I'm so frustrated...my nipples are not on fire!!!?

Question

I've been trying to conceive for 18 months now. Well actually its been longer than that. I've been trying religiously charting and doing opks and all that for 18 months but tried a while before that but I have yet to get pregnant. I have regular periods, I ovulate, my tubes are open. The dr says there is nothing physically wrong that is preventing me from conceiving. I did get pregnant a little over 3 years ago but lost the baby so I know pregnancy is possible but I just don't know what to do. I want it to happen so bad it makes me cry. I just read that Jenna Jameson that S****y pornstar is pregnant and this past weekend at a family dinner my brother in law (19) and his gitlfriend (17) are having a baby. She's so nieve she's only 6 1/2 weeks and already bragging about it talking about dressing her baby in Juicy and buying all kinds of cool maternity clothes when she doesn't even have a job and she's still in high school. I was like how in the h**l can pornstars and nieve teenage girls get pregnant and I can't. I'm so frustrated because I'm only 8 dpo but already know I didn't conceive because every cycle my b***s start hurting on the exact same day in the exact same way. The left side starts hurting by the armpit on cycle day 18 then the right starts hurting cycle day 20 then they both get sore on cycle day 21 and stay sore until my period starts. Today is day 21 and of course they are sore and started the same cycle as always. I know sore b***s are a sign of pregnancy by when I did get preg they were a different kind of sore and my nipples felt like they were on fire so I always think in order to have pregnancy sore b***s I would have the on fire nipples. I hate being negative but ttc is taking its toll on me. I don't have a real question I just wanted to vent. I want to be pregnant. I want sore pregnancy b***s and on fire nipples...not period sore b***s =(

Answer 1

I know this may sound silly, perhaps a bit absurd. But, the only logically illogical thing I can come up with is to stop trying. It seems that when you finally stop trying so hard, it happens. The universe and life work in mysterious ways. But it seems as though all the "right" things to do in order to get pregnant have failed, then do it all wrong things. What could it hurt? My heart does break for you & your frustration, it must be overwhelming at times. I've got my fingers crossed for you :)

And don't blame yourself for not getting pregnant, feel free to hate on Murphy's law ["If something can go wrong, chances are it will"]

Answer 2

Just relax and stop trying so hard.  Be careful what you wish

for as far as your b***s.......they can get very sore and it doesn't

go away in 4-5 days, it is more like 9 months....

Answer 3

I'm sorry it must be very frustrating. I seems like you got it all figured out about your body but what about hubby? In any case I wish you luck. : )

Answer 4

hi melly, same problem is with me the first part what you have tol is exactly same with me even i  want to conceive very badly and i  can understand how it feels, we don't hqve any other way but to wait and just pray to god to fulfill our dreams and iam sure that may be this is our testing time and we will conceive and god cannoit see us much time crying for a small wish so he will fulfill our wish too so please pray for yourself and for me also, i too will do the same. good luck.

Answer 5

Don't worry! It will happen soon! My nipples didn't burn so be careful what you wish for!

Answer 6

Hang in there....it happens when u least expect it, trust me i was going to get on birthcontrol when i found out i was pregnant with my son (who will be 1 in sept!!!!) so when u give up or dont expect it.. it will happen!!!! good luck!!!!

Answer 7

Every pregnancy is different. My first pregnancy (which I miscarried) I had very sore nipples, and that was my only symptom. This pregnancy early on (in the 2 week wait) my b***s got sore around the sides (like yours) and my nipples didn't hurt. In fact, I didn't really have nipples that were on fire at all, like last time, it was my entire breast that were sore. I wouldn't worry, pregnancy symptoms are so similar to impending AF symptoms. Is it possible there is something wrong with your husband - has his sperm been tested? There may be nothing wrong with you, so may it is him?