I'm so confused.. Please read, guys and girls.?

Question

My only boyfriend was a guy I met from a chat room, then met him in person in real life. He looked nothing like his pictures and was a total geek, very skinny.. But he acted very sweet.

He stayed over here for a couple of days. He went online on msn and there was this girl he said was his ex, and she was blocked on his contacts. He told me about her before, but I assumed he would have deleted her, so I was suprised she was on there. (This all happened a year ago but I need closure). I thought that he had known her in real life, not just over the Internet, but I found out they didn't even meet at all.

Every day when he stayed over here he tried to finger me and grope me, when I told him not too. About two weeks after I met him in person he dumped me. He said to someone behind my back that I was "kinda ugly," and that he was ashamed to be with me. He also told other girls online that he was 6 ft 2, and that I was a shorty. But I'm the tallest girl in my year at school at 5 ft 11, and when I met him he was about 5 ft 6, so shorter than me.

I'm not an ugly girl, I'm attractive. Or I assume I am at least a little bit because random guys chat me up, but they're not the kind of person I want to date.

At heart I'm a really confident person, I'm intelligent and I make good company, and I'm ok looking. When I feel confident I think about the things this guy said and think that since he was the only boyfriend I had, that maybe he was right and since I've never been asked out before in my life, that I really am unattracive after all.

Why aren't guys interested in me? What is wrong with me? I consider myself to have never ever had a bf because I don't think that this loser should count as a bf.. But I don't know what to do. I want a bf but if I'm as bad as he said..

I could put a pic up but maybe I really am ugly =/

Answer 1

Don't worry, he lacked self-confidence. He didn't know what he was doing, he probably never had a relationship before -- which is okay -- and he didn't have the patience to find out how to treat a girl -- and that's not okay. He just wanted to get 2nd/3rd/home base as quickly as possible, and when you didn't let him, he got frustrated.

That's why he's telling lies about you know; he's self-aggrandizing and belittling you. You did the right thing by not letting him push you around and get what he want.

And you're not a shorty. 5' 11" is a tall, attractive height.

Answer 2

This guy is what is wrong with the dating world LOL

Answer 3

Awww I just want to give you a hug. Honestly you did a lot of wrong things here, NEVER EVER meet someone off the internet unless you have very good understanding of who they are etc, and make sure the meeting place is somewhere familiar and open.

This guy is clearly a loser and don't worry he was the one who needed to lie about his appearance, that straight away says to me: lack of confidence.

He doesnt say it your face because he is also a coward, in my opinion you dodged a bullet. Now you say your still in school? How old are you if you don't mind me asking? Im 17 myself, and just finished school :D.

But the point im making is your young, some people dont get BF and GF till sfter school, i.e in college or work. Your not the first and cetrinaly not the last person in the world.

Nothing is wrong with you, and im sure you have friends and family that love you no matter what. But also you have to go look for a man you cant wait for them to come to you, and especially look in the right places NOT on the net. Trust me give it time and dont be in such a rush to get a BF, there more hastle than there worth usually!!

So to conclude, to me you seem like an intellegant woman so don't be stupid and blame yourself, pick yourself up and go put yoursef out there!

Answer 4

plz don't say that you really are ugly.if he loves you ,he will not pay his attention to your appearance.if someday, I love a girl,I will love her at my heart.because i give her my heart, then she will give me love.

Answer 5

Well, I am cute but i dont date alot! Guys check me out alot but dont talk to me as much i wonder if i am like intimidating or something? Either way the guy sounds like a loser so forget whatever he said!There is nothing wrong with you, if they dont like you thats thier problem!

Answer 6

Don't ever let anyone take your swagger. If he doesn't like the way you look, someone else will. A lot of women don't get mauled on the street. Television tells that tale. Your confidence will attract someone truly worthy of you.

Answer 7

Ok here is the deal, your a tall girl which is very s**y. A lot of guys are intimidated by tall girls. That guy your talking about sounds like a real loser. Obviously he's a liar since he lies about his height. If your so ugly why was he trying to finger you? He is saying that stuff because you wouldn't let him have s*x with ya. Like you said, he was skinny and a nerd. I don't know what you look like but I'm sure your beautiful because most women are.

Answer 8

Ok, first of all, how old are you and WHAT THE h**l are you doing dating on the internet?!?!?! Don't you know how dangerous that is???? He could have raped you and it sounds like he wanted to since he was trying to "finger you and grope you". geez, girl, this has nothing to do with how you look. Your looks will change a hundred times between now and the time you graduate, but you need to realize that while you THINK you are confident, you're not. Confident people do not need to find boyfriends on the internet and don't feel the need to still talk about them a year later. Stop worrying what other people think of you. I promise, life gets WAY better after high school. These are not the best years of your life. You will meet the right person when you love yourself first. So get to loving!! Think of yourself as a beautiful wonderful person and forget this dangerous and stupid guy. He means nothing. And NEVER look for a guy online again. Please. Way too many teen girls die that way.