I'm sorry but I was jsut watching Maury and this little girl didn't know who the father of her child was. she

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was 11 when she got pregnant. How does this even happen? I was still playing with barbies at 11 and didn't even think about boys or s*x. It worries me that my 7 year old might be sexually active in 4 years. I'd kick her butt. Is it society (t.v., movies) or a product of bad parenting??

Answer 1

Its a little bit of both, but if you raise your child to uphold herself to great standards she will be alright as far letting outside influence her life. Girls nowadays are raising themselves from TV and Hollywood. 11yr. old girls are out here trying to be grown. If they don't have positive role models in their life what else do they have to turn to. That's a sad case, but I'm glad that Maury brings things like this to the light. Why try to hide it when we all know that its out here. When we were growing up we had parents kids now have "franets"-friends/parents. You can't say to much of anything to them and if you do someone is saying that you are abusing them. Parents are in an iffy situation.

Answer 2

I have Dr. Phil on right now and he's talking about teens and s*x. It's a different world now than it was just 10 years ago. I think that it mostly has to do with the parents and less to do with what they see and hear on TV and in music. If a parent isn't around much, children look elsewhere for attention--girls especially do this if they have no father-figure in their lives. Unfortunately, a lot of the 'attention' they find includes the removal of clothing.

My step-daughter is 15 and is not sexually active. She has kissed, but that's it. She won't even allow a boy to "cop a feel", and we know this because we have a very open, close relationship with her where she knows she can ask questions and get real answers without having to worry about us getting angry with her or shunning her in any way. Sadly, not all teens have relationships like that with their parents, so they get their answers by "trying it out".

Answer 3

Maury is the problem.

Answer 4

It's both.

Answer 5

I think it is a little bit of both. I worry the same thing about my little sister, she looked like she was 16 when she was 12.  She is a perfect angel, though.  But not all girls are.  There are just some girls who rebel against their parents and want to be "s**y" and get guy's attention, even at that young of an age.  It's sad, because a lot of times these girls are looking for love, and they end up attracting the wrong kind of people, the kind of people you see on "To Catch a Predator" with Chris Hanson.  If you are worried about your daughter, talk to her.  Let her know that she can talk to you about anything.  If you have a close, trusting relationship with her, she will come to you for answers instead of listening to her peers, or learning from TV.

Answer 6

im with you on this one its really sad how this happens to kids now adays and people say its because they got raped or molested or whatever when they where younger yes it ups the statistics but not all molested children become sexually active at a young age it all goes on how their parents raised them. here's my experience i was raped when i was 7 but growing up i had bounderies and cerfew and stuff to keep me out of trouble. i was well i considered myself a virgin when until i was 18 when i got married i think it has alot to do with bad parenting though.

Answer 7

when i was in the 7th grade, there was a girl in my class who was preg. with her 2nd child. i would almost garuantee that there was no father in the home. this has a much bigger impact than some will give it credit for

Answer 8

its mostly parents fault they quiet happy to let their kids have boyfriends/girlfriends at early age then seem shocked when they start having s*x.also parents let their daughters act and dress like women very young what can you expect.

Answer 9

I dont think its bad parenting. I have a really strict dad who just recently took away my bed and my door because of bad grades. I have no privacy. Even though he is really strict, i still do alot of things im not supposed to do. All my brothers are like me too. When my bro was 14, my dad sent him to juvy and then out of state to a boarding school because of drugs. My other bro broke all the windows at a school and spray painted the wall when he was 15. Maybe we are like this because he is such a hard ***. I have no idea.

Answer 10

This is why I highly recommend some sort of character-building activity for girls such as the Girl Scouts or Bluebirds. Somewhere they will have fun but they will be learning leadership skills and how to be empowered when interacting with their peers.  Being involved in your daughter's life is important, but there will be a time when she won't share the details of her day the way she would with her peers.

Answer 11

girls are getting their periods earlier these days and their probably seeing things in their neighborhood they shouldn't. also bad unattentive parenting.