I'm so angry at my sister!?

Question

she just told me she's four months pregnant. our parents dont know. i'm mad because she always tells me everything. she told me she doesn't want the baby and wants to give it away. i told her no and i want to help with it. she's 15 and i'm 18 any help?

Answer 1

Shes scared, and doesn't know what to do and shes prob. nervous that your parents are going to scream at her, and she prob doesn't want to deal with it. Be by her side every step of the way and let her know that you are there for her no matter what she decides to do she is only 15 years old and should finish school i had my daughter when i was 17 and dropped out of high school and had to get my GED, You are also only 18 so if you are not ready to take care of a baby i would not. If you know what i mean just talk to her and give her options, help her open the door for her, so shes not so scared.

Answer 2

She's almost halfway through, so obviously your parents are going to figure it out soon... You can't force her to keep the baby, that's 18+ years of responsibility and at 15 years old she is far from ready.  She can give the baby up for adoption, and she can probably work something out with the adoptive parents to remain part of the baby's life, but only if she wants to.  This is her life, her child, her decision.  You can't (and shouldn't) force her to do anything in this situation.

Answer 3

Respect your sister and be glad that she reaches out to you. Some people can't find anyone to confide in. Just listen and be there for her. It's her child and she can decide what she will with it, whether she takes care of it herself or gives it up for adoption.  

Answer 4

oomg shes 15? thats way to young to be having a baby. the only thing you can do right now is go to your parents with her, and talk to them and tell them that she is 4 months pregnant. this is all her decision, remember that. what she wants to-its her baby. and yes, you parents wil probably be really angry, but once they get past that, they just care about you, and they are going to want to do anything they can to help your sister. i really hope this turns out well. good luck.

Answer 5

I think if you help it would be okay to keep the baby! and she didnt tell you cause she was scared!

Good luck!

Answer 6

just be calm and take of your sister and tell your parents

Answer 7

You need to get her to tell your parents, or do it yourself. Maybe they can convince her to keep the baby. Tell them that you are willing to help out and hopefully they will feel the same way. Ultimately, the decision will be up to your sister, but after she sees her baby she may change her mind. Again, you need to get your parents to find this out, because she has already gone 4 months without prenatal care. Good luck, and it's so great that she has such a caring sister!

Answer 8

Not much you can do, but you should tell your parents. Support your sister and make sure that she is taking care of herself and her baby

Answer 9

tell your parents. She will be mad at you but it will turn out ok in the long run. Help her don't be against her she will appreciate it in the long run.

Answer 10

First of all, obviously she is very young... don't be so hard on her.  I'm sure shes upset at herself already.

    It is her decision, its her life, and her child.  I think mom and dad should help her in this.  Don't feel like you have to take responsibility for something that isn't yours.  

Answer 11

You need to tell your parents. It is not your decision whether she keeps the baby or not.  

Answer 12

no no no! talk to your parents right now! dont leave it to the last minute, and dont let her go on her own!! you need a parents help. you need to inform no matter how angry they get.  

Answer 13

your both to young to know what your doing or talking about...tell your parents for your sisters sake.  

Answer 14

You need to tell your parents right away.  And if you feel like you can't tell your parents, then talk to the pastor of your church.  Because your sister is 15 and underage, it's not going to matter if she wants the baby or not.  More than likely her parents are going to take over in this pregnancy.

Answer 15

if your sister doesn't want the baby then its her decision to make.  You are only 18 and have your whole life ahead of you(college, career) do you really want to be tied down to a baby that is not even yours?  it may be hard to see your niece or nephew given up for adoption but there are wonderful couples out there waiting to adopt and give babies and excellent home.  Try giving your sister the support she needs right now with any decision she chooses to make.

Answer 16

put your anger aside right now, and realize how scared your sister is at this moment. she did a bad thing, and now has to deal with some big concequences and is freaked right out. Talk with her for bit and let her know you are standing by her side, then you can sit with her while you discuss this with your parents.

Answer 17

Tell your parents.

Explore your options, involve a third party if necessary (doctor, family friend, counsellor, etc).

After the whole ordeal is over, make sure that she is aware of sexual health information about birth control methods and STI/STD prevention. The education system isn't doing much these days

Answer 18

First thing you need to do is get her to a doctor to make sure the baby is ok (if she hasn't been/ been going regularly). Not only will the doctor check out the baby, but can arrange for  her  to get some informal counseling.

Second, at 18 do you have a job and your own place? Are you ready to take on the responsibility of parenthood? If not, now's the time to tell your parents because they will be the ones to ultimately care for your sister's baby (emotionally, physically, and financially).

I understand you're hurt, but you need to think of the baby's welfare. Sure your parents will be disappointed, but the longer you wait to tell them, the more upset they'll be.  

Answer 19

I understand why you are upset. AS angry as you are at her right now, try to be as supportive as you can. She is VERY young. Ultimately , the decision will be hers though. Concentrate on making sure she is getting the prenatal care that she needs first. Encourage her to tell your parents. Hopefully, with support from you and your parents she will reconsider her options, knowing that everyone is there for her. God bless!

Answer 20

All you can do is tell her youll support her no matter what but youve got to mean it once the baby is hear its a different thing all together. Your sister  is so young its her choice at the the end of the day i wish you all the best of luck xx

Answer 21

no hunny,

shes only 15

I can understand her giving

it up for adoption

what 15 wants a baby

she must really be scared

at a time like this

so I wouldn't be mad

just be there for her whatever

dicision she makes(:  

Answer 22

well why dont you talk to your parents about this ....she is four months pregnant and hasnt even been to the doctor i am assuming..its so important for the babys health that she gets some good prenatal vitamins right now...and the doctor needs to check on things as well

Answer 23

Tell your parents Adopt her baby

Answer 24

She needs medical care and your parents guidance.  you both need to talk with your parents together and tell them what is going on.  As a family you need to decide what to do.

Answer 25

Man, this is too dramatic, how could this happened? According to the drama, this incident will be revealed eventually.

Answer 26

Tell her she shouldn't worry about anything. I had my first child at 15 but I was pregnant at 14. I finished school,I'm in college with two kids now. She should tell your parents so she can start prenatal care and give the baby what he/she needs.Although she's a teen parent she shouldn't worry about what others will think of her. She has someone else to worry about now.

Answer 27

Your parents need to know this! You can't force your sister to keep it. She's very young (and obviously a little stupid) to being getting knocked up at this age! Talk to your parents, and back off.