I'm scared to ask my mother about personal things? (Moms out there advice needed)

Question

Like I asked the question on here about fingering myself. And like I'm dead scared to ask my mom about that because she doesn't know and she would yell at me and probably tell me things like "I trusted you" and stuff like that. How do I build up the courage to ask my mom questions about s*x and all of stuff in that area. I'm can't begin to explain how embarrassed I would be. And it would just be too awkward to ask my mother about these things. I can't really explain this anymore but if you're a mom out there with 14 year old daughters or just daughters that you talk to all the time than I need advice! Please! This would just be too awkward to talk to about to my mom. Because my mom is just like that. She finds some way to yell at me and I know she would. So moms out there please help. And I'm sorry this is long but I'm so happy you've read this far. ADVICE NEEDED PLEASE!

Answer 1

Maybe you could try asking her questions in letters. Let her know in the letter that you're a little afraid to bring up the subject, but you are now at the age of curiosity and you would really like to talk to her about s*x. It is a touchy subject between children and their parents, but the more you talk, the easier it will get for you. I encourage my son to share things with me. I know some things may make me upset, but I would prefer that he talks to me instead of keeping secrets.

Answer 2

My mom wasn't the type either to talk to about stuff like that - so I didn't.  I talked to my friends.  I read things about it, I learned on my own.  If you are really concerned about something regarding s*x just go to the library.  You really shouldn't be talking to you mom about fingering yourself anyway.  That's something private to yourself.  Your mom probably doesn't want to know that.  Unless, you think you found something while you were in there and are concerned about an illness or something.  

Answer 3

ok first of all give your mom some credit, have you ever actually tried to talk to her?she may surprise you. If you are truly to scared to talk to your mom there are many places you can go to for good information and advise. there are public heath centers and hot lines where you can talk to a registerd nurse who can give you the information you need.

Please what ever you do do not listen to your friends, how ever heart felt the advise that they can give you at 14 is most often going to be miss guided and incorrect.

you need good correct information to make choices about s*x. good luck to you and I hope I have helped some.

Answer 4

cmon its the year 2008

anything you need you can find it in the internet

why create such an unpleasant situation between you mother and you?

Answer 5

It can be really awkward talking to parents about stuff like that. And now that I have a daughter, I know that I wouldn't really want to talk with her about it either, but would at the same time be relieved that she was doing things alone, rather than with a boy at the young age of 14. It could get a little graphic for Y!A, so I won't go into detail, but http://www.babeland.com has a good "How To" section that spells everything out. It is very straight forward and like a textbook on the subject.

Answer 6

Masturbation refers to sexual stimulation, especially of one's own genitals (self masturbation) and often to the point of o****m, which is performed manually, by other types of bodily contact (except for sexual intercourse), by use of objects or tools, or by some combination of these methods.

Answer 7

I'm sorry your mom hasn't done more to keep the lines of communication open between you and her. If you really don't feel comfortable talking to her is there someone else in your life you trust and could talk to? An aunt perhaps, or a friend's mother, or maybe someone at school? Try and find someone in your life that can be that for and be there for the "tough" stuff.

If you do want to talk to your mom start small. Maybe she herself is insecure with discussing this stuff with you. Maybe she was never able to discuss it with her mom and is doing the only thing she knows how to do. I would hit her right up with the masturbation thing, but maybe start telling her about certain boys you may like and non-threatening stuff like that. As your relationship and trust about these things gets stronger so will you comfort level about talking to her about the other stuff. Good luck hun!

Answer 8

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