I'm starting college later today, I'm so nervous! I won't have any friends to get me through it! Help!!!?

Question

Ok, this afternoon, I'm going to my college and starting my music/band camp. I'm meeting everyone, the director, teachers, fellow students, and I'm getting my music classes as well. My first official day doesn't start until next Wednesday, but today I will consider the first day.

I'm really nervous. My heart's pounding, and I feel like I'm going to die. This is what happened to me when I switched schools in the middle of high school. I'm naturally a shy person, I'll hide behind people with a book and an ipod to avoid contact with anyone. I can't help it, I don't do well around strangers. I won't make any friends, and I'll be invisible for months. I hate that feeling.

I guess I just want advice, what do I do as nervous as I am? How do I calm down without having a nervous breakdown? I feel like I'm going to die!

Answer 1

I'm pretty sure you won't die. But go to the college and just be yourself. Take slow deep breaths and remember to smile.

Answer 2

lol ! Just look around for someone nice who is obviously alone and friendless like you (I bet you won't be the only one) and go talk to that person. Ask him/her about the university or whatever. Good luck, I will start my college sophomore year August 25th.  

Answer 3

First off you will not die. College is the best, or one of the best experiences you will ever have. YOu will make your lifelong friends in college. I have a lot of friends from high school that i talk to, but honestly, you really grow up, and turn into an adult in college, and those friends understand you more.

Just be yourself, and don't sweat it. As one post already said, There are a lot of individuals who are feeling the same as you right now. Just don't lock yourself up, and make sure you socialize. The first month will be tough, but trust me it will all be good.  

Answer 4

More you talk to introduce yourself  more the friends talk to you

Then the nervousness goes far from you

Answer 5

You won't die, there are a lot of people feeling just like you do. You will make new friends. This is not middle school, things are very different. In a week you will feel very different.

Answer 6

It's completely normal for you to feel nervous on the first day of college - everyone does!

Never think that your shyness is a bad thing, in fact it can be seen as endearing! To calm yourself down, just take deep breathes and think good thoughts. Don't think negative thoughts like "I don't do well around strangers" because this will just make things worse.

Instead, think things like "I'm confident and great with strangers" just keep repeating this over and over to yourself and really BELIEVE it!

You WILL make friends. You don't have to be crazy bubbly or confident to make friends. Just be calm and be yourself. Introduce yourself to people, make an effort. Don't wait for people to come to you...you go to them! The more you introduce yourself to people and talk to them, the more confident you will become! Just be yourself and smile! You'll be making friends in no time!

Good Luck :)  

Answer 7

There are many people there feeling as you do. This is a music camp, which means you will be extremely busy and you can focus on the practicing, music, etc. until you become acquainted with people with whom you're thrown together. There is NOTHING WRONG with hiding behind a book and ipod for a little while until you feel grounded. In fact, I think it's adaptive to do that. Don't assume you'll be invisible for months. I seriously doubt it'll be the case. Just focus on the music for today.