I'm so confused, i don't know what to do with myself!

Question

my great uncle died 2 days ago, and it was a bit of a shock because he was just found dead by my grandad. we think it was a heart attack or something. i never lost anyone before and i reacted to it so differently than i thought i would. I'm in so much pain and i can't stop thinking or talking about him and his funeral arrangements and stuff! but in a way i am still smiling and joking around with my family and in a way i feel guilty about it but in another way i don't, i feel like my family don't care about what's happened. apart from my grandma(her brother) i know this is yahoo answers and a bit of a weird place to turn to. but I'm a quiet person who doesn't really share my emotions with anyone else. please can anyone just help me. how long does this pain have to last!

Answer 1

You will always have a void in your heart but the pain will get better. My dad died on Feb 26,2007and its getting better but I still have bad days. I am sorry to hear about your uncle but there is no right or wrong way to grieve.Try to remember the good times. I hope that you start to feel better very soon. I am really sorry for your loss

Answer 2

I understand what is happening to you. It's okay to feel the way you do. Everyone has their way of dealing with a death in a family. It is not a matter that your family don't care, they are reacting the same way you are. Inside you feel pain, but on the outside your smiling and joking around. Please don't feel guilty. No one purposely prepare themselves for a death, especially when it is a member in the family. Your kiss and hug you gave him was a lot of love. He's knows how much you care and love him. Your warm lips against his cheeks is a good expression of your love.

When you have some free time read the Bible and read through Psalms because there are passages in it that will help you. You should write down the best memories you had with your uncle. I want you to know I will pray for you and your family. I am so sorry for your lost. God bless.    

Answer 3

Death of a  loved on can cause many different reactions. It sounds as tho you had a lot of love for your great uncle, he was a very lucky man. Don't feel guilty he would not want that for you. As for the others, they are probably much more accustomed to the death of a loved one, so hold no ill feeling toward them for their actions. Everyone handles the emotions of death in a different manner.

Answer 4

I'm so sorry. What you're feeling is completely normal. Grieving is a process everyone experiences differently. You need to mourn for a while, but it is also good to joke and remember the good times you had with your great uncle. You shouldn't feel guilty. Your great uncle wouldn't want that. You will always miss him, but the pain will ease as time goes by. Just remember, your not alone. Eventually, everyone will lose someone they love. I hope this will help you.