I'm so sad,what can i do?

Question

i feel like my life is on hold i'm in iraq and have about 100 days left give or take and there is someone i want to be with but can;t cause he is back in the states and he knows how i feel and he feels the same,it just sucks the waiting and the worrying ,knowing there are alot of other girls after him and we are not married and he could be with who ever he wanted and right now all i have are words and i'm feeling depressed

Answer 1

You will do fine.  Believe me he will wait if it's meant to be.  Focus on your job and what's around you, you need to get home safe and sound.  I have been on many long deployments and I know how you feel, have faith.  Write letters, send e-mails and talk to your comrades keep your spirits up.  If you feel really down talk to the chaplain, that's what they are there for.  Good Luck and thank you for your service, your GREAT!!!

CPO US Navy

Answer 2

Worrying and being sad is not going to make the time go by any quicker. Make the most of each day....before you know it you will be back home. If the relationship is meant to be then it will happen.

Answer 3

tell him how you feel. you only have a few more days left and they'll go fast.

do what you have to do.

there are Plenty fish in the sea...

Answer 4

If you continue to think of all of the things you don't want, you will continue to get the same things.   Meaning, if you focus all of your attention on the bad/negative, you'll get more of it.  Power of attaction.  Think positive and it will come to you.

Answer 5

If you 2 are meant to be together it WILL work out.

I met my husband while he was in the military, there were a lot of woman after him, he had friends who were woman [stationed with him at that] and it worked out for us. We did the long distance thing + deployments for years. Just keep talking to him, be positive, make plans for a trip or to do something fun together when you get back. That is what he and I did and we will be married 4 years next month. Talk, write everyday and reman positive. Don't leave it to him to cheer you up and feel like he is carrying you emotionally - keep you chin up. If he goes with someone else than he is NOT the one for you.

Good luck and God Bless!  Email me if you want to chat.  

Answer 6

aww, that's so sad =[

but what branch are you in by the way?

Answer 7

wow,just think only 14 weeks

Answer 8

Keep your chin up. Pray about it and trust that God will work things out for the best if you trust him to do so.

Answer 9

You need to stop worrying.  Your imagination is getting the best of you.

First I would like to give you my appreciation for you and the others there risking your lives to keep our nation free.  Second you have healthcare while you are there, please go see a doctor and have them administer a shot of B-12 to you.  This is called the happy vitamin and it will help with the depression.  With all those men around you, heck go have some fun.  No one will blame you.  Good luck.

Answer 10

Part of your problem is that you are looking at the negatives in this relationship not the positives.  Why are you questioning him and being with whoever he wants, when he has obviously chosen you.  Yes he can be with other women, but you can easily be with other men.  And if he was going to cheat on you then he would do it if you are married and at home.  It doesn't matter if you are in the same house or 10,000 miles away when a person cheats they will cheat.  So stop looking at that, instead look at where this relationship can go.  You talk of marriage then start discussing what you want to do with your life after you come back.  If both of you have the same ideas of where you want to live, to do, etc... Focus on how far this relationship has come in your time apart, has it grown the way it should.  

If you don't look at the positives then this 100 days is going to take forever.  If you do look at the positives then it will fly by.  Or you can always count it as paydays instead of days.   You only have about 7 paydays before you see each other.  You only have 14 weeks as well.  That way it doesn't seem as bad.

Answer 11

Pray to God.  He will get you through it.

Answer 12

It's tough, we have all been there, kid. I have been on that road twice. Working more helps to pass the time. Patrol as much as possible, I guess that depends on your job though. Usually by the time I have been gone as long as you have I have let it all go. Worrying won't fix anything though, all it will do is distract you from what you need to be doing. If he isn't there waiting for you when you get back then he probably saved you some serious pain by not doing so. Either way, focus on the job at hand, your life isn't on hold. You're just on a slightly less traveled path. You will be alright.

Answer 13

Hang in there, I had to go through this three times.  If you have a strong relationship with him he will be there for you when you are done.  If you are feeling really bad talk to your friends or the chaplain.  Just think about it, in three months you will be back to the normal life.

Answer 14

Hang in there - what is 100 days compared to a lifetime.