I'm sick of "I have to work" all the time....?

Question

We got invited to a wedding this weekend (one of my cousins). Earlier this summer we went with my dad to another cousins wedding in Ohio and my mom kept the kids (she wasnt invited since they are divorced etc... and my brothers and sisters and brother in-laws and all went and our 6 kids stayed with my mom) Anyways my mom was excited that she knew she got to go out of town with all of this for this wedding. One of my sisters ditched out the other day and is no longer going. ANYWAYS though- my point here. DH said he would go- but I didnt realize it was a 4 hour drive away and that everyone was planning on staying at a hotel for the night. That was fine.. but I only found out 2 weeks ago. So I told DH and he said, "well i have to work saturday" (he always goes in on saturdays to work.. ugh) So now he isn't going at all- and I have to go alone- 8 months pregnant with our 18 month old and 8 year old daughters and go sit at a wedding. (they are letting all of us bring our kids because we are coming from so far away- otherwise kids arent invited to the wedding).. so now I really don't want to go! I'm pretty angry that DH isn't going. I mean really- it's a holiday weekend and why couldnt he go in MONDAY to work then or sunday evening instead of saturday. Not to mention last night he came home 4 hours early from work- he should have stayed and then not gone in Saturday. Apparently he just doesnt want to go. I don't know what my question here is- am I right to be angry? (and yes I'm going to talk to him about it tonight- i didnt get to last night because the kids had haircuts and he was asleep already when we came home ...) It's irking me that when we go away for the weekend without the kids- he's all about going- but now that this time we are going with the kids- he's finding every excuse to not go. I wouldn't care- except EVERYTIME i go away with the kids for the weekend he always wants to stay home and always stays home alone.... I never have gotten to do that... i wanted to go spend a nice weekend together as a family and enjoy the wedding etc......

Answer 1

My brotherinlaw does this to my sister, too. He really is trying to get away from his two boys and his loud and overbearing wife. I told her that is what he is doing, she needs to quiet down and chill out. BiL is sick of all the craziness. Take a hint.... make it more fun for him to be home if you want him to be home. I don't mean video games and pizza parties. I mean make it peaceful. I can imagine you aren't having a great time either being 8 months pregnant.

Answer 2

Sounds to me like he is making excuses so he can have a "free weekend" without you or the kids, the kids especially.

Sounds selfish to me.  Little kids are hard work, and being 8 months pregnant makes it even harder.

Answer 3

If he can take off work and could go then yes I would be upset.

Answer 4

Yah how about you go to work and he stays home looking after the children. Then you can make time and I do not think he will get fired if the lamp isnt dusted :p