I'm so scared about my mom right now.?

Question

So I was on my computer when I heard what sounded like crying in my mom's room. She was on the phone at that time. I know it's wrong, but I listened at the door to find out what was wrong. Then I heard her say that she has these terrible chest pains and that she suddenly sweats for no reason, has everything go blurry all of a sudden sometimes, and that she's feeling weak all the time to somebody but I think it was her friend or something because it sounded like it. What really scared me was that she was crying to the other person on the line that she was scared that when she went to sleep at night she wouldn't wake up and said that since my dad doesn't really care about me she was scared that nobody would take care of me if she died. She also said she went to the doctor but they just brushed it off without checking and said it was part of menopause or something. I'm really scared for her and I wonder if I should admit I was listening what to do about it.

Answer 1

Tell her you heard her crying and listened in. Tell her you love her and she has to see another dr. Tell her that often drs will assume a woman's problems are because of something hormonal and not look for signs of a heart attack. Tell her that she needs to call 911 the next time she has these symptoms. She shouldn't try to get to a hospital because there may not be time. An ambulance will have medications and equipment if she needs immediate care until she gets to a hospital.

They may be caused by hormones or some other problem that isn't life threatening  but her dr can't know that without running tests to make sure it isn't her heart.

Answer 2

I think you should tell your mom what you heard her say it will make you better ok good luck.

Answer 3

Tell her you heard and you are there to support her! Don't admit, this is not about admitting anything because you are not doing anything bad, just tell her you heard that (no need to explain how) and that she can count with your support.

Answer 4

dont be scared of her, she's just going through a rough patch in life (and most likely menopause...which is where your mom stops having periods, and have terrible mood swings and such), she's still your mom and obviously loves you, and theres nothing to be scared of.

try cheering her up (without making it too obvious that you heard her)

maybe make breakfast in bed, tell her  i love you, and just make her feel confortable.

Answer 5

yes tell her u heard. that way u can talk about it  

Answer 6

go and talk to her...thats the best thing to do [;)

Answer 7

Tell her that you couldn't help overhearing what was said. And gently talk to her about this, see if you both can go to a specialist and have her checked out.  

Answer 8

Just tell your mom that you over heard her on the phone because you were concerned about her.  you need to do something, in case she is really sick.  get her to go to the hospital as soon as possible.  maybe look up some signs online about menopause, if it is then it shouldn't be anything to worry about, but you should get it checked out anyways.  

Here are 35 symptoms of menopause it sounds like what she is going through is menopause, talk to her first and definately get it checked by the hospital, you dont want to take risks.

Hot flashes, flushes, night sweats and/or cold flashes, clammy feeling (see note)

Irregular heart beat

Irritability

Mood swings, sudden tears

Trouble sleeping through the night (with or without night sweats)

Irregular periods; shorter, lighter periods; heavier periods, flooding; phantom periods, shorter cycles, longer cycles

Loss of libido (see note)

Dry v****a (see note)

Crashing fatigue

Anxiety, feeling ill at ease

Feelings of dread, apprehension, doom (see note)

Difficulty concentrating, disorientation, mental confusion

Disturbing memory lapses

Incontinence, especially upon sneezing, laughing; urge incontinence (see note)

Itchy, crawly skin (see note)

Aching, sore joints, muscles and tendons (see note)

Increased tension in muscles

Breast tenderness

Headache change: increase or decrease

Gastrointestinal distress, indigestion, flatulence, gas pain, nausea

Sudden bouts of bloat

Depression (see note)

Exacerbation of existing conditions

Increase in allergies

Weight gain (see note)

Hair loss or thinning, head, pubic, or whole body; increase in facial hair

Dizziness, light-headedness, episodes of loss of balance

Changes in body odor

Electric shock sensation under the skin and in the head (see note)

Tingling in the extremities (see note)

Gum problems, increased bleeding

Burning tongue, burning roof of mouth, bad taste in mouth, change in breath odor

Osteoporosis (after several years)

Changes in fingernails: softer, crack or break easier

Tinnitus: ringing in ears, bells, 'whooshing,' buzzing etc. (see note)  

Answer 9

tell her you know. it might make her feel better talking 2 u about it. and i'm sure it really is menopause, because all the symptoms u just said is what my mom had when she first started menopause. so stay positive, and just talk 2 her.