I'm seeing a Christian counselor and....?

Question

He's helping me work through some issues including the fact that I'm g*y. He basically told me that i'm a s*x addict (which i'm not) and insinuated that all g*y people are s*x addicts. I keep trying to explain to him that my sexual feelings are no different or addictive than the the ones he feels, but he keeps telling me i'm wrong.... last week he gave me a book that teaches Christians how to cope with there sexual desires, but i've found it to be very contradicting and seriously uninformed in a lot of ways. What should I do? I would HATE to have to switch counselors because i've been making progress in other areas and i'd hate to have to start all over... What should i say to him to make him see that i'm NOT a s*x addict?

Answer 1

RUN! Run as fast and as far away as you can from this "counselor". It is better to start over than listen to this crazy talk he is giving you. It is only a matter of time before you begin to question yourself. You said you are making progress in other areas...think of the progress you could make with someone who actually knows what they are talking about.

Answer 2

Suggest him to address 'the issue of his bias interfering with the treatment process' in supervision or consult with the peer. Just say that, he will understand what it means.

Answer 3

This person is obviously not helping you. In fact, he's actually judging you. Isn't that against his religion?

You might want to try to find a non-religious counselor.  

Answer 4

hey kyle.  i'm a Christian, and i have a very close friend going through the same thing you are going through as far as the homosexuality thing goes.  that said, i don't agree with your counselor at all!  that's really very silly to say that all g*y people are s*x addicts.  i agree with you that it's just a healthy desire for s*x, but your issue is that you are attracted to other men.  this is one of those things that is hard for me to understand.  i mean, it seems like it should be ok for 2 men or 2 women to be together if it's in the confines of a committed relationship, but the Bible is clear that God is not ok with that.  not only in the old testament.  it's one of those things that i don't understand, but just have to trust that God's way is best.  i'm sorry you're having problems with this counselor, and i know you don't want to start over, but this guy sounds off base.  i'd recommend finding another counselor through the james dobson focus on the family site or something like that.  hope that helps.  i'm so sorry you're having to struggle with this issue at all.  i've seen the pain that my friend has been dealing with.  i feel for her.  it's rough!