I'm scared that my girlfirend is killing her self?

Question

my girl friend is beautiful and i think she's attractive, but she has in her mind that shes fat, which is not true, she has stopped eating and wants to loose weight, i tell her that shes ok the way she looks, i tell her to eat at least a little but she says that i don't care for her because i don't let her do what she wants what should i do, i just don't want her to go back to throwing up after eatin like she used too,

Answer 1

Realistically, you can't do anything to help her.  

You have to go over her head, for her safety, and let her parents know what she is doing.

It's really her parent's responsibility to make sure that their daughter is mentally stable and physically healthy.  

You don't want to date someone who is not well.  She will only make you feel bad because your opinion and your views on her health don't matter...do you really want to be with someone who thinks little to nothing of your opinion?  I wouldn't.

Call her parents, talk to her dad...as a young man should, and tell him about his daughter.  Maybe when she's better, she'll be more mature about her self-image and more ready to be in a relationship where two people (not just you) make it work.

Answer 2

You can't fix her she has to put in the work herself to feel better about who she is. You can only support and encourage her. Usually when there is a issue like this there is also a deep problem. You need to know she is unstable. This won't be a easy road to go down with her. She needs treatment badly.  

Answer 3

There is nothing you can do to fix it. There is nothing you can tell her that will make her stop permanently. If you threaten to leave her, she will likely start hiding it from you. This is a personal issue that she will either grow out of with time, need professional help with, or die from. Sorry :(

Answer 4

So she's bulimic.

If you can't get through to her, then go talk to her parents.

Tell them what is going on, and her puking up her dinner.

They may not even know.

Answer 5

talk more to her.

Answer 6

Tell her parents or her close friends and see if they will talk to her about it?

Answer 7

i think that you need to flirt with her ! tell her that she looks good in those jeans with that shirt that her hair is beautiful ANYTHING to make her self esteem go higher it obviosuly isnt because your not helping make love to her and tell her how beautiful she is and how lucky you are to have her! i mean you have to let her know you are with her because she is beautiful!

Answer 8

tell her she is beautiful

Answer 9

you need to tell her that the reason you are doing this is because you care and if she has been doing this for a while you need to take drastic action because if you dont she COULD KILL HERSELF

Answer 10

If you think shes beautiful and attractive then why do you tell her that shes "ok the way she looks"? Being just "OK" might not be good enough for her. Tell her she is beautiful and attractive not just OK.. Be very affectionate and passionate when you tell her so. After every kiss, whisper softly in her ear "I love you". Make her FEEL BETTER THEN OK!. Make her feel  beautiful, make her feel attractive. I don't think that I'm all that attractive either but my husband tells me everyday that I'm beautiful, I have s**y legs and soft skin... If he told me that I looked just OK.. I think it would make me feel that he didn't find me beautiful. In his eyes I'm beautiful and he makes sure i know he feels that way everyday!

Answer 11

OM. Sound like she needs in treatment. This illness that she has is in control of her and she believes that she's in control. However to answer you question. Tell her that she won't lose weight by starving herself and that in fact she will gain it. That studies show that eating a healthy meal 3-5 times a day is better at controlling or loosing weight than not eating at all. When you don't eat your body stores up on it's fat and doesn't burn it off for fuel. Do some research and I am sure that you will find a way to talk to her and hopefully help her to reach her goal weight.

Good Luck

Answer 12

I can relate i used to do the same thing and my fiance is always scared i will go back. If she wont sit down and listen to you and talk to you then suggest she go to the gym if she isnt happy or make a effort together to eat better. If she still is not coperating your going to have to get help from the outside because that is dangerous i ended up in the hospital weighing 98lbs and i am 5'7" so it was deadly. You need to try and help her feel better about herself offering her ways to help her. (pedicures, shopping,gym whatever it takes other than not eating)

Answer 13

tell her you love her the just the way she is. get to know why she really wants to do this. is not b'cos she thinks she's fat, there's more to it, believe me. she may need to see a specialist too. good luck..