I'm serious please help me out ???? :-(

Question

I dont know what has happened to me.When somebody in my home hands over a work to me then i just makes a mes of it many times.Specially my brother when ever he gives me some work like get this and get that , then i just mess up by not getting exactly that.I sometimes feel that i can't work my brain fast.And i also feel that i can't remember things easily.And many of my friend also tell me that i always get things very slowly.Sometimes my friends have to repeat 3 or 4 times (what ever they are trying to explain me) for me to understand a perticular thing.Do i have a problem with my memory or what do i have with my brain ?

It really hurts when some of my friends tell me that i'm one of the most dumb guy .I grasp my studies slowly and i get a lot of doubts.Well i was a very good student in school and intermediate.But later on inengineering i became worst.I don't know sometimes i just can't control my self over my unnecessary things.I mean if there are 2 perticular thing which i have to do , and one is important and other is unimportant but i like the unimportant thign to do.So i just can't force my self toward an important thing , which i actually don't like.

And i also like resting a lot and sleeping a lot.U might be thinking that it is cause m not using my brain and sleeping but i tried that too but i can't even do that thing consistently ( being away from sleep in the complete day).Is it something which is wrong with my brain, i mean is there any kind of deficeincy of something in my brain cause of which m not able to understand properly or not able to grasp properly ?

And i also had 3 strong break ups in my life.Stron means i had cried a lot in those break ups with the one whome i was inlove with.Does it has any effect on my brain ?And m going through a break up at present .I'm getting headaches and i already haave high BP from many years.Is it cause of that ? And also i had join gymnasium for about 3 months about 3 years back , thats is before starting my engineering and i had worked out like anything along with taking suppliments ( products which helps u increase ur body and stamina) and after 3 months i had jaundice and i was in bed for about 1 month.So is it cause of that ?

Sometimes i feel that i can't concentrate on things and feel like a loooooot d**n lazy.I mean when some work is handed over to me first i forget and then even if it has been told me many times then i dont understand its importantce, i mean i never get anythings importantce.I know by not doing so and so will cause me so and so harm but still that does'nt force me towards doing so and so work.

Cause of all my problems which i have, i use to cry in the nights ,sometimes by thinking why am i like this ?My elder brother is a fast guy who can learn and implement things a lot faster than i can .His grasping power is really good and he can manage himself in any situation.Cause of my behaviour he feels that nobody actually cares about him and he is depperesed now a days , which i dont wanna c , but still i'm not able to improve myself.

I'm not social with people , i dont go out much with people as i dont even have much friends.And cause of that i don't know many and many of the places in my own city, is it cause of that ?

Answer 1

It sounds to me like you may have a small learning disorder that effects your ability to concentrate and process information.  Perhaps you didn't notice it much in earlier schooling because the information was easy enough for you.  You could check into things like ADHD or dyslexia.  Another possibility is that you're not getting enough sleep, you are too stressed out (which can interfere with your ability to form memories), or you have some depression from the relationship problems (which could make you feel like you don't have any energy, and make you feel lazy).

The best thing you could do is research these things, and then go see a therapist of some sort to see if they can help you.  If you can't do that, for some reason, then you can start looking around on the internet for information about getting more sleep, reducing stress, coping mechanisms, herbal treatments for depression, and online testing for ADHD.  Doing that may not cure you, but it may help you in your time of need.  Let me know if you need any other help or information - you can email me through my profile page.

Answer 2

hey,y u tink like tat, dont worry, nothing wrong. y do u say u hav no frnds, i am ur friend ok. my id is [e-mail]. do mail me . bye,take care

Answer 3

hi

  brave boy, i told u so, because u know that telling something that disturbs u n asking for help is a sign of good will n courage. even i use to suffer from the same prob but now i feel that i m changing n becoming more n more positive about my life.

  according to me the solution to ur prob is that u have a very low self confidence, n becoz of that u feel low n less energetic. the prob is with urself u have considered urself as a looser. u r not a looser but u have considered so hence ur body works as a looser.

  B POSITIVE my dear,i mean that whatever happens look it in a positive way, if u forget something tell ur  mind that next time i m going to remember n it will happen it may take sometime to recover,

   the causes of ur prob is that u hve taken things in a negative manner  

u r not leaving ur past n hence when u take up something u mixed ur past with the present. it effects ur concentration,

   the solutions,

1) read this book it has helped me greatly, THE POWER OF YOUR SUBCONSCIOUS MIND by JOSEPH MURPHY, try  to apply the technique it will help u , u can easily get in the book market

2) as u think u r lazy n looser u r forcing ur mind to act so, hence speak to ur mind about ur self in a positive way n it will act so,i m sure u might be having some or d other skills to speak about.

3) try meditation& deepbreathing

  u can do many more things. but start atleast somewhere n one thing bro dont compare urself from anybody.

   u r not a looser , remember one thing try to live life 4r otherpeople joy,help someone ,dont fear of loosing,when u loose think that this lost has taught u a lesson n gain some experience,speak to ur mind that u r not a looser, n onething if possible try a break of a month or so, this will help u to concentrate on ur self properly. n still u think that u need a professional help than go for it, take care n good luck