I'm sick of people TELLING me who/what I am?

Question

I'm starting to get really sick of people telling me things about myself, as if they're in some position to do this. For example I was like the other day "no I'm not interested in him" and someone was like "yes, you really really are" and wouldn't even acknowledge my input as if I'm irrelevent. Does this make sense? Like for example someone saying something like "you're not very hardworking are you" or "god you love getting attention from guys" or "oh yeah you really fancy ___ don't you!" (no one said these last few they're just examples... )

But people KEEP doing it. It's like, I'LL decide who I am and what I am thankyou very much. Urgh. Does anyone get this?! =(

Answer 1

If it looks like a duck, walks like a duck, and quacks like a duck, it's probably a duck. (insert "like" between every other word if this doesn't make sense to you)

Answer 2

I can't relate to such pushy behavior but I can say if you keep expressing your own interests and don't let others make a decision for you then eventually they will back off.

Answer 3

I really understand this

All the time, people tell me what im thinking, what i like, how i should feel..but they really have NO idea.  Im so tired of it that now, i just shrug and say "sure".

Answer 4

you're sooooo interested in him ...c'mon

Answer 5

Yes that happens to me a lot.  I just remember the Bible verse, "Let your yes be yes, and your no be no."

Answer 6

It seems you're making too much out of what other people think.  Who and what you are depend on your own actions and words.  The only one that has to be happy with you is you.  I would look for new people that aren't so bossy to hang out with.

Answer 7

it may not always be true. but when people comment you on these things that annoy you, you should think about them and answer the question 'am i really like that?' in your head and you have to be honest to yourself because if you are honest to youself you will be able to change that small defect and stop getting the comments that you dont like. you have to keep an open-mind and remember that they are viewing things in an outside perspective which can sometimes,if not more, be more accurate than just looking at yourself....when you look at yourself you see what you WANT to see and blank out what you dont want to see.

Answer 8

Lia, ignore them all. stand tall and alone if you have to. By the way if it is a regualar doing this, send him or her a get well card. It will floor them.

Answer 9

Please pay closer attention to they way you word questions and scenerios, read it before you expect us to help you. I had a hard time finding the question but this is what i got. You need to be a little more assertive don't just say that you disagree with something really let them know how you feel because you being irrelevant in something about you doesn't really make sense. Hope this helped