do it.

I wish you every good thing in life and always try to be positive in life,it helps.

A mum