I'm sorta stuck and dont know what to do for my future? (details inside)?

Question

I'm 16 years old and I turn 17 in October. I've had a hard time in school my whole life and it really hit me in 6th grade where every kid judges you and teases you. When I hit 6th grade, it was right around the time I was going through puberty and I got fat. I think its heredity or something because my mom is fat and my dad is skinny so i'm like stuck in between.

So anyways, when I got into 6th grade, it was a big school and I wasnt used to all the kids at first. In PE class kids started picking on me because of my weight and how I dressed and how I had so many pimples on my face. I would go through this everyday and eventually I started getting paranoid and thinking everyone was staring at me and judging me. I ended up skipping alot of school because I was scared of being bullied and teased. I ended up failing 6th grade. I then went back to 6th grade and kids started teasing me again about my weight and that I looked too old to be in 6th grade. I ended up skipping a whole bunch of days and one day I skipped 2 weeks in a row. I had incomplete grades, all F's. The first year of 6th grade, when the first few weeks of school started, I got like all B's but then it stopped when I started skipping school (THIS WAS THE FIRST YEAR THE FIRST TIME IN 6th grade). In the second year of 6th grade I failed badly and would never do work or wouldnt turn it in. I ended up getting in trouble with truancy court for skipping and so on. I still had bad grades and they moved me up into 7th grade because of my age. I then suffered from anxiety and dreaded going to school. I dropped out at the ending of January and then went back to school next year in the fall to 8th grade. I still had anxiety and dreaded going to school thinking everyone was judging me. I dropped out of school in January once again because of the anxiety. Well last fall I started 9th grade and the first day of school I came home crying because of the anxiety, noone even looked at me or said anything, I still came home crying because of my anxiety. I wanted to get out of the anxiety, I thought I was retarded or something because I didnt know what was going on with me. So to end a long story short, I ended up dropping out 1 month later, the day before halloween. So now I just sit at home on my computer all day or I go out and mow my lawn. I recently bought a treadmill and I walk on it between 30-90 minutes a day, so far ive lost 30 pounds and I feel it and look it. But I still dont know what to do. I was thinking about enrolling myself into GED classes to study and get a GED. But I fear that I wont be smart enough to pass the GED test even with the help of the classes. I suck at tests badly! I dont think ive ever passed a test, excluding a spelling test LOL!

I sit and constantly worry about my future. I want to get my GED and go to college and take auto body technician classes or auto technician classes because thats the only thing im interested in and good at is working on cars, even though I dont own a car or drive yet, i'm still interested. I used to mess around on my friends dads cars.

I worry about getting a job because of my anxiety. Like I know once I get my GED i'll be happy as ever! But I worry about getting a job until I start a career in the automotive field. I know once I get my GED I will feel like I did something with my life and it will be a huge accomplishment for me. Im just so confused! I'm sorry about typing so much!! I just wanted to give you an outline about the past 4 years of my life and what its been like.

Should I have my parents call this number for GED classes and have them try to enroll me into some GED classes?

Answer 1

Resolve your issues from the past.

   Only then will your true life purpose come forward into view.

Dismiss this info, and suffer for another ten years, or listen, act and prosper therefrom.

Ball's in your court, skipper.

Answer 2

You still have potential and the good thing is you're still young! So, you should research local community colleges in your area. I'm not sure where you are. Look them up online and call the registration people to see if they can hook you up with an advisor. Then when you meet the advisor they can help you choose classes that are good for you and the interests you have. You might have to take an entry exam but those aren't normally too bad, there's often online help for those. But yeah, community colleges are great. They have high school completion courses, so you can do those classes that you missed, and they have general education like college level math, writing, etc... Also, normally the people are alot more accepting and mature.

Good luck pal! Let me know if you need anymore info. :o)  

Answer 3

Practice makes perfect.  Do a lot of math problems, become the math problem.  Math trains your brain so you don't do something dumb in the future, it trains your brain so you do something amazing in the future - so you make the right decisions.  I was picked on too, except I enrolled in martial arts when I was around 7th grade and by the time I was a sophomore in high school I was a 2nd degree black belt.  If anyone picks on me I just leave them alone because I know for a fact I am better than them.  I have amazing grades for a reason, it is because I practiced and studied.  What you have is a chain reaction, being fat led you to have anxiety and do bad in school.  Now that your thin, go to school and be amazing.

Answer 4

Firstly instead of skipping all of those classes you should have done something about it there and then, however now you are beginning to exercise - which is a great thing.  Its another positive step that you want to do your GED - are there any night classes that you can take or perhaps attend a different school?

If you like automobiles then check out any local courses that there are, the costs, where the courses are held and what qualifications that you need in order to enrol on those courses, then go back to school.  

It is difficult when people make you feel paranoid, however see a counsellor to find out what the warning signs are when you begin to feel this way about other people, and find ways to handle that situation so that you at least have a good solid foundation to build on when anxiety rears its ugly head.

You sound as though you have the right ideas, all you need to do now is to take some affirmative action and itll be sweet.  Good luck.

Answer 5

Wow, omg, I just recently graduated college, and have just about the exact same feelings and worries as you do!  I do have a job, but it it's only a temp so I've been actively searching for permanent work like crazy.  Job hunting process is taking a while for me.  I tend to be stuck and have no clue what the h**l I want to do with the rest of my life.  I'm at the age of 25, but feel like I'm 40 going through mid life crisis, lol.  I'm overwhelmed as **** right now!  But just remember persistence is the key, keep on keeping on and never give up, hun.    

You're 16, so you're at the legal age to drop out of school if you choose.  In your situation, it sounds like a GED is well worth your time.  See if you can take any classes to help you prepare for the exams.  Based on your hobbies, going to somewhere like ITT Tech Institute could be perfect for you.  And hey, if you can get your GED, you'll get somewhat of an early start on college.  I know things seem bleak and really bad for you right now, but trust me, you're still young with lots of potential, so yes there's light at the end of the tunnel for you, and yes this saying is a cliche, but it's so true.  Just have faith in yourself.  Right now is a rough patch, but you'll get through it.  It will all work out for you.  Remember--Don't give up!  I wish you the best of luck for your future.