I'm so lost, i need desperate help...?

Question

So this is more of advice, my brother just tried to commit suicide, and sinceschool is about to start up I am having some desperate thoughts, and some are hurtful, but not suicidal. If i tell my parents they will think I only want attention, what do I do?

Answer 1

You seriously need to suggest that you and you're family go to counseling and tell the therapist you're feelings.

Answer 2

You should be able to tell your parents stuff like this because they're your parents...if they think that you only want attention find someone who'll listen.

Answer 3

suicide is a permenant tragedy to a temporary situation. don't do it.

I'll be honest with you... I thought about the same kind of stuff, and then one day I picked up a pamphlet for the Army and realized something... what the h**l am I doing? people deserve better of me, and I'm going to keep going and keep my chin up not for myself, but for others. Think about that.

Answer 4

I think that you should at least bring it up to somebody. If you have a best friend, or someone that you talk to often maybe you can talk to them about it. The first step is to talking to somebody. If your brother would have told somebody and somebody would have stepped in then it could have been prevented. Try and put in perspective also about everything that your brother has put your family through and the pain. I think that you know that suicide isn't the answer to fixing everything so I am not going to preach to you about it. I understand, and I have been there. If you are comfortable with it and you think that your brother is in an okay situation to talk about it, maybe you should talk to HIM about this. He can probably relate more to you than anybody. Perhaps just ask your parents if they could maybe put you in family cousiling, or....I'm sure your brother has to go. Ask if you can go with him and bring it up there.  

Answer 5

schools involve counselors right? im going through the same thing. im dateless and i feel like a piece of garbage because of it. like no one loves me. im sure u have friends too talk to them, they should understand hope i helped  

Answer 6

Well, tell your parents what you just told us. You are having depressing thoughts, but you aren't suicidal. Your parents love you, they will understand. If you are still hesitant on telling them, then confide in a friend.

Answer 7

It didn't work for ur bro and did he suffer any side effects ? I tried once over something pretty serious not a guy. I took heaps of stuff but lived and had a stroke and a front lobe embolism ( brain haemorrage ) so it really is not worth hurting your self, you need a big big hug and someone to talk to. I know cos that is how I felt. I felt alone but realise now that I was not alone at all. I stepped out of the box not my friends or family. They were all right there for me thru all this c**p. Truly find someone to talk to like suicide hot line or teen hotline or one of those depending on what country you are from. DO NOT hurt yourself it will only hurt the people around you. I was also in a coma but could still hear crying all the time and now realise it was my mum and sister and my kids. How selfish was I ?

Answer 8

That sounded serious, a matter of life and death..

Well, I believed that this is crucial to let your parents know. With the experiences that adults have, they are able to handle the situation in a way that can benefit your brother.

Perhaps what you can do is to ask your brother what problems led him to a suicide thought, and then relate to your parents (without letting your brother know). I am sure that by knowing the problems, your parents can apply the correct approach to help your brother.

Answer 9

Oh My God

instead of telling your parents

first visit your school councellor

if not visit personally.

then tell him each and everything

suicide can not solve each and every problem

in this case parents can not help you at all

u r right they will think that u want attention

Answer 10

This is a delicate question to answer. You should really get into contact with a teen crisis hot line. They are probably better suited to answer your question, or help you work through your problems and thoughts your having then the people that are most likely going to heckle you on here, because they have nothing better to do with their lives then make other people feel worse. Try this page. And please, call the number if your still having thoughts like that.

http://www.teachhotline.org/contact.htm

Answer 11

the best thing is to tell your parents because if you don't and he trys again and successe, you might never forgive yourself. that is not something you want to live with.  if you can't talk to your parents, find some one but you can't keep it to yourself

Answer 12

explain with great detail to your parents that you don't want attention .then tell them how you've been feeling lately if they, no matter what  reason they should understand and help you, just speak clearly .i had to do the same thing today and it turned out a lot easier then i thought it would .though my questions weren't anything like yours its still the same situation . Go Ask Them! also the brother ---rent a straight jacket or something.

Answer 13

You are doing the right thing about being worried.  If you are having worries about your dear brother tell your parents because they will know too.  It is better to be too worried than uncaring,

Answer 14

Talking about things helps to alleviate the issues inside. Find one person or a couple of people you can confide in. It doesn't have to be parents, but at least a good friend or two that you know won't turn around and tell someone. Or maybe there is an older lady at church or a pastor or something along those lines. It can be a tough time, and there are often really bad days. I can tell you from having been around so many depressed people in my life it isn't easy. My sister was very emotional and suicidal for years, I had a roommate in college that was depressed and wouldn't get out of bed, another friend tried to kill himself by shooting himself. Needless to say none of them succeeded in ever taking their lives. Well the first two never tried. And because of the first one, my sister, and the issues she was facing I didn't ever vocalize my frustrations. I didn't think it was alright to cry or feel, etc. So I didn't talk, and didn't talk for years. And 8 years later I have FINALLY let it all go. I would hate to see you go through the pain I had to. I didn't talk and it was extremely hard to get over all of those experiences. I wish I had known then what I know now. If you can't talk to someone, write letters to those people, don't send them but write letters, and then journal some more. You HAVE TO find a release somewhere. I hope that this helps. Talk, pray, ask, get angry (but watch what you do with the anger), scream if you have to, cry, laugh. Etc. It is all healthy and good. You are never alone in this even if the people closest to you aren't there.